Comments on: Short Men Tall Order: Tips For Dating Taller Women

By: kathy

kathy — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 07:09:31 +0000

if he's not insecure with my height in front of people, I'm not insecure with his. we're sexy.

By: kathy

kathy — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 07:07:58 +0000

i'm dating a guy who is about 2 inches shorter than me right now. He's fucking beautiful. He's incredibly sexy, confidant and a great dresser. He's dark, handsome, has a great job, confidant, emotionally healthy, compliments me all the time, opens doors for me, takes me on really great dates, we like the same movies and music. He's fabulous. I feel lucky. Short guys who feel sorry for themselves are setting themselves up for failure. This guy is a catch. A catch is a catch. A positive attitude, sense of humor, confidence and perseverence are rare traits to find in a person. This guy is a total catch and it has nothing to do with his height. I like making out with him cause we're the same height and it physically brings us closer together. If we ever end up having sex, I think it will be fabulous because our height will just set us up for even closer intimacy not to mention the physical advantages of sex with someone close to your height. i'm so satisfied with him that I really don't care if people make dumb comments. By beginning to date a not-so-tall man, I feel like I've opened up this gold mine unrealized to other insecure females giving me quite an edge in finding a quality man.

By: Jonny

Jonny — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 01:48:26 +0000

Lynne, have you even dated someone below 5'10"? What an incredibly churlish thing to say. Good luck dating with that attitude.

By: Mikey

Mikey — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 03:36:35 +0000

I am a 5'5 man and think that it is stupid for men to be on here whining about how shallow it is for women to consider height. As men, we are much more shallow than women will ever be. Height matters, but confidence is a much more important trait. Being a short male, may give you difficulties in the dating world, but those difficulties can be overcome with self-confidence. Confidence is the sexiest male trait, and it just so happens to be that taller men are generally more confident.

By: laddybyrd

laddybyrd — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 05:35:48 +0000

to the short men (from a 5'11 woman): NEVER wear shoes with heels or lifts! short is sexy and wearing those types of shoes makes you look insecure about your height. embrace it! there are few things sexier than a short man confident enough to wear flat loafers or sneakers and stylish clothes. yum!

LL! that is exactly how i feel! i'm 5'11 and my boyfriend is 5'6. he encourages me to wear heels! my ex-boyfriend is 6'2 and he would get so angry when i wore my 4 inch heels, because i was taller than him in them. i have found that taller men are often more uncomfortable with my height than shorter men are (no offense to beautiful tall men!).

i've always been attracted to shorter men, ever since i can remember! the shorter man/taller woman combo is iconic! it is rockstar and supermodel. i feel so confident and sexy with my gorgeous, shorter boyfriend. not only are we perfect for each other in mind and soul, but our height difference is just so damn hot!

By: Ike Matthews

Ike Matthews — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 04:44:30 +0000

One woman told me who was about 5'6 said that she doesn't like dating short men because she has to bend down when they kiss. I think that is the dummiest thing I ever heard. I mean. . .seriously.. .you are going to let bending discourage you from kissing. I am 5'4 and although I have never dated a woman who is taller than me, I wouldn't care. She could be seven feet for all I care as long as she is nice and appealing. Women have this ideal tall man.. . It is disguisting to be that shallow.

By: openeyes

openeyes — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 06:31:23 +0000

I had a bad experience with a short man very aggressive to me and never wanted another one until recently. I met a great and goodlooking young guy of 28y 5'3 small built. I am 45y and 5'7 – I had to get thru three hurdles, age, shortness and small frame. He is sexy, and charming and I am glad he never gave up on me, after 2 years! I was one of those women who would never give a short/young man a second glance, but he taught me there is more to a real man than just height – I guess Big things come in small package.

By: LL

LL — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 02:31:46 +0000

I'm a 26 year old woman and I'm 5'10. I've dated guys who were 5'6 and 5'7 and I've dated guys who were 6'6 and 6'8. To me, if a man is attractive to me, confident, funny, and smart….then height isn't THAT much of a big deal. I've found that I do not like to date guys that care about my height. The men I've dated who were shorter than me didn't care and never even brought it up. It showed they were confident and secure, and that is more attractive than a guy an inch taller than me who is uncomfortable with how tall I am.

By: JC

JC — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 20:30:09 +0000

I am 5'7 female dating a 5'4 male. I have never been so happy in my life. The only reason women have this setback is society…that it doesn't look right. Seriously that is the lamest thing. Everything about him is perfect….the love, the sex etc. If you are confident about yourself then you wouldn't let a height thing get in the way.

By: Cambridge

Cambridge — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 23:27:01 +0000

C has a valid point.

I think it's good to have a realistic view on the topic. Height DOES matters, but it isn't everything and there are certainly other traits that plug into the equation. It matters in the sense that a lot of people (probably most) do feel more comfortable in the traditional taller men, shorter women roles.

If you're trying to meet people online, or in bars, physical attraction is probably the first hurdle you have to get over and people have zones, standards, comfortable ideas that they use to quickly sort out their decisions. Being short, is traditionally a disadvantage.

This can be applied to any trait though. Are you overweight, or not? Are you bald or not? Are you good looking or not? However, if you keep dwelling on things like this and you begin to eliminating people from the "potentials" pool before you even start looking – you're just doing yourself a disfavor.

Another thing to keep in mind is EVERYONE has their insecurities. It's not just you and X quality and no one is perfect. So be more confident in the good qualities you have because that in my experience weighs in much heavier.

That said, there are certainly enough people who are comfortable with the converse situation and you can obviously have healthy, happy relationships regardless of height (or weight, or whatever.)

I'm 5'4" and I used to have a hang up when I was younger. However, after gaining more experience and changing my attitude, I've had a good amount of success dating all sorts of women. In the end, you have to be comfortable with yourself.