PlanJam!From your screen to the scene

Many people spend a lot of time preparing for a date. They take their time choosing where to go, what to wear, they even rehearse the topics of conversation for the evening, yet they often neglect to pay attention to the details concerning how they will end the date.

It’s easy to end a date that has gone sour. In fact, it seems that when on a bad date, all you can do is think of innovative and witty ways to end it. Emergency phone calls arise, sudden illness sets in, and one can quickly come up with a number of get away plans. Amazingly, books have been written on, "Bad Date Escapes", yet the subject is often overlooked when one actually enjoys themselves on their date and wants to leave in a courteous manner.

The first issue to consider is that if you enjoyed yourself and would like to have a second date, then you will need to end the date in a manner that will allow you to make easy contact. Make sure that you exchange phone numbers and have an open doorway for more communication. If you set up a time to call each other, you can prevent any discomfort regarding making the second phone call.

Also, some people find it is an uncomfortable situation, determining who will pay for the majority of the date. If you really want to make an impression, then you can plan to pay for the date in its entirety. However, if you aren’t prepared for paying every time, then you may want to discuss this beforehand. Taking care of this issue from the beginning can prevent your date from ending in an unpleasant manner. Many women still find it very flattering, for the man to pay for everything.

If you went out to a restaurant or another social event, then you should ensure that your date arrives home safely. It is a sign of a true gentleman to wait until a woman is safely inside her residence, before heading home. Also, forget what you’ve seen in the movies. Trying to get inside of her apartment after the first date isn’t a good idea. If you want to give your relationship a chance of succeeding, then move slowly and with respect. Treat her like a lady and give her the respect you would expect someone to give your sister.

Finally, don’t feel that you have to end every date with public displays of affection. It is very important to make sure that your date is comfortable with any physical activity. This is the most important area of your date, and is critical to ensuring that your next date will occur. It is always better to err on the side of caution, rather than make your date feel uncomfortable with too much aggressiveness. Typically, you can read the cues from your date and judge the level of physical activity they are prepared for. However, sometimes you may receive mixed signals. In this case, it is much better to politely and quietly end the date in a courteous manner and wait until you are sure that she is ready to take the relationship to a more physical level.