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Although the idea of hooking up has been around for years, this trend has really come a long way in our society. While hooking up doesn't have to encompass intercourse, it can include oral sex or any other sexual activity. Whatever it is, both men and women are affected differently by this behavior. As a result, make sure that you take the necessary precautions so that you will not end up hurt when it's over.
Often times, women feel attached and open themselves up to someone that just wants to hook up (this can happen to a guy as well). Whatever the case, be sure that you do not become brokenhearted because you failed to discuss the situation before it occurred. Communication is essential in the beginning stage of any type of relationship in one's life.
While hooking up can be a liberating experience for many, it may not be healthy for one's growing stages. It may teach you many things about what you enjoy and what you don't – as well as helping you gain self esteem. However, don’t’ allow these situations to define who you are. Don’t gain a reputation as someone that you're not simply because you decided to try something new. Go forth with respect for yourself as well as the others involved.
Hooking up may be a starting point for moving on with dating. It may allow some people to get close to others again and be intimate. To some, it's a mind distraction; to others, it’s simply a way to pass the time between relationships. Regardless, be sure that you understand the intentions of the other before embarking in this personal situation. This conversation could spare hurt feeling in the future.
(On January 2nd, 2009 at 4:07 am)
Hi Ron,
Good advice and I have to say this is a great website. I entered in to a casual relationship with a guy about 2 months ago as I thought that this was what I wanted. I didn't want to get involved seriously with anyone and this seemed like a good solution. Some company and sex when we both had the time and the desire without the commitment and hassles that usually accompany relationships. I no longer feel this way and I'm surprised I managed to fool myself into thinking that this was what I wanted as I thought I knew myself quite well. I have come to realise that it is practically impossible not to develop feelings for someone that you're intimate with. This happened with us. We both began to have feeling about each other that we didn't expect, which has made our situation complicated. I respect and care for this man I'm seeing so I thought it best for me to step back and think about things -So I told him I needed a month to myself to think things over and see how I feel about myself and if I wish to get involved with him. I have asked him to do the same because I want us both to be sure if we want to take things further. I don't know what will happen but I feel confident that I made the right decision and I'm going to think long and hard about it. Thank you for all the great advice on this site.