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It may come as a surprise, but many short men date tall women. In fact, there are a number of celebrities that are 5'7 and under. A few in particular include Al Pacino, David Spade, Tom Cruise, Michael J. Fox, Emilio Estevez, Dustin Hoffman, Seth Green, Martin Sheen, and Prince (who is 5'2). Despite being short, it would seem that they defy the adage that tall women aren't attracted to shorter men. When it comes down to choosing a mate, height isn't one of the most important factors. Many women choose to date men that are shorter than them. Being short doesn't mean that you have lost your sense of style or appeal. In fact, all of these men are known for their style, good looks, and ability to attract beautiful tall women.
If you're thinking, "Well that's great for them, they're celebrities, " think again. You don't need to be a celebrity to attract tall women, no matter what your height, you can attract beautiful tall women. First there are a few tricks that you can use to enhance your looks and help give you a few inches of height, as well as steps you may take to ensure that your personality is much larger than your physical stature. You'll find that by taking these tips into account, you'll have no problem attracting taller woman, who will see you for the person that you truly are.
First, you can take some steps to address your physical height. Wearing boots that have a thick heel can give you several inches of height immediately. Just make sure that you are comfortable in whatever footwear that you choose. Also, wearing shirts, jackets, or suits that have vertical stripes will give you the appearance of added height. Pinstripes, though subtle will work in this capacity. Also, solid colors tend to add length as opposed to mixing several colors or prints. When wearing suits, use solid colors with pinstripes and save a splash of color for your tie or shirt.
Thick belts with audacious buckles may look great on cowboys, but they'll detract from your height and draw attention to your middle. It's a good idea to select thin solid color belts that aren't the focal point of your outfit. In addition, it is a good idea to work out regularly. By staying in shape and adding muscle to your frame, you can enhance the very best of your features and ensure that you have a lot to offer a woman, physically.
Also, make sure that you aren't slouching and are always practicing good posture. Good posture will go a long way to help give you the appearance of height. Always stand straight with your shoulders squared. That will ensure that you are making the very most out of your physical stature.
Along with the physical steps that you can take, one personality trait that you can use to attract tall women is a sense of humor. You don't have to go out and get a night job at your local comedy club, but by using humor and staying upbeat and positive, you'll find that more women will be attracted to you, no matter what your height.
(On January 31st, 2008 at 5:51 pm)
There is some very good advice in this article. I, myself am 5'4" and have been with my girlfriend for 3 years now who is 5'10". Many short guys like to dwell on the fact that they're short, but honestly no one really cares….its all in our heads.
(On February 27th, 2008 at 9:24 pm)
I'm 5'7 and I have been dating my girlfriend for over a year and she 6'1. She is taller than a lot of men. She used to model and can be dating any tall guy she wants and pick me. So you don't have to be tall to date an atractive women.
(On April 17th, 2008 at 10:57 am)
so I'm 5'9 and my boyfriend is 5'6 or so, which isn't much of a difference, but it's noticable.
(On June 3rd, 2008 at 3:01 am)
It really doesn't matter.Its what you feel for each other that makes relationships work.You may have a tall or short man who disrespects you will it matter then if he's tall or short.Tall men have been dating short women for ages and its 'Ok'.If a short man dates a tall woman its not?Thats just b.s.Am 5'7 and my girlfriend is 5'10 and you know what,she says all her life shes never met someone who treats her good like i do.and i know i respect her for who she is and we are both happy…so being superficial never helps and it actually kils relationships whether you think of tall,short,fat,skinny…hey just be happy coz deep down our hearts its what matters
(On August 17th, 2008 at 3:12 am)
My girlfriend is 2 inches taller than me but we are just crazy about eachother. =) So it's not always that taller women don't like shorter men. Actually quite many taller women than me have been interested in me, I don't know why. So in the end it's just a problem for many others outside of our relationship but that's not a problem for us. =)
(On November 10th, 2008 at 1:35 am)
I have actually dated a girl who was 6'1" (I'm 5'9".) It was fine and I never got negative feedback and most people thought it was cool. I'm going for a 6'3" volleyball player soon, she's goregeous but I'm going for it like it's nothing. A lot of taller women seem to be ignored as men are intimidated by their height.
