Comments on: How To Get Over Your Ex http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2007/05/21/how-to-get-over-your-ex/ Sun, 21 Mar 2010 22:22:16 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: chelsea http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2007/05/21/how-to-get-over-your-ex/comment-page-2/#comment-42207 chelsea Mon, 17 Aug 2009 16:43:35 +0000 http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2007/05/21/how-to-get-over-your-ex/#comment-42207 Hi, Im Chelsea and im 16 years old.My boyfriend and i were together for about 2 years and we broke up last week. he broke up with me because he said that he was under to much pressure with me. so i found out that he was calling somebody the next day and today i found out he likes another girl. the worst part is that i go to school with him and hes in everyone of my classes but two. im so sad. i want to talk to him and he trys to be my friend but all it does is hurt me all the time.so pleasehelp me im so tired of being sad and mad and lonely. it hurst so bad.tell me what to do please...... Hi,
Im Chelsea and im 16 years old.My boyfriend and i were together for about 2 years and we broke up last week. he broke up with me because he said that he was under to much pressure with me. so i found out that he was calling somebody the next day and today i found out he likes another girl. the worst part is that i go to school with him and hes in everyone of my classes but two. im so sad. i want to talk to him and he trys to be my friend but all it does is hurt me all the time.so pleasehelp me im so tired of being sad and mad and lonely. it hurst so bad.tell me what to do please……

]]> By: CeCe http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2007/05/21/how-to-get-over-your-ex/comment-page-2/#comment-41333 CeCe Sat, 18 Jul 2009 18:15:49 +0000 http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2007/05/21/how-to-get-over-your-ex/#comment-41333 My boyfriend of 2 years somehow found himself in another relationship a month after we broke up and we also have a child together. I am so confused at this point because I had to find out from someone else and he was bragging about how happy he was on the internet. I am still very much in love with him and I haven't moved on whatsoever but I think he was only ever with me because I was carrying his child. He's not the type to rush into a realtionship so I think he was seeing this girl before we broke it off. Everyday is a struggle and my mornings are the worst of all. I thought we'd be together forever as a family, but I'm finding out that we were never meant to be. I can't give any advice because I'm in need of it. I just have to be strong for my child and move on with my life. It is EXTREMELY hard though. My boyfriend of 2 years somehow found himself in another relationship a month after we broke up and we also have a child together. I am so confused at this point because I had to find out from someone else and he was bragging about how happy he was on the internet. I am still very much in love with him and I haven't moved on whatsoever but I think he was only ever with me because I was carrying his child. He's not the type to rush into a realtionship so I think he was seeing this girl before we broke it off. Everyday is a struggle and my mornings are the worst of all. I thought we'd be together forever as a family, but I'm finding out that we were never meant to be. I can't give any advice because I'm in need of it. I just have to be strong for my child and move on with my life. It is EXTREMELY hard though.

]]> By: ejidiah gathinja http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2007/05/21/how-to-get-over-your-ex/comment-page-2/#comment-39204 ejidiah gathinja Tue, 02 Jun 2009 14:28:27 +0000 http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2007/05/21/how-to-get-over-your-ex/#comment-39204 it true when a man hurts you so baldly don't even entertain his friendship oz u will find your self with same feelings that what i did we broke up then we became friends you know what we started again having sex and this really affected me so much i couldn't get over it just to find that he had moved on with his life and he have a girl friend already do you know it hurt ed me badly more that before it true when a man hurts you so baldly don't even entertain his friendship oz u will find your self with same feelings that what i did we broke up then we became friends you know what we started again having sex and this really affected me so much i couldn't get over it just to find that he had moved on with his life and he have a girl friend already do you know it hurt ed me badly more that before

