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So, you've just had your first date and surprisingly, you had a wonderful time. Now, you are faced with a dilemma – when is it proper to call and ask for a second date. You may be surprised to find out that everyone has a different opinion for this very common dating question. The answer is simple really; you should call when you feel like it. If you had a wonderful time, and can't wait for a second date, there is nothing wrong with calling. However, if you are worried how they'll respond, you may want to consider how you call.

For example, say you had a great time, the date ended with a good night kiss, and the usual, "Let's do this again, sometime." However, you neglected to make any specific plans. In this situation, you may feel uncomfortable as to whether or not the other party is ready for a second date. Unfortunately, you will never know until you make that second call. So, it is imperative that your second call counts, especially if you are going to bypass everyone else's advice and call the next day, or even sooner.

As a general rule, you wouldn't want to call on the same night. However, if you simply can't wait until the morning without finding out how he or she feels about you, a little creativity can go a long way when it comes to the reason behind your phone call. If you want to call on the same night, (provided it isn't too late) then you can try coming up with some creative excuses for the reason for your call. Maybe there was a question asked during your date that you hadn't answered or possibly you came up with a better answer. A creative way to start your second call is to call with the purpose of answering that question. Or if you enjoyed a dinner together, maybe you could call and begin the conversation by commenting on your meal or thanking them for their company.

In today's world, there are so many forms of communication that many of the old etiquette rules simply don't apply. However, good etiquette is always in style. If your date ended past 11:00 P.M. you should wait until the next day before calling. Also, if you had a wonderful time, but you can tell from your date that they are unresponsive during your phone call, then you should read the signs and not call again. There is nothing worse then trying to make romance when there is no connection.

One of the best ways to determine if a second date is feasible is by making that phone call and asking if they would like to go out again. In fact, it is often the sheer volume of telephone calls that signal the beginning of a serious relationship; so don't hesitate in making that call. Just remember to be courteous and never call too late in the evening. If you call and get an answering machine leave a message, but don't continue to call. If you've left a message and he or she hasn't returned your call, then take that as a "not interested" and move on. By using proper etiquette and a little creativity behind the purpose of your call, you can feel confident about making that second call. Either way, you deserve to know if a second date is probable or not.