Comments on: Celibacy Dating – An Oxymoron?

By: Monica Payne

Monica Payne — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 16:17:23 +0000

I'm a christian black woman (45) and have been celibate since 12/20/1997, that's when I left my husband for one episode of domestic violence. However, I have gone on dates off and on over the 12 years. Once I tell my dates that I'm celibate until marriage, my dates don't stick around very long.There are many days and nights that I cry. Sometimes I cry myself to sleep. Not because I miss having sex, it's because they all say the same things to me (white and Black men) When they meet me, My God you are so beautiful, why do you choose to be celibate and how they really would like to get to know me better. I treat men with dignity and respect and is very kind and nice to them. When they really realize that I was telling the truth–No sex. I get left with having feelings for them and unrealized dreams. I want to get married and definitely want to make love again. I know that celibacy is right for me and will continue to remain so until marriage. But I'm tired of not being the one chosen for a wife. I'm succesful, mentally stable, physically fit with a career that earns over 100K/yearly, and own a very large home.–All true, I just don't know what is the matter?

By: Mimi

Mimi — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 09:42:32 +0000

Congratulations to all of you brave women (and men who might be reading this). I've been struggling with my attempt to celibacy for many years. I've failed a couple of times, and when I gave in, that's when I got cheated on, etc. So I've realized that men respect you and love you much more when you stick to your values and are pure! Once you encourage immorality, there's like a spiral and they start to wonder even more. Don't give yourself away until you're married and you trust the person 100%! That's my plan.

By: Krystal Esco

Krystal Esco — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 08:59:30 +0000

I have just decided to clean up what I messed up. I am a person who enjoy sex, but always end up with just sex partners. I am looking for more out of a relationship. So with that said My New Year's resolution is to become celibate. I am very serious about this choice that I have made. To do better in my new lifestyle I have been on websites trying to figure out how to go about this. The do's and don'ts of celibacy. My goal in this new lifesytle is to gain self controll and find my life partner, and the father of my future kids.I have told family members and like yours, my family laugh at me and said let's see how long this will last. That makes me want to do it that much more. So here's to 2010 and celibacy.

By: louise lewis

louise lewis — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 15:25:32 +0000

I came on this to view other peoples ideas on celibacy. I have been celibate 3yrs after a series of bad relationships. Now I fully appreciate God's intentions and guidlines for dating. I have just met up with an old boyfriend and I have just told him that I am celibate. He can't understand my christian faith and why I slept with other men 3yrs ago. I feel pressured and feel that this relationship is coming to an end. All because I have put God first in my life and I also want a long meaningfull relationship plus no sex before marriage. I must also point out that I enjoy sex, I am not a prude like my friends are makingout.

By: geogia peach

geogia peach — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 21:27:25 +0000

I AGREE WITH YOU A MILLION TIMES.

By: AJ

AJ — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 20:15:15 +0000

Hi! I have been celibate since the 12/30/08. Since then I have been asked out several times and realize that most men just want sex because I am upfront about my celibacy before we even go out. Most guys scoff at the idea of celibacy! I find it to be a useful tool to prevent my time from being wasted and weeding out the bad apples,jerks and players. I feel it's GOD's way of giving me discernment. My promise to GOD is celibacy until marriage! I praise GOD for enlightening my spirit and giving me the courage and confidence to love HIM first and love self and heal my heart from sexual ludeness and promiscuity! Thank GOD! If I sound arrogant, I"ll be that because it's what the Lord wants for me! Stay encouraged and be blessed!!!