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There are certain times when your relationship just needs to breathe a little bit. You’re still interested in being with your partner, but things are either moving too fast or they need some space in order to work. This is not at all uncommon. Even though these situations don’t require a formal break up, you’ll still have to agree on an arrangement that will allow you to spend some time away from one another. Going through a "break" period is very difficult and it’s often a couples’ last resort. Although many won’t get through it, those who succeed will find that their relationship has become stronger than ever.

The best way to go about initiating a break is to just put everything out in the open. Both parties need to know where the relationship stands. By talking things over and figuring out which direction you need to take, you and your partner can be clear on what the future holds. A lack of communication is the main reason why people never come out of these "breaks" and the break essentially turns into a break up. In many cases, one party will interpret this request for time apart as an actual break up and their subsequent actions will likely end the relationship permanently.

If your partner initiated the break, make sure to give them as much time and space as they need. Many people make the potentially fatal mistake of holding on too tight or not allowing natural space to take place. This is a sure way to drive a spike into your relationship and it will only make things worse. Take your time, be optimistic, and continue to remind yourself that that this will only strengthen your relationship in the long run. In the mean time, enjoy your break from the realm of relationships and relax…just remember to follow the rules.