PlanJam!From your screen to the scene

When it comes to dating, everyone wants to be practiced at the art of flirting. Flirting is a great way to break the ice and ensure that you meet the person that you are interested in. Whether you are male or female, are new to the dating scene, or are a dating pro, learning how to be a great flirt can help you overcome many obstacles. Flirting can also help ensure that when you are interested in someone, you have an open door for communication.

The first tip to successful flirting is knowing how and when to use your eyes. Eyes are very powerful and with a look, you can let a potential love interest know that you are interested. In fact, one of the simplest ways to flirt is to make eye contact. Whether you are in a library, on the subway, or in a club making eye contact with the person you are interested in is a great way to let them know how you feel. When making eye contact, it is recommended to try to hold his or her gaze for at least four seconds. You don’t want to appear rude or act as if you are blatantly staring at someone; this will have a negative effect and won’t accomplish your goal.

The object is to catch their gaze, lock eyes for a brief period of time, then give a smile, nod, or look away. After you successfully lock gazes, you should attempt to make eye contact again. It’s on the second eye connection that your flirting will either be a hit or miss. If on the second attempt, you find that there is no significant response, move on to another target. However, if your interest meets your gaze and gives a friendly response, relax, your flirting is a success.

Smiling is the second step in being a great flirt. Smiling lets the other party know that not only are you friendly, but you like what you are looking at. It means that you are open, pleasant, and find the other person delightful. When you make eye contact the second time, make sure to smile and see if he or she returns your smile. If so, you can rest assured your flirting may soon lead to a nice conversation.

Your body language is a powerful flirting device. One way to use your body when flirting is to make sure that you seem open. Folding your arms in front of your chest and leaning backwards away from someone indicates that you are not interested or are closing yourself off from another person. These are not good strategies to use when flirting. Instead, stand in a way where you are more inviting or open. You can rest against a wall, place one hand on your hip, or if you are in a conversation with the target of your flirting strategies, lean forward and gently place your hand on his or her arm. These movements signify that you are interested in them and are open to closer communication. By incorporating these techniques you will soon master the art of flirting.