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You may have heard the old cliché; "Nice guys finish last" coupled with the thought that all women are interested in "bad boys" and wonder where that leaves you. Let's remove some of the mystery here; it really is unfair to the male species that have no idea if they should behave like James Dean or Ritchie Cunningham. The truth of the matter is that women want men who are nice to them, but know how to hold their own when they are around other males. More specifically, women want a man that is a "nice" guy when it comes to issues such as marriage, raising a family, treating a woman with respect, but they don't want to marry a man who is so "nice" that he acts like a wimp, or can't hold his own. They also want to know that a man is "tough enough" to protect their woman if she is in a dangerous or threatening situation.

There is an element to the "bad boy" that women like and are attracted to, but that element stops at the point of violence or breaking the law. Women want a man who is strong, this may be in the physical sense, but many women also appreciate a man who is strong in wit and has a brilliant mind. However, women are completely turned off by men that are so nice, that they are afraid to speak their mind for fear of offending other guys or worse, being pushed around or bullied.

No matter how strong or independent a woman is, she wants a man that is stronger and offers her protection and security. Yet, she depends on the man in her life to treasure her and hold her in such great esteem that he would never use his strength and direct it towards her. There is no greater blow to a woman's sense of security in a relationship then to be on the receiving side of her partner's anger or rage. Simply put, women want men that are tough with other men, but gentle with the woman that they love.

Many men mistakenly believe that if they are nice all the time, women will respond, and most do. Most women love to be treated by a man who knows how to take her out, shows common courtesy, opens doors for her, and picks up the tab. However, that courtesy must be tempered with male testosterone and the woman has to feel that she is with a strong dominant man, and not one of her girlfriends. As long as men can find the happy medium between treating their women with respect and maintaining their male status with the guys, you'll find that nice guys don't finish last. But the sniffling, withering wimps do. And as for men that are full of aggression, push women around, and don't know how to show kindness to women, they'll definitely finish last, or behind bars.

One way to show a woman that you are a genuine nice guy and win points with her is to treat your mother like gold. Most women have an understanding that the way a man treats his mother, is the way he'll treat his wife. If a man isn't nice to his mother, most women will see this as a sign that he is not to be trusted and won't make a good partner.