]]> By: Mary http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2007/05/21/how-to-get-over-your-ex/comment-page-2/#comment-35202 Mary Fri, 13 Mar 2009 17:37:30 +0000 http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2007/05/21/how-to-get-over-your-ex/#comment-35202 My exboyfriend is from a nother country but he has lived here for about 8 years now, but his brother and father were in cuba. He was waiting his father to get him the scolarship he needed to go to med school in cuba... but about a year ago we met and we fell madly in love with each other. With time, he realized the swiss gob. had to give him a lot of money, wich could work to study here... so he paid first semester of med school here. He went 3 times for like a month and a half to cuba while we were together, and those times i felt totally destroyed.... the last time, for christmas, right before the date he was suposed to come back for med school, he tells me that he´s going to stay in cuba, studying because there´s a big chance that the money wont be enough, and working is not a posibility for him. I yelled at him and broke up with him... he came like a month ago to get some things and i saw him, and talked a lot, went to his house several times... then he left to cuba, telling me that we was goig to figure out how to return because he wants to spend the rest of his life with me..... But i call him yesterday, and he tells me that right now he cant do anything because he cant leave the country and the only way is to get in a cheaper college here (wich is not easy and starts classes again until next year). That means.... i was suposed to wait if he really was coming back? to wait if he really got in that college? We were together for about 9 months, and i love him... still. I´m not going to have a distance relationship and he wont return if it´s not tha way he says so... my heart is so broken, and i dont know how to get over him! My exboyfriend is from a nother country but he has lived here for about 8 years now, but his brother and father were in cuba. He was waiting his father to get him the scolarship he needed to go to med school in cuba… but about a year ago we met and we fell madly in love with each other.
With time, he realized the swiss gob. had to give him a lot of money, wich could work to study here… so he paid first semester of med school here.
He went 3 times for like a month and a half to cuba while we were together, and those times i felt totally destroyed…. the last time, for christmas, right before the date he was suposed to come back for med school, he tells me that he´s going to stay in cuba, studying because there´s a big chance that the money wont be enough, and working is not a posibility for him.
I yelled at him and broke up with him… he came like a month ago to get some things and i saw him, and talked a lot, went to his house several times… then he left to cuba, telling me that we was goig to figure out how to return because he wants to spend the rest of his life with me…..
But i call him yesterday, and he tells me that right now he cant do anything because he cant leave the country and the only way is to get in a cheaper college here (wich is not easy and starts classes again until next year).
That means…. i was suposed to wait if he really was coming back? to wait if he really got in that college?
We were together for about 9 months, and i love him… still. I´m not going to have a distance relationship and he wont return if it´s not tha way he says so… my heart is so broken, and i dont know how to get over him!

]]> By: aussie_guy http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2007/05/21/how-to-get-over-your-ex/comment-page-2/#comment-35107 aussie_guy Wed, 11 Mar 2009 13:33:24 +0000 http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2007/05/21/how-to-get-over-your-ex/#comment-35107 I broke up with my girlfriend 4 wks ago from a 3 years relationship. We still seeing each other after we broke up as two people. I really want to move on but because we are always around each other its been difficult for me. I dont want to think that she still love me or not. Last night we went out for dinner, after dinner she kept asking me if I'm seeing anyone or not. At first it was okay but now its a bit annoyin now because I dont know why she kept asking me (in a joking way). I also cannot stop thinking about her with another man but I never ask her because I dont want to hear it not because its not my business. I feel better when I dont see her for a couple of days but if I spend time with her, I stil longing for her afterward. I really dont know what to do.. I broke up with my girlfriend 4 wks ago from a 3 years relationship. We still seeing each other after we broke up as two people. I really want to move on but because we are always around each other its been difficult for me. I dont want to think that she still love me or not. Last night we went out for dinner, after dinner she kept asking me if I'm seeing anyone or not. At first it was okay but now its a bit annoyin now because I dont know why she kept asking me (in a joking way). I also cannot stop thinking about her with another man but I never ask her because I dont want to hear it not because its not my business. I feel better when I dont see her for a couple of days but if I spend time with her, I stil longing for her afterward. I really dont know what to do..

]]> By: jellybean**** http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2007/05/21/how-to-get-over-your-ex/comment-page-2/#comment-34350 jellybean**** Mon, 16 Feb 2009 15:09:42 +0000 http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2007/05/21/how-to-get-over-your-ex/#comment-34350 Also in response to the above Andy, I really thin k you can do better she is messing you around,honestly life is too short... find yourself someone new, it will happen and you will wonder why you have spent all this time upset.. At least this is what everyone tells me< i know it is hard when you think you have found the one, but at the end of the day if they can dally with others so easily, they really dont know what they want least of all us. Evryone deserves someone who will love them and only them.. think on this, Hope you feel better soon. Also in response to the above Andy, I really thin k you can do better she is messing you around,honestly life is too short… find yourself someone new, it will happen and you will wonder why you have spent all this time upset.. At least this is what everyone tells me< i know it is hard when you think you have found the one, but at the end of the day if they can dally with others so easily, they really dont know what they want least of all us. Evryone deserves someone who will love them and only them.. think on this, Hope you feel better soon.

