planning mode
dating scene
Meeting people can be a real challenge, especially in our fast-paced society. Looking for Mr. (or Mrs.) Right instead of Mr. Right Now can be extremely challenging. Before you become overwhelmed with frustration and decide to commit to a nunnery, try a few simple ideas first.
Get out of the house and look for events and activities that interest you. Ladies, do not look for a date at a drag strip unless you actually like NASCAR. Men, do not look for a date in a cooking class unless you fully intend on using some of those skills that you will be learning. Seek out places that match your interests – trying to change yourself can really backfire.
Many communities have health clubs for fitness fanatics or book clubs for avid readers. Find your niche. Local colleges and universities will often offer extended learning courses or free seminars. If you find one that interests you, don’t be afraid to go alone. It’s like a two-for-one –you may learn something and meet someone new!
As cliché as it may sound, try meeting people in church. Even if there does not appear to be any singles, little church-going older women are always looking for that special someone for their grandsons, nieces, etc. Never underestimate “word-of-mouth.” Who hasn’t been set up with a single friend of so and so? Maybe blind dates simply aren’t your thing- but at least you will be putting yourself out there!
Another great way to meet people is to place personal ads. These can be placed online or in newspapers. However, be careful. If you feel like you need to throw up a red flag, do so. That’s one of the joys of not knowing who you are meeting- they aren’t sure who may be standing them up.
Numerous websites feature chat rooms, personal ads, and individual photos of other members to help you find a date. Explore and browse but be careful. The computer may help you meet people but it can also provide a faceless chatroom conversation. It may be better to get outside your home, meet people, and have fun.
Notice that bars and nightclubs have not been mentioned. If you pick up a woman (or man) in a bar, what you see is entirely what you will end up with. Remember, they may not be there to find Mr. Right. That attractive girl at the end of the bar may only be looking for Mr. Right Now.
Be open to new possibilities but don’t pretend to be something that you are not. Enjoy who you are and maybe someone else will to.
