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Chocolate, roses, diamonds, jewels, shoes, may be your first guess, but when it comes to what women really want there is really only one answer – affection.

Men have been scratching their heads for years in an attempt to figure out how the female mind works. They have searched through aisle after aisle looking for jewels, romantic cards, flowers, and lingerie trying to determine what will make the woman in their life happy. The answer is very simple, if you give women affection, everything else will fall into place.

For women, affection means hugs, kisses, holding hands, cuddling, snuggling, everything that is hands on that says, I love you. When a woman has the right amount of affection (and it does vary from woman to woman) she will be putty in your hands. Many men may mistakenly buy chocolate or roses, but neglect to present them with the essential hug or kiss of affection. This is actually counter-productive and lessens the impact of the gift. Women are not as materialistic as they may appear to be. Yes, they love gifts, presents, and surprises, but only when they are presented from an affectionate and adoring partner.

Many men often wonder why women seem to be less interested in sex as compared to men. The answer is to give a woman plenty of affection, and then the sex will follow. For women, affection is the equivalent of foreplay.

Women don’t easily jump from one role to another. For example, if a woman has been at work all day, then she has been acting in her professional role. When she returns home, she may have children to take care of, the mother role. If she doesn’t have children, she may just need some time to relax first. Sex may be the last thing on her mind. However, if her partner lavishes her with plenty of affection, her mood will change and she will shift from one role to another. Kind words, thoughtful acts, and plenty of physical affection are the key ingredients that compose a woman’s basic needs and desires from her partner.

Like men, the basic need of every woman is to be loved. When her partner lavishes her with affection, she understands that he loves her. Harsh words, arguments, and critical attitudes are quick to make a woman feel unloved. Her needs are met through gentleness, kindness, patience, and affection. It is a wise man that understands that his partner craves his affection and attention and deals patiently and lovingly with her.

When a woman feels that she is the apple of her man’s eye, she will in turn do everything she can to please him. The key is for men to understand that women long for affection, and then to assess how much affection their woman needs. There is a point where too much affection can stifle a woman and cause her to feel smothered, so make sure that you tread with caution. Just watch her response to your affectionate actions and then you will be able to properly evaluate how much affection she craves.