Comments on: Possessive Partners

By: Yoli

Yoli — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 20:59:44 +0000

I have read all the above articles and it is very true.I have been dating some one for 1yr half.At 1st.it was cute then not so cute. Being accused of doing things hurts! I have told him,You have a problem and he admits his issues. But it does not change it will not change he is who he is and my love for myself has kicked in. No matter how much I love him he does nt know how to love because love does not hurt,accuse, puts down,or controls.. Just remember always to love your self because no one else can do it for you.

By: rachael

rachael — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 18:18:00 +0000

This man is escalating and it won't stop until you walk away. Completely away. Nothing you can ever do or say will help him with his insecurities. They all stem from within him so he is the only one who can mend them. It sounds like you logically already know these things but you have to emotionally except them. It's a hard thing to do, but it seems like it's your only option at this point if you want to lead a happy life. Don't believe his crying and apologizes, it just suckers you back in. Good luck to you and just stay strong.

By: Rose

Rose — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 13:40:50 +0000

My boyfriend was also Mr. Perfect from the beginning of our relationship. After one month of dating, he asked me to move in. I was blinded in love and agreed. Six month's into our relationship, things started changing. We could never go out, withoug him accusing me of looking at other men. Things got out of hand, I have no more friends as they are not allowed to visit me. I'm not allowed to visit them or go for lunch with them. He accuses me of having affairs, etc. He's had several failed relationships in the past, most of the woman cheated on him. I often have to guarantee him that I will not cheat on him and that I only love him. I eventually could not take his emotional abuse anymore and moved out. He followed me to my new home and begged me for one last chance, promising that things will change and that he was scared of loosing me. Nothing has changed! He still accuses me of seeing other men. Every single time when we had an argument, he will cry and ask for my forgiveness. He is totally insecure, especially because I earn more money than him. I told him that I'm no longer in love with him, but this does not make a difference to him. He smacked me about two months ago, I left him, but he came after me. I know I have to get out. I am paying the price for his insecurities and low self-esteem.

By: phindile

phindile — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 14:05:45 +0000

pls help what must i do im no longer happy im afraid of him because he is possessive

By: phindile

phindile — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 09:09:25 +0000

my husband is possessive he is too controlling i dont have even friends he is always accusing me of cheating he is insecure i cant even visit home he does not want any of my friends
what must i do because we went for counselling and it did'nt help he wont change so i think divorce is a solution im not free

By: Queen

Queen — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 12:04:47 +0000

I was involved with a possessive guy for almost three years. I knew something was not right, but I could not figure out what it is. It was only recently that i realised he is possessive. We went for counselling and that is when i understood his off behaviour. I agree with findings above,possessive people have a low self esteem,have cheated and now think their partners are doing the same. Its not worth it.

By: romeo

romeo — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 08:20:51 +0000

I think one of the reasons why possessive people use these behaviours you have listed in your post because somebody in past have broken there trust thats why they are very insecured about there present relationship, this kind of ppl should be treated politely and they need reassurance to buil up trust in there life, other kind of rude behaviour can be wrong to these ppl. When someone is possessive that means they are in some kind of love. Possessiveness is the only thing which differenciate between liking and love. If you have possesive person in your life that means you have someone who loves ypu intensely and blindly.

By: Kursat Kahya

Kursat Kahya — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 19:58:51 +0000

I think one of the reasons why possessive people use these behaviours you have listed in your post is that they are covering up for their own mistakes in their life. These could be that they have been cheating their partner and they are worried that their partner is also doing this behind their back or like you mentioned they have a confidence issue. I also had my fair share of this in my past relationships and I am very happy that I now can see the signs before I let someone in my heart.