(On December 4th, 2008 at 10:27 pm)
I have always had a hard time dating taller women. Being 5'7" is tough. I have asked out boatloads of women my height and taller and have never been able to date someone taller or my height. Its very discouraging.
(On February 1st, 2009 at 4:30 am)
My girlfriend is taller than me by 2 inches.Initially i felt awkward but now its ok cz our love for each other matters at the end of the day.she sacrificed wearing heels just in sake of me.
(On April 13th, 2009 at 2:37 pm)
"When it comes down to choosing a mate, height isn't one of the most important factors. Many women choose to date men that are shorter than them."
I'm sorry, while it's nice to hear about the exceptions, this is statement, is quite catagorically incorrect.
I recently joined a large and respected internet dating site, not because I'm short (although at 5'6" I could be classified as such) but because I work from home and simply don't get meet enough people.
It wasn't until I'd filled in my details and conducted a search that I had the issue of my height thrust in my face: In expressing their preferences, the women on this site almost without exception, didn't care about hair colour, eye colour, salary or ethnic origin. What had they bothered to express a preference for? That their date should be 5'8" or taller. This in their most basic critera, a fact that means my profile will not even show up when they search for suitable matches. The statistical evidence is in this case quite undeniable.
Of course most people advise that women are more interested in personallity that looks in the long run, and giving the benefit of the doubt, I'll accept that, but the "long run" rarely even happens if a womens initial filtering critera have ruled one out as possibility before you've effectively even met.
And finally, my experience on this dating site matches my experience of real life. A friend, thinking I lacked the confidence or social skills to introduce myself to a woman in a bar or at a party tried to help by saying 'catch their eye first, smile, move in to intriduce yourself'. He just didn't get that was exactly what I was already doing, but the opportunities he found whenever he went out rarely presented themselves to me because that glance, smile or move was invariably met by an obvious getsure of disinterest – turning away, choosing that moment to strike up a conversation with someone else etc. The reality is that we as a species, not just women, really are that superficial and cliched in the first instance.
(On April 25th, 2009 at 9:35 am)
The advice is great and surely encouraging…
I used to date a girl who was 4 inches taller than me, all was fine until she would regularly take the piss out of my height infront of my mates.
If she was having a drink at a bar, she would used my head to keep her glass (like she was putting it on a table),if I said anything – she would rest her chin on top of my head…
But after reading the above – I feel encouraged to re-start dating tall women again….
(On June 28th, 2009 at 7:23 am)
i am 5'5 my wife is 6'4. no problems. guesswho the boss is?
(On July 14th, 2009 at 1:55 pm)
I have been chatting with a woman that is 6' 1" and I'm only 5' 5"
We have gotten to know each other for the people we are inside and we have gotten along great.
Not only the height but age wise she is 37 and I'm 54.
Neither our height or age difference is a matter of concern to either of us.
I a couple of weeks we will finally meet for 5 days of fun and we are both looking very much forward to it.
Size,age and looks should come second to matching great personalities and a humourous outlook in life.
Knowing your partner so well that you can pretty well finish their sentence before they do.
(On July 18th, 2009 at 10:20 am)
There is nothing a shorter guy could do to make him more attractive to me. He could be good looking, fit, successful, 'endowed', etc. but if he isn't at least 5'10", forget it. There's no point in wasting my time with someone I know isn't right for me. Like me and my friends say…..Life is too short to date short men!
(On July 24th, 2009 at 7:51 pm)
Well Lynne I'm glad my girlfriend doesn't share your views.
She is quite happy with me being just the way I am.
(On July 29th, 2009 at 9:38 am)
I just started dating a guy 1-2" shorter than me (my last guy was 6'3" and I'm 5'6") so this is kinda new, but I have to say- he is fantastic. There are so many awful, cocky, think they are "God's gift" men out there- so a sweet smile, and some chivalry really goes a long way. Trust me- women are sick of being treated like a piece of meat! Who cares about a few inches?? I'm happy to throw out my heels!!
(On August 13th, 2009 at 5:12 pm)
Well I finally met my new girlfriend for 5 fun days of camping and the results were fantastic.
We are both deeply in love and I just make it over her shoulders in height.
But there is no problem at all.
When we sleep together she lies in a way that she can cuddle her head right up against my chest and you would think she was shorter than me.
We both share a huge amount of the same traits and we are so much alike it's really scary.
It's like we've known each other for years.
