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If you’ve ever wondered what women are or aren’t attracted to, then you’re not alone. All men want to be attractive to women, and though beauty is in the eye of the beholder, there are definite things that all women find unappealing. If you’ve ever wanted to make sure that you identify all behaviors that women find offensive so that you can eradicate them from your life, then stay tuned. These tips will help ensure that you avoid common pitfalls that are sure to send women running in the other direction.
The first greatest turn off for women is men who aren’t well groomed. Women spend countless hours throughout their lives grooming, bleaching, waxing, scrubbing, buffing, and polishing. They expect men to at least devote a little time to ensuring that they look presentable as well. From body odor to a few stray hairs growing from nostrils and eyebrows, flaws in appearance are a great turn off. Stay clean, iron your clothes, and make sure that you devote time to your appearance. This not only keeps you looking great, but it also lets her know that you value her opinion of you.
Women are emotional creatures. It is simple fact, however whether the emotions are a result of a hormonal upset, a bad day at work, or simply waking up on the wrong side of the bed, women need to talk. One of the biggest turn offs for women is men that won’t or refuse to listen to women vent their feelings. Though it may seem over-dramatic or overbearing to men, who would rather crawl in a cave equipped only with a remote control and cool drink, women need men to listen and validate their feelings. If you want to make sure that your relationship works, and that you keep your woman interested in you, listen to what she has to say.
If you really want to ensure that a woman never has anything to do with you again, lie to her. Women are looking for men that are open, honest, and trustworthy. As soon as you prove otherwise, you have caused serious damage. If you want to keep your relationship healthy never lie to her. If you think you want to date other people, then break up and date other people. Don’t do it behind her back. At least if you handle things openly and honestly, there will always be a chance that you can get back together. A man who is caught cheating on a woman is sealing the fate of that relationship. Though they may try to pick up the pieces and move on, most women will never 100% trust a man after he has cheated on her.
By treating a woman with respect, care, and listening to her feelings you can ensure that she will not find you offensive. Make sure that you always demonstrate your self-confidence and have a positive attitude. Additionally, though a sense of humor is a great quality, men that act immature are a big turn off. Keep your playfulness under control and don’t mistake humor for childishness. With these tips, you’ll find that not only will you be more appealing to women, but your relationships will be stronger as well.
(On August 19th, 2007 at 8:09 pm)
This is a good post. I'll reference it at my blog http://www.adviceongirls.com.
Thanks for posting!
(On August 28th, 2007 at 12:35 pm)
Ive fallen hard for this girl I met about 4wks ago. I have took her on 3 dates already trying to win her heart but all she says is she wants to be friends. Its sooo hard for me because I have fallen for her big time. I asked her about becoming more than friends later on down the road and her answer is still the same. Any Ideas?
(On August 29th, 2007 at 2:53 pm)
This may be hard to hear, but life isn't like the movies. If she doesn't like you like that now, she won't later, no matter what you do. Please, move on.
(On September 20th, 2007 at 3:53 pm)
Just show her you don't care. Woman want you to care about them, they crave attention. If she dosen't come back, then its time to move on. I usually wait a week without contact then move on. on the good side, your lucky to get 3 dates.
(On July 15th, 2008 at 5:59 pm)
Go with the flow. Girls often get scared at first and feel that they have to "make a decision." Don't plan. FYI - The man I'm marrying after dating for 3 1/2 years I had no idea I would end up with. Started out as friends only and here we are! Happily ever after!If she holds out too long as a "friend" only, then move on.
(On July 15th, 2008 at 6:26 pm)
You've only been on 3 dates, good Lord Rome wasnt built in a day , and if she only wants to be friends, what the heck you can never have to many friends.
(On July 15th, 2008 at 9:23 pm)
Most of us have been down that road at one time or another. If she says she wants to be friends show some class and maturity and respect her wishes and move on. Who knows she might change her mind.
(On July 16th, 2008 at 2:21 am)
Keep saying it with FLOWERS. Then watch the results.
good luck
(On July 16th, 2008 at 3:37 am)
I think women want to know if someone else wants you, then they want you . I would just talk to her as a friend and continue to look for a woman to have a relationship with this may bring her around. Sometimes women look at you twice once anther woman has you!!!
(On October 14th, 2008 at 10:17 pm)
I would say move on…Most women don't feel comfortable at the point your at. All the "what she wants" stuff in the world doesnt matter unless one of the things she wants is you. So yeah shes probably pretty great but if its all ready on the table straight up and she's said straight up no…lets just say its more than a hint she doesnt want to get with you. Anyways good luck and just remember to be yourself.
(On October 29th, 2008 at 1:30 am)
@ Katie in response to eric. That's some of the best and worst advice i've ever heard. Sometimes you do have to learn to get over someone and learn to move on. But not always. My good friend went out with this beautiful woman on a first date and he felt a great connection. He really liked her and thought there might be something there when he received an e-mail from her saying that she had fun on the date but that it would be better if they were just friends. This e-mail required a short response that almost anyone would respond to "yeah we can be friends" or "I understand where you're coming from." Something simple that lets them know that you understand, but my friend didn't reply. One week passed and she sent him another e-mail asking if he still wanted to be friends. He didn't reply. After a week and a half she sent another e-mail saying that she had a great time and maybe she got a little scared, maybe she rushed into saying she just wanted to be friends. After two weeks she asked him if he wanted to go on a date over e-mail. Miracle? No.
(On March 19th, 2009 at 8:36 pm)
Appreciate the info guys, thanks
(On March 20th, 2009 at 6:09 am)
Its like the song sung by Bonnie Raite
"You can't make me love you" Have you ever had someone that liked you a lot and you did not appreciate the attention and wished that they would move on. Well its your turn in the box. You know its probbly nothing you did or did not do i's just her. Just respect it and maybe she wil com around on her own.
(On March 24th, 2009 at 8:42 pm)
I just want to add on bob's comment which i completey agree with! Only thing is i learned how to grab her attention 1st throught conversation maybe, or simply asking something like this article indicates. I learned how to disengage the most intimate moments and women somehow love that. I hate knowing this!
(On April 2nd, 2009 at 7:00 pm)
Honestly everything you wrote, is pretty true. I'm a chick myself. And men that smell honestly turn me off and make me wanna like…. ughh. I don't even know but good advice.
(On April 17th, 2009 at 9:22 am)
I agree with Chris, when a woman wants to break up, she has reasons and they may not be that good. If she wants two weeks away give her two weeks away to make up her mind. Communicate that you are a man by not showing how upset that you really are. In the mean time find other women to talk to filling in the void. It works. If/when she returns,
if she complains about things, get answers to them. Don't keep taking shots in the dark.
(On May 13th, 2009 at 9:00 pm)
I just have one question Eric; When you finally get it and dump this chick who just wants to be "friends" - how long do you think your 'new girlfriend' will allow you to be "friends" with another women?? That's right-she won't allow it at all! Move on man!