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So, he or she has finally called! The endless hours monitoring the phone, the handful of calls to the phone company to make sure that the network connection has not been interrupted by some random freak accident, and the minor burn from the super glue on your hand to make sure you didn't miss 'the call' seems to have all paid off! You got the call, you did the little hallelujah dance and then continued to modestly answer the phone with a nonchalant 'Hello?' Now what?
Well, for those lucky ones who chat until the wee hours of the morning and got to ask the famous high-school talk-fest question "are you asleep?" – Congrats! For the others, the confused, the perplexed individuals – Listen up.
It's hard to say what to feel. The overwhelming sense of relief, the excitement and the reeling question of 'what took you so long' seem to have clouded your judgment on your true emotions. You can almost make out the shape of it, but you're not really certain what it is. It's like Christmas morning, the small scarlet red box with the glitzy gold ribbon waiting to be opened. Oh the days you had hoped for x-ray vision…sitting and staring under that Christmas tree. Now that the time had finally come to unwrap the present, you freeze with a sense of anxiety swelling up in your chest. An uncertainty of whether or not it would be what you thought it to be takes over; is it the darling pink sapphire earrings that you both saw at the antique store in Savannah? Or could it be the cheesy, worthless, polished, speckled stone with words engraved to incite positive feelings, like love, harmony and imagine?
Like most anticipated call-omplishments, there is always an uncomfortable review session that follows the click of the receiver. Perhaps, the person was slightly boring and you realized he said the word 'like' way too much for a straight man. Perhaps, she brought up that 'acting thingy' that your friend was producing in the spring and left you feeling marginally used. Whatever the emotions felt, I certainly encourage those of you to embrace them. Do not let your true emotions get entangled and unrecognizable in the excitement of your slight telephonic victory.
What I'm trying to say is that sometimes what we wait for so long may not end up to be what we really wanted in the first place? Sometimes the waiting lends a hearty amount of value to the person that, maybe they don't deserve. And if you are like me, you may end up commencing a relationship with someone because you waited so darn long and it feels that you've earned something, even if it is a mediocre guy/girl.
If this is the case in your post-call, take time to assess your true feelings. Feelings of happiness from actually getting the call should not be mistaken for feelings of love or intense like. Be honest with yourselves and remind yourself that you deserve someone as great as you are!
Courtesy: jeani

