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You never get a second chance to make a first impression. Therefore, what happens on a first date can set the course of your future. If you want to ensure that your first date is a hit and leads to a second, then you may want to curb your topic of conversation and stay away from some issues that are sure to stir up the waters of debate. Controversy is not a great subject for first date dinner discussions (unless both parties are members of a debate team) but even then, it would be better to stick with general and more pleasant dialogue. Here are some issues that should be avoided at all cost when on a first date.

Religious and political topics are great for ending a relationship before it ever has a chance to begin. If you are strongly religious, then you may want to narrow your dating choices to people of like faith. Trying to convert your date on the first encounter never leads to a positive outcome. Debating the differences between Muslims, Christians, and Jews are not generally recommended topic starters. If you have strong core religious or political beliefs, it is best to choose to date others with similar values. This is the best way to prevent any areas of conflict and prevent a disastrous evening experienced by both parties.

Let me say, this in no way means that people of different faiths or political convictions cannot be involved in a relationship together. If you are open minded and feel that you can enter into a dating relationship with someone of a different belief system, then obviously this advice isn’t for you. However, if you feel that you can only be in a relationship with someone who shares the same core values that you do, it is advisable to date people who already have similar values rather than try to “change” someone.

Talking about past relationships is a definite turn off. Your date should feel as if he or she is the most important person in the room, not the mysterious ex who broke your heart. If you feel compelled to talk about your ex on your date, it may be a sign that you are not ready for a new relationship. In fact, your date may recognize this and decline to go out with you a second time. Your date should be postive and avoid all talk of ex’s, divorces, or failed relationships.

Though it may seem easy to talk about current events or the news, these topics tend to bring the conversation to a negative place. There isn’t much positive in the news these days and your goal is to keep the conversation friendly and on a cheerful tone. Try discussing less heated topics, such as the restaurant you are dining at, the food they serve, places you like to go for entertainment, your family, what you are studying, or even your job. Remember to ask questions about your date and don’t just talk about yourself. By keeping the topic positive and upbeat, you can ensure that you will receive that second date.