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dating scene
You’ve done it! You found the person of your dreams. You’ve never been happier; in fact, you think it might be love. Only there’s a little problem, your friends can’t stand him or her. There comes a time when everyone has to face this dilemma- true love or friendship. In fact, it seems that once a relationship becomes serious, friends immediately begin to raise flags of protest demanding that you stop seeing each other. It’s actually really simple – friends get jealous of the time and attentions spent away when one falls in love.
However, sometimes there is a different scenario. Sometimes friends and family members have valid reasons (extending beyond jealousy) that cause them to dislike your significant other. It is in these situations where your relationship will be tried and tested. When your friends have serious issues with your partner, you will undoubtedly need to make a decision. It can be a very difficult situation to be in when you have to choose between your partner and your friends.
In one aspect, you may respect the fact that your friends were honest enough to tell you how they feel. On the other side, you may just wish that they would keep their opinions to themselves. Ultimately, it comes down to the fact that who you date is your decision. If you really like him or her, then it will be your decision to determine whether or not you will pursue the relationship. There is no doubt that it will be awkward, but letting your friends make personal decisions for you is never a wise idea. Unfortunately, some people never learn how to make their own decisions and they miss out on wonderful opportunities in life. The point is this, maybe your friends have valid reasons for not liking your partner, however it is your life and any mistakes that you make will be yours. Therefore, let your decisions and mistakes be yours, not as the result of what someone else decided for you.
It is always good to have friends and family members around whose judgment we trust. However, it crosses a line when we let other people make decisions for us, especially when we want something different in life. It may be tough standing up to your friends and family members. If they really care about you, they will understand your feelings and respect your wishes to continue with your relationship. If your friends have a serious issue after you continue your relationship, you may want to really consider why they are acting that way. Your friends cannot live your life for you, nor should they try to. True friendship is standing back and letting your friends be whom they are. Whether you feel they are making the best decisions or not. You can give friendly advice and offer suggestions, but you should never try to push someone into making a decision just because you feel it is the best choice. If your friends are trying to push you into a decision that you aren’t ready for, or possibly don’t agree with, then you should stand your ground.
(On June 14th, 2008 at 9:46 pm)
Dont totally agree with this !
I feel that a TRUE friend will give an opinion and a true and accurate one of your new love interest.
A true friend knows you better then anyone else and can often see things that you dont.
Its not always jealousy that causes a friend to not like your new partner or disagree with your new relationship.
Its usually because they can forsee you getting hurt and want to stop it before you are too involved and end up broken hearted.
Take the advice of friends into consideration AT ALL TIMES, yes only YOURSELF can make that ultimate last decision HOWEVER love, lust and new relationships can often cause blindness and your close Friends will always see it for what it is.
THE TRUTH HURTS but its WELL WORTH KNOWING.