All I can say is if we stereotyped each other, like a lot of people do, and didn't see past the height and size differences, we would have missed a wonderful opportunity for love.
My partner is 37,6'1" and about 220 lbs and I'm 54,5'5" and 135 lbs but everyone that met us those 5 days could see the love and affection for each other in our eyes and in our interaction with each other.
So much for going along with what most of the world considers normal.
(On October 1st, 2009 at 4:27 pm)
C has a valid point.
I think it's good to have a realistic view on the topic. Height DOES matters, but it isn't everything and there are certainly other traits that plug into the equation. It matters in the sense that a lot of people (probably most) do feel more comfortable in the traditional taller men, shorter women roles.
If you're trying to meet people online, or in bars, physical attraction is probably the first hurdle you have to get over and people have zones, standards, comfortable ideas that they use to quickly sort out their decisions. Being short, is traditionally a disadvantage.
This can be applied to any trait though. Are you overweight, or not? Are you bald or not? Are you good looking or not? However, if you keep dwelling on things like this and you begin to eliminating people from the "potentials" pool before you even start looking – you're just doing yourself a disfavor.
Another thing to keep in mind is EVERYONE has their insecurities. It's not just you and X quality and no one is perfect. So be more confident in the good qualities you have because that in my experience weighs in much heavier.
That said, there are certainly enough people who are comfortable with the converse situation and you can obviously have healthy, happy relationships regardless of height (or weight, or whatever.)
I'm 5'4" and I used to have a hang up when I was younger. However, after gaining more experience and changing my attitude, I've had a good amount of success dating all sorts of women. In the end, you have to be comfortable with yourself.
(On October 29th, 2009 at 1:30 pm)
I am 5'7 female dating a 5'4 male. I have never been so happy in my life. The only reason women have this setback is society…that it doesn't look right. Seriously that is the lamest thing. Everything about him is perfect….the love, the sex etc. If you are confident about yourself then you wouldn't let a height thing get in the way.
(On November 8th, 2009 at 7:31 pm)
I'm a 26 year old woman and I'm 5'10. I've dated guys who were 5'6 and 5'7 and I've dated guys who were 6'6 and 6'8. To me, if a man is attractive to me, confident, funny, and smart….then height isn't THAT much of a big deal. I've found that I do not like to date guys that care about my height. The men I've dated who were shorter than me didn't care and never even brought it up. It showed they were confident and secure, and that is more attractive than a guy an inch taller than me who is uncomfortable with how tall I am.
(On November 27th, 2009 at 11:31 pm)
I had a bad experience with a short man very aggressive to me and never wanted another one until recently. I met a great and goodlooking young guy of 28y 5'3 small built. I am 45y and 5'7 – I had to get thru three hurdles, age, shortness and small frame. He is sexy, and charming and I am glad he never gave up on me, after 2 years! I was one of those women who would never give a short/young man a second glance, but he taught me there is more to a real man than just height – I guess Big things come in small package.
(On December 28th, 2009 at 9:44 pm)
One woman told me who was about 5'6 said that she doesn't like dating short men because she has to bend down when they kiss. I think that is the dummiest thing I ever heard. I mean. . .seriously.. .you are going to let bending discourage you from kissing. I am 5'4 and although I have never dated a woman who is taller than me, I wouldn't care. She could be seven feet for all I care as long as she is nice and appealing. Women have this ideal tall man.. . It is disguisting to be that shallow.
(On January 4th, 2010 at 10:35 pm)
to the short men (from a 5'11 woman): NEVER wear shoes with heels or lifts! short is sexy and wearing those types of shoes makes you look insecure about your height. embrace it! there are few things sexier than a short man confident enough to wear flat loafers or sneakers and stylish clothes. yum!
LL! that is exactly how i feel! i'm 5'11 and my boyfriend is 5'6. he encourages me to wear heels! my ex-boyfriend is 6'2 and he would get so angry when i wore my 4 inch heels, because i was taller than him in them. i have found that taller men are often more uncomfortable with my height than shorter men are (no offense to beautiful tall men!).
i've always been attracted to shorter men, ever since i can remember! the shorter man/taller woman combo is iconic! it is rockstar and supermodel. i feel so confident and sexy with my gorgeous, shorter boyfriend. not only are we perfect for each other in mind and soul, but our height difference is just so damn hot!
