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When it comes to romance, everything hinges upon that first interaction. When you are first attracted to someone it may be something as simple as a gaze, or locking eyes that let’s you know there is plenty of chemistry between the two of you. But without ever having the opportunity to communicate, you may never find out if that person may be Mr. or Mrs. Right.

That is why it is vitally important that your first line of communication be one that is easily accepted, funny or humorous, or something that will make a lasting impression. One mistake that any woman can tell you that most men make, is that they try to use a sexual pick up line. This does not work with women and is an instant turn off.

What does work however, is to use a charming, sincere, and witty pick up line. Another area that is a quick turn off is to use a pick up line that sounds like a pick up line. Women want to hear a conversation starter, not a pick up line. So, make sure that you fine tune your pick up line and present it in a way that opens dialogue and is a form of communication, not a command that demeans the woman's character.

When you first meet a woman, unless you want a slap in the face, your pick up line should be complimentary in nature, not overtly sexual. Using sexually demeaning pick up lines when you first meet someone will rarely end in a lasting relationship. Here are the best pick up lines that you can use as conversation starters.

"Besides being gorgeous, what else do you do for a living?"

This is a great pick up line because it opens with a compliment and is then followed by a sincere question- what line of work are you in. Many men will be amazed at how well this line works. It is a two fold compliment, the first says that the woman is beautiful, the second that you are interested in her area of work, or her brains. Make sure you say it with a genuine and sincere smile and it will work like a charm.

"Heaven called, they said they’re missing an angel. No, seriously, where are you from?"

This pick up line plays on the heaven/angel theme - a very common topic used in pick up lines. But this one leads into a conversational topic. Often, people use pick up lines and then are left dumbfounded with nothing else to say. Always follow your pick up line with a question or a comment that elicits a response.

"Please thank your Mom for me," in return the girl will ask, "Why?" to which your respond, "For creating the most beautiful woman in the world."

This is a nice ice- breaker and can start a conversation flowing. Remember the point is to open up conversation, not say something crude that will make you look immature.

"I only have a minute before I must get back to my friends, but I wanted to introduce myself to you."

This line is more formal and old fashioned, but it takes the edge off. Most women tend to shy away from men who they think may become instant stalkers or who won’t leave if they aren’t interested in them. By letting her know from the beginning that you aren’t planning on monopolizing her time, she will be more receptive to your introduction and conversation.

"The only thing your body language isn’t telling me is your name."

This line is a bit more straightforward and should be used only when you are positive that you and the woman/man have made that first connection. It is another great starting point that leads into an introduction.

By using these pick up lines followed by conversation you can ensure that you will be one step closer to meeting the man or woman of your dreams.