Compatibility is an important element in any relationship. From the time your eyes first meet until saying, "I do", the importance of compatibility cannot be overlooked. Compatibility is more than the essential "first attraction"; compatibility encompasses everything from physical prowess and attraction to personality types. I’m sure that you have heard it said, "Opposites attract" and though this is true, the saying may be better quoted as, "Opposites attract, but compatibility makes it last". Often times, a couple will find a number of reasons to begin a relationship, only to learn further down the road that they are incompatible; after this realization is made, the relationship subsequently ends.
It may be also said that compatibility coupled with change is the key ingredient to any successful relationship. It is unlikely that you will ever find someone that is 100% your perfect companion. If you are looking for someone that will meet your needs all of the time, you’re headed for disappointment. The key for any successful relationship is to ensure that you and your significant other are compatible in the main or most important elements of your relationship, and then have willingness to change or compromise in other areas that you find less important. It is impossible for two people to agree on every topic, subject, opinion, and belief. What makes a successful relationship is to have a common ground for the most important issues, and then a willingness to talk, communicate, and change to keep the relationship moving in a positive direction.
Taking your time in a relationship is one of the most important ways to determine how compatible you are together. The divorce rate is at an all time high, and part of this is due to couples rushing into relationships based upon the physical attraction they feel towards each other; yet not taking the time to learn who each person is on the inside. Compatibility is very important to ensuring that you and your partner have a solid foundation to build the rest of your relationship upon, but you both have to be in agreement of how you’ll handle the times when you don’t agree. Unfortunately, compatibility will have little bearing when both of you are standing on opposite sides of a subject, and make no mistake about it, no matter how many shared interests, likes, and opinions you hold, you will find something to disagree about.
Communication is just as important as compatibility when it comes to ensuring the success of your relationship. When you do find those times where you simply agree to disagree, learning how to communicate effectively with each other will have a tremendous impact on the outcome of your disagreement. Learning how to treat each other with respect, no matter how much you disagree is significantly important for maintaining a healthy and vital relationship. Though compatibility is of tremendous importance, it cannot be looked at as the main ingredient for creating successful and positive relationships. There is only one you. You are unique, special, and original. So is your partner. You may be compatible based upon certain shared beliefs, religious values, moral preferences, ethnic heritage, or physical attraction, but be certain you are not carbon copies of one another. You are two individuals with separate minds, and no matter how much you have in common, your minds will clash eventually. The key for a successful relationship is learning how to handle those collisions of individual thought when they occur.