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Every once in a while a good guy slips through the cracks. Maybe you had a high school boyfriend that is always on your mind, or a fling from that summer you spent in London. Perhaps it is just your average, run of the mill ex, and you can no longer remember why you broke up. With a whole new crop of networking sites popping up, it seems like a lot of people are curious about whatever happened to the guy that got away.
If you are just dying to see if there are still sparks with a guy you dated in high school try joining the website Classmates.com After going through the basic registration, you can then do a search for your hometown and high-school. A quick scroll of former classmates is easy. Just brace yourself for your heart to beat like a fifteen year old. If you don’t see your Romeo listed you might see one of his old buddies. Try contacting them for more information. Don’t even bother pretending your inquiry is anything other than a move of a woman with a lingering crush. Most people will be flattered that you reached out.
Lost track of that hunk from your co-ed dorm in college? If he graduated in good standings your college alumni association can help you get back in touch. Some larger universities won’t just hand out address information but most of them will be glad to send a note to the last known address letting the hunk know that someone wishes to say hello.
Another easy way to get back in touch with someone that you lost track of is to do an internet search for him. If you know enough information, such as where they work, or even where they used to live, you can narrow the search. Try dialing the last known number you have, or sending a letter to the last address you have on an old holiday card.
Catching up with an old flame can be just as exciting as when you first started dating. It will take a while before that old, relaxed, familiarity is there, or it may never be as good as you remembered. Just as we are evolved versions of our fifteen year old self, our ex may not be as amazing as he was when he was the champion beer pounder at the kegger where you first met.
Seeking out information on an old flame has some repercussions. You have to ask yourself if you are ready to be rejected or interrogated. Not everyone that you lost track of necessarily wants to be found. What you remember as a tame, but fizzled affair, might have been more emotionally taxing for your ex.
Knowing how to let go is key. If you make contact and discover that your ex is happily with someone this is not the time to try to persuade him to come back to you. Or you may discover that your old flame is just as groovy as you remembered and that picking things up where you left off is just as wonderful as you had hoped it would be.
