Comments on: Five Tips for Your First Date http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2006/07/05/five-tips-for-your-first-date/ Fri, 19 Mar 2010 16:09:07 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: mudpie http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2006/07/05/five-tips-for-your-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-18348 mudpie Mon, 14 Apr 2008 22:29:18 +0000 http://planjam.com/weblog/2006/07/05/five-tips-for-your-first-date/#comment-18348 Sex on the first date? Not if you eventually want a lasting relationship with the guy. Studies show that men take longer to bond in a relationship than women, and women tend to bond to men after having sex. It's pure biology. Oxytocin is the bonding hormone. Levels of Oxytocin increase in women after sex and after giving birth. Men don't generally experience a rise in Oxytocin levels until 3 months or so into a relationship. Sex on the first date? Not if you eventually want a lasting relationship with the guy. Studies show that men take longer to bond in a relationship than women, and women tend to bond to men after having sex. It's pure biology. Oxytocin is the bonding hormone. Levels of Oxytocin increase in women after sex and after giving birth. Men don't generally experience a rise in Oxytocin levels until 3 months or so into a relationship.

]]> By: Gretchen http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2006/07/05/five-tips-for-your-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-5863 Gretchen Tue, 26 Jun 2007 18:42:54 +0000 http://planjam.com/weblog/2006/07/05/five-tips-for-your-first-date/#comment-5863 I would say the tips are common sense, for me I have the dating thing down, but for people who are just getting back into the game I think these are simple strong things to remember, but overall each one of us must adopt our own unique dating style that works. I say have fun be yourself and be safe. I would say the tips are common sense, for me I have the dating thing down, but for people who are just getting back into the game I think these are simple strong things to remember, but overall each one of us must adopt our own unique dating style that works. I say have fun be yourself and be safe.

]]> By: Nana http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2006/07/05/five-tips-for-your-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-5774 Nana Sun, 24 Jun 2007 14:31:40 +0000 http://planjam.com/weblog/2006/07/05/five-tips-for-your-first-date/#comment-5774 How about a case of not having much time because you to just happened to be so into each other, on other level; not just chemistry. What i mean by not having much time because its a long distance relationship to come. Meaning you two dont live in the same State and next time you may see each other is in a very long time. Just a thought.....I've proven it to become more then just sex relationship. Too many time i experienced to be disapinted for takin my time with sex and too many times i seen my homegirls or guy friends get burned on that too, just because chemistry wasnt there at all. How about a case of not having much time because you to just happened to be so into each other, on other level; not just chemistry. What i mean by not having much time because its a long distance relationship to come. Meaning you two dont live in the same State and next time you may see each other is in a very long time. Just a thought…..I've proven it to become more then just sex relationship. Too many time i experienced to be disapinted for takin my time with sex and too many times i seen my homegirls or guy friends get burned on that too, just because chemistry wasnt there at all.

]]> By: Kyle http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2006/07/05/five-tips-for-your-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-5741 Kyle Sat, 23 Jun 2007 17:20:50 +0000 http://planjam.com/weblog/2006/07/05/five-tips-for-your-first-date/#comment-5741 Personally, I would wait before having sex. Especially if it's someone you think you may be serious about in the future. It's just so much better when you can look forward to it. Personally, I would wait before having sex. Especially if it's someone you think you may be serious about in the future.

It's just so much better when you can look forward to it.

]]> By: Nana http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2006/07/05/five-tips-for-your-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-5331 Nana Thu, 14 Jun 2007 07:55:56 +0000 http://planjam.com/weblog/2006/07/05/five-tips-for-your-first-date/#comment-5331 Question for a first daters.....who considers sex on a first date (even the very long and perfect date with a love at first sight) a wrong thing to do and will lead to disaster and disapointment? Question for a first daters…..who considers sex on a first date (even the very long and perfect date with a love at first sight) a wrong thing to do and will lead to disaster and disapointment?

