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Ethics - a set of moral values or principles; often based upon the difference between right and wrong.

When we discuss ethical dating, we are basically talking about morality and distinguishing between right and wrong behavior in a relationship. Ethics and dating pertains to a number of different areas. If you are dating within your faith, then ethics will play a large role based upon the common views that you share. Yet, what may be considered ethical for your relationship may not be applicable to another. However, no matter what your faith, gender, or orientation, there is one are that is simply unethical when dating - cheating.

Many people enter a relationship with the understanding that cheating is simply unethical and undesirable behavior. Yet for others, they may view dating as a time to play the field, to meet new people and try different experiences. In fact, the way they see it, they are dating and aren’t in a committed relationship, therefore they aren’t cheating; they are simply dating different people. Unfortunately, many people have different ideas as to when dating ends and a one-on-one relationship begins. Your best line of defense to ensure that you and your partner are on the same page regarding your relationship and expectations of each other is communication.

Though you may feel as if you have a right to date as many people as you choose, or if you don’t feel as if you ever made a commitment to date exclusively, without letting the other person know from the beginning your views, you are leaving room for misunderstandings to occur. Since this type of error in judgment could mean the end of a good relationship, it is imperative to enter into the dating scene on a level playing field.

Usually, on a first date, no one expects exclusivity. However, things may begin to get a bit hazy if you have been dating for several months. Things may begin to feel a bit more involved and without adequate communication, there could be trouble down the road. If one of the parties feels things are becoming serious and the other one doesn’t, they may become emotionally upset when they discover that their feelings are not being returned. To avoid any confusion, let your partner know whether or not you are continuing to see other people. If you feel that the other person seems to be developing stronger feelings then you are currently feeling, you should address that immediately. Talking with each other is the best method to prevent any unwanted situations from occurring.

Talking before hand regarding your expectations may seem as if it will put a damper on future romance, but in fact it will strengthen your relationship from the beginning. If you are not seeking an exclusive relationship and are planning on dating numerous people, or if you view dating as a fun social event, then let the other person know this from the beginning.

Some people don’t share this view, and look to dating as an interview for their potential life partner. Without proper communication, boundaries, and ground rules - both members may leave the relationship disappointed. However, simple communication may be enough to bridge any misunderstandings or confusion, while allowing a relationship to grow and flourish until both parties feel it is time to become exclusive.