Comments on: Keeping The Romance In Your Relationship http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2007/03/23/keeping-the-romance-in-your-relationship/ Fri, 19 Mar 2010 01:22:46 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Just another girl http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2007/03/23/keeping-the-romance-in-your-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-47395 Just another girl Thu, 21 Jan 2010 17:42:50 +0000 http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2007/03/23/keeping-the-romance-in-your-relationship/#comment-47395 I ran into this article b/c I feel like my boyfriend and I aren't as spontanious and affectionate as we once were. We don't kiss that much anymore (the only time we tounge kiss is when we're having sex) and I feel as though when we do kiss he can't wait to pull away. When I get close to him to hug him he always pulls away first after a few moments, and I mean a few. We used to hold each other and talk and kiss all of the time. Now I feel like he feels bothered by the fact that I want to be affectionate. Its making me feel that a-he tired of us b-his attention is being drawn else where (another woman) so he doesn't feel the spark anymore. We have had alot going on around the house and with our jobs so maybe he's preoccupied but how can you not think about SEX all of the TIME! In the beggingin he couldn't keep his hands off of me. He was romantic and made me feel so wanted and desired. Again, we barely kiss anymore (sorry pop kissing doesn't neccesarily get me going). I like to get intamite, even if it's just foreplay. Lately I feel like im initiating EVERYTHING. The other night I went to get comfy before sitting on the couch together to watch a sitcome and put a cute tanktop on with just my undies, grabbed a blanket and sat on the couch with him. He didn't even look my way, he didn't scoot closer or anything (HELLOOOOO im in my PANTIES)! I tried rubbin on his arm and neck and nothing. We proceeded to watch tv until I felt so uncomfortable (rejected) that I went put my pajama pants on and we went to sleep. What happend??.... I mentioned to him that I've been "missing" him and he said for me to speak up and tell him. Look sometimes I do, I have no shame on requesting sex but It's not a chore and I want some type of romance sometimes. I told him I will be a little more straight forward (he said he can't read between the lines)... but I don't want my sex life to be like that.... I like romance and I like feeling intamite. Just plain old having sex when it is requested takes all of the pasion and desire out of it (don't get me wrong, sometimes I like to get aggresive) but I feel like he doesnt want to be intamite with me anymore. Any thoughts, suggestions? What am I doing wrong? I ran into this article b/c I feel like my boyfriend and I aren't as spontanious and affectionate as we once were. We don't kiss that much anymore (the only time we tounge kiss is when we're having sex) and I feel as though when we do kiss he can't wait to pull away. When I get close to him to hug him he always pulls away first after a few moments, and I mean a few. We used to hold each other and talk and kiss all of the time. Now I feel like he feels bothered by the fact that I want to be affectionate. Its making me feel that a-he tired of us b-his attention is being drawn else where (another woman) so he doesn't feel the spark anymore.

We have had alot going on around the house and with our jobs so maybe he's preoccupied but how can you not think about SEX all of the TIME!

In the beggingin he couldn't keep his hands off of me. He was romantic and made me feel so wanted and desired. Again, we barely kiss anymore (sorry pop kissing doesn't neccesarily get me going).

I like to get intamite, even if it's just foreplay. Lately I feel like im initiating EVERYTHING. The other night I went to get comfy before sitting on the couch together to watch a sitcome and put a cute tanktop on with just my undies, grabbed a blanket and sat on the couch with him. He didn't even look my way, he didn't scoot closer or anything (HELLOOOOO im in my PANTIES)! I tried rubbin on his arm and neck and nothing. We proceeded to watch tv until I felt so uncomfortable (rejected) that I went put my pajama pants on and we went to sleep. What happend??….

I mentioned to him that I've been "missing" him and he said for me to speak up and tell him. Look sometimes I do, I have no shame on requesting sex but It's not a chore and I want some type of romance sometimes. I told him I will be a little more straight forward (he said he can't read between the lines)… but I don't want my sex life to be like that….

I like romance and I like feeling intamite. Just plain old having sex when it is requested takes all of the pasion and desire out of it (don't get me wrong, sometimes I like to get aggresive) but I feel like he doesnt want to be intamite with me anymore.

Any thoughts, suggestions? What am I doing wrong?

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