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When should you go in for the goodnight kiss?
Nobody wants to be rejected. So how do you know when it's alright to go in for the first goodnight kiss? Well that's a very difficult call to make since every woman/man is different. As a male, I will tackle this topic from the perspective of the man.
Body language is a great way to tell if they're into you. Lets begin by looking at some of the things women do that show they're interested during the conversation:
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Playing with and/or twirling hair (this is a tough one and can be confused with a simple case of OCD)
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Raising their shoulders straight up and leaning towards you
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Hands are open with her palms facing up and outwards
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Lots of giggling
You know she's interterested…now what? It's time to go in for a kiss. Since she's in to you, there will be many opportunities throughout the night to make your move. If you wait until the last minute and hesitate (at the door or end of the date), you pretty much lost your chance. So be on the safe side and try to do it about midway through the date.
So what if you're not sure?
Just go for it! What's the worst that can happen…they say no? You have everything to gain and nothing to lose; you'll probably never see them again anyways.Here are three different approaches to the goodnight kiss:
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Silent: Making eye contact and then leaning in about 90% of the way
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Polite: Asking them if it's alright to give them a kiss
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Brave: Telling them that they have nice lips and asking if you could kiss them
You chicken out…now what?
Nothing. Opportunities come and go…it really comes down to the person and how they choose to handle the situation. Some people can care less, while others take it harder. But the worst is when you regret not going in for the kiss when you know you should have. It happens to us all…we meet someone we really hit it off with or maybe a friend we always had the biggest crush on but never the nerve to let them know. Before you know it they're gone; it's like clockwork, they either meet someone or move across the country. And in the end all you're left with are those two dreaded words, what if?
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(On July 13th, 2006 at 2:43 pm)
Funny story (well kinda scary!) about body language.
A few years ago when I worked in a factory in Joisey, my married coworker was planning a barbeque and she told me to go with her husband on his motorcycle (old BMW) to get the fresh vegetables as they had a few farms down the road.
There I was on the back of his bike, the helmut strap was choking me as we were riding so I jabbed him in the side and we stopped. After I adjusting my helmet he planted a kiss on my lips.
I was mortified. This guy was MARRIED to my COWORKER! I said, "Why the hell did you do THAT?!" He replied, "didn't you want me to? You were licking your lips…"
You bet I was licking my lips! And I could hardly breathe and I had all of this wind in my face, I had to lick my lips before I tried to even speak!
(So much for body language. And after that, I didn't hang out with them so I have No Clue if they are still married!)
Note: I personlly think it's a good idea if you ASK for a kiss
(On May 11th, 2007 at 3:36 pm)
well, im a girl (ovously) and if not sure if i should try to kiss him or not? cause usaully the guy kisses the girl…..but idk
(On January 29th, 2008 at 2:08 am)
Best way to decide on a whether or not to pursue a kiss is do something cheesy and see how she reacts. My sure-fire way? When you feel the time is right (After dinner, her doorstep, etc.) Tell her that the date should end on a sweet note and ask her if she wants a kiss. If she says yes, then your in and procede as planned. If she gives you a funny look or appears take aback, pull a Hershey's Kiss from your pocket and hand it to her. Bid her farewell and goodnight. Guranteed smile.