Comments on: The Pros & Cons of Dating Older Men / Women

By: ashley

ashley — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 20:04:12 +0000

Im in the same situation as you, Ann. Im 18 years old and I've been talking to this guy thats 31, for about a year now.He has a four year old daughter, and I really like him, I think I may even love him, but just yesterday, he went off on me about telling somebody him and I talk. idk if hes embarrassed or ashamed about it, but now hes not talking to me. idk what to do? should i continue talking to him or should i move on and maybe find somebody my own age?

By: Ann

Ann — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 17:21:34 +0000

I am 18 and have always been with older guys but just recently I met someone 34 going on 35 and we are just being friends but I feel that it may lead to something more. He has two sons 4 & 6 and although they do not live with him he is very involved with them. I like the kids very much and he is a great guy but I am afraid of what my parents will say think and do if they find out I am hanging out with a 34 year old man. Not to mention if the relationship goes anywhere. After all I do still live with my parents! What do I do?

By: Susie

Susie — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 18:05:32 +0000

Hi. I'm currently in a relationship with a guy who's 29 years older than me. I think, age is just a number. We're dealing well with each other. We talk and disagree just like any other couple. Just because we look odd together doesn't mean that there's anything wrong in our relationship. The most important thing is respect and keep on loving each other. However, people do change. If it's time to go, then, just go. Don't play around with each other's feelings. It will only make things worse.

By: Whitney

Whitney — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 07:31:37 +0000

Hi, im dating a guy 20 years older then me and we've been dating for 1 1/2 yrs and he started to say he loved me and i feel the same way about him but after a month or so he seems uncomfortable to say he loves me i still say it but he only says it back maybe 1/2 the time am i pushing him to much or does he seem to regret saying it?

By: Valerie

Valerie — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 03:20:47 +0000

Hey Kelly, i have a question, what do your family and friends say about the age difference? I am just on the verge of making the decision if I should just listen to myself b/c me is what really counts, but idk about the family. thank you

By: Charisse

Charisse — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 00:04:58 +0000

Hi Kelly,

I think the best thing to do is discuss the differences with him. Have you let him know how you feel? I would also ask him what is it that's taking him out of the mood. Maybe he is really tired at the end of the day or something. If it's something like a question of timing, then I'm sure you both can come up with a compromise. I think the first step is in finding out what's making him lose interest. Once you find that out, you can work on the solution.

By: Kelly

Kelly — Wed, 30 Jan 2008 21:08:19 +0000

My boyfriend and I have an 18 year age gap. I really love him, and things are great except for the fact that I have the libido of a 21 year old, and he no longer does. We used to have sex all the time, but one day he asked me if something had happened to me and if thats the only way I feel close to him (both answers are no). Now, i just feel guilty when I'm in the mood. How can I get our libidos more in sync without one of us having hurt feelings?