(On January 14th, 2010 at 8:36 pm)
I am a 5'5 man and think that it is stupid for men to be on here whining about how shallow it is for women to consider height. As men, we are much more shallow than women will ever be. Height matters, but confidence is a much more important trait. Being a short male, may give you difficulties in the dating world, but those difficulties can be overcome with self-confidence. Confidence is the sexiest male trait, and it just so happens to be that taller men are generally more confident.
(On January 16th, 2010 at 6:48 pm)
Lynne, have you even dated someone below 5'10"? What an incredibly churlish thing to say. Good luck dating with that attitude.
(On March 17th, 2010 at 12:07 am)
i'm dating a guy who is about 2 inches shorter than me right now. He's fucking beautiful. He's incredibly sexy, confidant and a great dresser. He's dark, handsome, has a great job, confidant, emotionally healthy, compliments me all the time, opens doors for me, takes me on really great dates, we like the same movies and music. He's fabulous. I feel lucky. Short guys who feel sorry for themselves are setting themselves up for failure. This guy is a catch. A catch is a catch. A positive attitude, sense of humor, confidence and perseverence are rare traits to find in a person. This guy is a total catch and it has nothing to do with his height. I like making out with him cause we're the same height and it physically brings us closer together. If we ever end up having sex, I think it will be fabulous because our height will just set us up for even closer intimacy not to mention the physical advantages of sex with someone close to your height. i'm so satisfied with him that I really don't care if people make dumb comments. By beginning to date a not-so-tall man, I feel like I've opened up this gold mine unrealized to other insecure females giving me quite an edge in finding a quality man.
(On March 17th, 2010 at 12:09 am)
if he's not insecure with my height in front of people, I'm not insecure with his. we're sexy.
(On March 30th, 2010 at 9:42 pm)
One refreshing thing about this article is that the tips here aren't just for short guys/taller women, but basically just good tips to have no matter what height. Good posture, good fashion, work out, etc.
And also, be yourself too, which is the gist of the last paragraph.
(On April 3rd, 2010 at 5:26 pm)
I am falling in love with a man 5" shorter than me. He is a great dresser, well built, is quite handsome.
I was really wary of what people would think to start with, but he is so confident and friendly and funny that it only takes a few moments for anyone to see how this "mismatched" coupling happened.
If you are a short guy and want to find a tall woman, show off your personality! Dressing nice and wearing awesome cologne doesn't hurt though *wink*
(On April 13th, 2010 at 9:25 pm)
Wow! This article along with the comments are great. I feel like I have truly missed out on a whole genre of men due to my avoidance of shorter men. I had a date tonight with a guy a few inches shorter than me and I had a blast. His personality rocks and he makes me laugh constantly. Short men RULE!
(On May 12th, 2010 at 2:26 am)
Most famous men are short in stature…. Napoleon to Sachin Tendulkar, short is always sweet….it really do not matter if you love persists.
(On May 26th, 2010 at 11:01 am)
I m 6'1 and usually wear 4-5inch heels when going outside . I dated a boy who is 5'2. It was very difficult for him to handle me. I tested him and he failed in everthing. I took of his clothes and told to stand infront of the mirror and i stood beside him wearing heels .he stood below my breasts. I asked him whether he matches me in any way he said yes and married him .now he is crying everyday .i m superior to him and dominating him even in sex he is like a slave to me. He is afraid of me. Every one laughes at him and he is staying at home. What made him to face this situation is HEIGHT
(On August 16th, 2010 at 2:34 pm)
I never dated a man shorter than me til recently. My boyfriend is 2 inches shorter than me and I love him! He's so sweet and really affectionate. In comparison to the other tall, thick men I've dated in the past I would be crazy to let him go. Great kisser, cuddler and helps around the house.
I'll take a short man that treats me well over a tall jerk any day.
(On September 1st, 2010 at 10:42 pm)
I'm dating a 5'6 and I'm 5'11. At the very beginning, I was afraid what people would think of our height difference and so I was ashamed. I did the mistake on telling him that and now that I don't mind our height difference anymore HE is the one having a big probleme with it. Because I once said it was embarassing, now he thinks about it everytime we're together and I really, really don't mind it anymore. I try telling him that it's no big deal, but it became a issue for him.
It's nice to read that other guys don't mind being shorter than their girlfriend. I'll make him read your comments so that he feels better