]]> By: jellybean**** http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2007/05/21/how-to-get-over-your-ex/comment-page-2/#comment-34349 jellybean**** Mon, 16 Feb 2009 15:01:59 +0000 http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2007/05/21/how-to-get-over-your-ex/#comment-34349 Thanks Dekkard for taking the trouble to write, I decided in the end there was nothing I could say or do anymore as he knew from my countless emails in the beginning how much I still loved him. I think he asked to meet me when he was feeling low as the next day when I said I would like to meet he said his heart wasnt in it anymore... He is now seeing yet another woman, so i guess I have no choice but to try and move on but it still hurts and I did really love him, I hadnt had a partner for many years and he knew what he meant to me but he seems to move from one to another, he is obviously hurting over his divorce and I just caught in the middle. I am not dating as I find it too upsetting as all I think of is him still, i just hope one day i can forget him as I know now I was just another woman in his long line. I still think of him when I wake and most of the day and it does hurt. one positive thing i will say though for anyone going through heartbrake I bought the Paul Mckenna book How to mend a broken heart and it has an accompanying cd and it does help I have listened to it everyday for last 3 weeks and I def have become more accepting of my situation, and my friends say i seem better than I did. x Thanks Dekkard for taking the trouble to write, I decided in the end there was nothing I could say or do anymore as he knew from my countless emails in the beginning how much I still loved him. I think he asked to meet me when he was feeling low as the next day when I said I would like to meet he said his heart wasnt in it anymore… He is now seeing yet another woman, so i guess I have no choice but to try and move on but it still hurts and I did really love him, I hadnt had a partner for many years and he knew what he meant to me but he seems to move from one to another, he is obviously hurting over his divorce and I just caught in the middle. I am not dating as I find it too upsetting as all I think of is him still, i just hope one day i can forget him as I know now I was just another woman in his long line. I still think of him when I wake and most of the day and it does hurt. one positive thing i will say though for anyone going through heartbrake I bought the Paul Mckenna book How to mend a broken heart and it has an accompanying cd and it does help I have listened to it everyday for last 3 weeks and I def have become more accepting of my situation, and my friends say i seem better than I did. x

]]> By: Andy http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2007/05/21/how-to-get-over-your-ex/comment-page-2/#comment-33987 Andy Mon, 09 Feb 2009 22:05:05 +0000 http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2007/05/21/how-to-get-over-your-ex/#comment-33987 I really need help on this one, I have moved on but it is hard and i have deled her facbook and i dont even txt her or ring her anymore, But i find this very weird after this weekend i have had I met the girl from the internet and at the time she was in hospitial. so i decided to met her,She lives miles away from me in the u.k and my friend told me to tread carfully, we met hugged and made arrangements to met again We spoke before we met for a few months online and i had gathered that had just lost her mum to natural causes.also she told me things i wont reveal on here that were sensitive and things she could not discuss, My family met her and we decided to spend christmas together and new year, But she never turned up for christmas.I was very hurt and when i called her she never took my calls and wen i texted her she never even txted back, But one night i contacted her on new years eve and a man answered the phone and told me i had the wrong number when it was the right number She came on facebook 2 days later saying she was robbed and beten up at a nightclub which i never beleived Then she kicked off on me saying i never kept in touch when i left her convisations on facebook and txted all the time, My friend seen i was totally depressed and even now i have lost all my confidence in finding a nice woman,Im feel worthless By the most annoying thing when i was drunk i thown her clothes out in the bin as i tried to get in touch and ask her could i met her to return her items and she just ignored me as usual. She ended up with another man i found out and i never bothered her again even though i still think about her day after day.until last saturday she come on my msn and accused me of trying to break up her new man with her and i have not been in touch,the she turned round and told me she still loved me, then following that one she got back in touch and told me her new man has died of a tumor and she is looking after his son he has left behind(the night after she said she was with another man and not the one who died)she flirts on msn with other men in front of me but it dont bother me. i am a reall nice man i treated her with respect and i tried to be friends and left her alone she is still playing games, whay do you think that is?is it bitterness or still feelings? I really need help on this one,

I have moved on but it is hard and i have deled her facbook and i dont even txt her or ring her anymore, But i find this very weird after this weekend i have had

I met the girl from the internet and at the time she was in hospitial. so i decided to met her,She lives miles away from me in the u.k and my friend told me to tread carfully, we met hugged and made arrangements to met again

We spoke before we met for a few months online and i had gathered that had just lost her mum to natural causes.also she told me things i wont reveal on here that were sensitive and things she could not discuss,

My family met her and we decided to spend christmas together and new year, But she never turned up for christmas.I was very hurt and when i called her she never took my calls and wen i texted her she never even txted back, But one night i contacted her on new years eve and a man answered the phone and told me i had the wrong number when it was the right number

She came on facebook 2 days later saying she was robbed and beten up at a nightclub which i never beleived
Then she kicked off on me saying i never kept in touch when i left her convisations on facebook and txted all the time,