]]> By: Ron Zvagelsky http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2006/07/05/five-tips-for-your-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-4449 Ron Zvagelsky Wed, 23 May 2007 04:01:13 +0000 http://planjam.com/weblog/2006/07/05/five-tips-for-your-first-date/#comment-4449 Hey Edith, I’m sorry that you find the advice sexist…I really tried to stay as neutral as possible. As far as the advice for men goes, I assume you felt that the chivalry was an issue, since the other tips were pretty much common sense. I’m sure that there are women out there who don’t want a guy to open the car door or fill up their glass of wine when it runs out, but I haven’t met too many of them. Chivalry is a sign of courtesy and it’s shouldn’t make the other party feel inferior or obligated to return the favor. If you find chivalry “sexist”, then you should make that clear to your date when you go out. Most women enjoy being treated with respect and I don’t see that changing with time. You may be beyond these traditional roles and I respect that. In my experience, women have always appreciated that I offer to pay and that I stand up when they excuse themselves from the table. And if I ever met a woman who got offended when I opened her car door, there wouldn’t be a second date. In the end, it comes down to how I think women should be treated…that’s all I can write about. Hey Edith,

I’m sorry that you find the advice sexist…I really tried to stay as neutral as possible. As far as the advice for men goes, I assume you felt that the chivalry was an issue, since the other tips were pretty much common sense. I’m sure that there are women out there who don’t want a guy to open the car door or fill up their glass of wine when it runs out, but I haven’t met too many of them.

Chivalry is a sign of courtesy and it’s shouldn’t make the other party feel inferior or obligated to return the favor. If you find chivalry “sexist”, then you should make that clear to your date when you go out. Most women enjoy being treated with respect and I don’t see that changing with time.

You may be beyond these traditional roles and I respect that. In my experience, women have always appreciated that I offer to pay and that I stand up when they excuse themselves from the table. And if I ever met a woman who got offended when I opened her car door, there wouldn’t be a second date. In the end, it comes down to how I think women should be treated…that’s all I can write about.

]]> By: Edith Warton http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2006/07/05/five-tips-for-your-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-4440 Edith Warton Wed, 23 May 2007 00:54:27 +0000 http://planjam.com/weblog/2006/07/05/five-tips-for-your-first-date/#comment-4440 This is a bunch of sexist crap. Men should be traditional, and women should be pleasing. Maybe this is good advice for the 1950s, but I think we're a bit beyond such rigid and ridiculous gender roles. This is a bunch of sexist crap. Men should be traditional, and women should be pleasing. Maybe this is good advice for the 1950s, but I think we're a bit beyond such rigid and ridiculous gender roles.

]]> By: esse http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2006/07/05/five-tips-for-your-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-3702 esse Sun, 06 May 2007 18:22:12 +0000 http://planjam.com/weblog/2006/07/05/five-tips-for-your-first-date/#comment-3702 great advice! thanks great advice! thanks

]]> By: KaRi from TPSradio http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2006/07/05/five-tips-for-your-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-7 KaRi from TPSradio Thu, 13 Jul 2006 14:57:59 +0000 http://planjam.com/weblog/2006/07/05/five-tips-for-your-first-date/#comment-7 GREAT tips! However if religious or political beliefs are important to you, maybe dating within a specific affiliation is a good foundation. (They say a good place to meet someone is at church, why not a political rally, where you are both on the same "side"). And ladies, watchout for TOO MUCH laughter (See PlanJam's blog entitles "The Kiss Goodnight" ie you might not want your date to mistake your giggling as a signal to kiss you. PS If you have both been drinking and you want to put a damper on that first kiss because you're just not quite sure you want to go there, you can always offer the joke, "What's the difference between a Dog and a Fox?" (Answer: 5 margaritas (or whatever you/he are drinking). HA! GREAT tips!

However if religious or political beliefs are important to you, maybe dating within a specific affiliation is a good foundation. (They say a good place to meet someone is at church, why not a political rally, where you are both on the same "side").

And ladies, watchout for TOO MUCH laughter (See PlanJam's blog entitles "The Kiss Goodnight" ie you might not want your date to mistake your giggling as a signal to kiss you.

PS If you have both been drinking and you want to put a damper on that first kiss because you're just not quite sure you want to go there, you can always offer the joke, "What's the difference between a Dog and a Fox?" (Answer: 5 margaritas (or whatever you/he are drinking). HA!

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