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Is there anyone out there who has never been on a blind date before? Better yet, is there anyone out there who has been on a successful blind date? I’ve been on about 4 or 5 blind dates and none of them really turned out to be anything special. One was a movie date. The guy had seen the movie before and chose to narrate each and every scene for me. He was special…not.
The next two were also movie dates and I won’t bore you with the details, but this led me to believe that going to the movies may not be the way to go when going on a blind date or maybe not even the first date. The problem is you’re sitting with someone for two hours in the dark not talking and then when you go for a drink afterwards, you find out that you have nothing in common and you just wasted close to 4 hours sitting with someone you barely know.
I’ve even tried to set up people on blind dates and I wondered after it didn’t work out if I was doing it because I knew two single people, or because I really thought they would like each other. Now that I think about it, it was probably the first.
I believe that setting someone up on a blind date comes with a lot of responsibility. After my blind dates, I always asked myself this question? Is this how my friends truly saw me? Did they really think I could be attracted to such a person, (some of the guys were either really strange or not even close to my physical type) or did they think the word single meant desperate?
Actually one of the guys that I set up on a blind date asked me that question and I don’t think I had an immediate answer for him. I wasn’t thinking about personalities or physical attributes, etc. I guess that’s why online dating sites like eHarmony or Match.com ask so many questions before you find your compatibility.
I have to be honest. I truly was not thinking about what they were looking for in a relationship when trying to hook them up and when they would ask me for a description, etc. I would try to describe them as if I was trying to sell them were a car. Basically, I could tell them how shiny and good the car looked on the outside, but if they asked me about anything under the hood, I would be lost. In my mind, I saw two people who were not dating and then said to myself why not?
I don’t think there is anything wrong in going out on blind dates. I would definitely go out on one if my friends ever decided to set me up again and I would probably still set someone up on one. But I would be extremely more selective in who I go out with and very selective when it comes to setting up my friends. I’m sure there are hundreds even thousands of couples who have hooked up because of blind dates. So I will keep that option open because you never no do you?
(On January 31st, 2008 at 8:25 pm)
I have a blind date experience that go really awry. We met online one day we decided to meet. 1st she asked me to meet at her house, and when I insist I wait outside, she finally relent and we went for a movie. A movie that is not particularly scary, but she seems to be afraid and most of the scenes and keep trying to cling on to me. It kinda scares me out and that is the only time we met. I don't know, I do tell myself never to do such a thing again.
(On February 8th, 2008 at 5:10 pm)
Why does everyone have bad blind date experiences?
Granted it's not for everyone – but it was fun for me!
As a pilot I'm always on the move, so I chatted online with some guys on an internet dating service & met up with them at the end of the summer – and met my current beau!
Tips to survive the blind date experience:
1)Online dating services are the new blind date hook-up;
2)Don't be so serious! Be fun, open (without too many details about yourself…leave a little mystery for a second date), & have a ridiculous pick-up line. "Hi! I'm a Pilot" has never failed me yet;
3)Girl – be in control! Get yourself there & home safely! Always have an exit strategy (ie: "I gotta get myself home and get that mandatory 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep before flying tommorrow morning" or "Really, I can't have another drink..there's this 12 hour bottle to throttle rule with flying". Meanwhile, the boyz are like, "This is one cool chick!"
4)What to do? Try something you're interested in. Take charge and choose painting pottery animals for each other or strolling through a street performers festival. An activity can help you both relax and focus on the task at hand and is a great way to start seeing if you're compatible with each other.
(On February 21st, 2008 at 10:47 am)
Hey Mimi!
Good tips! Thanks for sharing!
I always suggest having an exit strategy as well, for so many obvious reasons. I also suggest letting a friend know where you're going – you just never know these days! To add onto that, I further suggest to have your friend give you a call at a pre-determined time. That way, if things aren't moving along, you can always have a reason to bail without any hurt feelings.
Of course, it's super smart not to go someplace you frequent and isn't near your home. If the guy really rubbed you the wrong way, at least you will have the satisfaction of knowing you have greatly reduced the possibility of bumping into him!