My friend seen i was totally depressed and even now i have lost all my confidence in finding a nice woman,Im feel worthless

By the most annoying thing when i was drunk i thown her clothes out in the bin as i tried to get in touch and ask her could i met her to return her items and she just ignored me as usual. She ended up with another man i found out and i never bothered her again even though i still think about her day after day.until last saturday she come on my msn and accused me of trying to break up her new man with her and i have not been in touch,the she turned round and told me she still loved me,

then following that one she got back in touch and told me her new man has died of a tumor and she is looking after his son he has left behind(the night after she said she was with another man and not the one who died)she flirts on msn with other men in front of me but it dont bother me. i am a reall nice man i treated her with respect and i tried to be friends and left her alone she is still playing games, whay do you think that is?is it bitterness or still feelings?

]]> By: Dekkard http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2007/05/21/how-to-get-over-your-ex/comment-page-2/#comment-33454 Dekkard Sun, 01 Feb 2009 02:34:53 +0000 http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2007/05/21/how-to-get-over-your-ex/#comment-33454 Jellybean, I feel for you im also recovering from a bad break up. I read your story and i think you should meet with him one last time just to see how things go tell him how you feel if he rejects you then dont take it personal god has something planned for us all and he might not be apart of that plan but theres only one way to know. let me know how things go Jellybean,

I feel for you im also recovering from a bad break up. I read your story and i think you should meet with him one last time just to see how things go tell him how you feel if he rejects you then dont take it personal god has something planned for us all and he might not be apart of that plan but theres only one way to know. let me know how things go

]]> By: jellybean**** http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2007/05/21/how-to-get-over-your-ex/comment-page-2/#comment-33448 jellybean**** Sat, 31 Jan 2009 23:27:38 +0000 http://www.planjam.com/weblog/2007/05/21/how-to-get-over-your-ex/#comment-33448 Hi I split wih a guy 7 months ago and I still seem to be thinking about him everyday, I miss him and keep reliving all the promises we made each other, driving myself mad. I have tried emailing a few months ago saying i really wanted us to try again and that the odds had been stacked against us but he just said I wasnt what he wanted anymore. He seeemd so sure but to be fair he was getting over a divorce he had 4 relationships in past 2 years after his marriage break-up, amybe he was trying to recreate his homelife etc who knows. I would appreciate any advice as to how I can stop obsessing over himas it is making my life a misery. My mother was very ill for a long time and I was her sole carer and she died halfway through our 5 month relationship and as you can imagine it put an awful strain on us and he walked away, when i needed him most.He treated me very badly when we split and showed no compassion even though I really was distraught at losing my mum then him. Realistically i think I am mixing grief for my mum with loss of him its all a mudddle, and I just want to get through it. Ive tried dating other guys but always think of him and how he made me laugh and all the times he said we had a great future to look forward to. He did email some 4 months after we split and did admit he was wrong to make all the promisez he did and that he hadnt kept any of them and that he was sorry but he didnt say he wanted me back. Although he did say about meeting once to see how we felt, but I knew he had been seeing another lady and that she had finshed with him and he was feeling low so I said no as I didnt want to get hurt, however the next day i did say lets meet for a chat and he said no he didnt want to.. Im just bewildered.. any advice please?? Hi
I split wih a guy 7 months ago and I still seem to be thinking about him everyday, I miss him and keep reliving all the promises we made each other, driving myself mad. I have tried emailing a few months ago saying i really wanted us to try again and that the odds had been stacked against us but he just said I wasnt what he wanted anymore. He seeemd so sure but to be fair he was getting over a divorce he had 4 relationships in past 2 years after his marriage break-up, amybe he was trying to recreate his homelife etc who knows. I would appreciate any advice as to how I can stop obsessing over himas it is making my life a misery. My mother was very ill for a long time and I was her sole carer and she died halfway through our 5 month relationship and as you can imagine it put an awful strain on us and he walked away, when i needed him most.He treated me very badly when we split and showed no compassion even though I really was distraught at losing my mum then him. Realistically i think I am mixing grief for my mum with loss of him its all a mudddle, and I just want to get through it. Ive tried dating other guys but always think of him and how he made me laugh and all the times he said we had a great future to look forward to. He did email some 4 months after we split and did admit he was wrong to make all the promisez he did and that he hadnt kept any of them and that he was sorry but he didnt say he wanted me back. Although he did say about meeting once to see how we felt, but I knew he had been seeing another lady and that she had finshed with him and he was feeling low so I said no as I didnt want to get hurt, however the next day i did say lets meet for a chat and he said no he didnt want to.. Im just bewildered.. any advice please??

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