PlanJam!From your screen to the scene

Ever noticed that the enviable girl with ten gorgeous guys scrambling to date her isn't always the prettiest one? She might be pretty, sure, but she might be just a little cute, or even rather plain. But no matter what she looks like, there's something intangible about her that men love.

Want to know how she does it? Below are three simple (if sometimes hard to pull off) tips for bringing out the dating bombshell in you.

Feel Sexy. You don’t have to be Jessica Alba to ooze sex appeal. If you walk around feeling (not acting but feeling) like you’re sexy, men will think so too. Now, I do realize that you’ve probably heard this little piece of advice 100,000 times. And that each time you heard it you thought, “Suuuure… easier said than done, girlie.” Because if you don’t feel sexy, well… you don’t feel sexy.

But you can change that. How? Simply by being sensual. Enjoy a meal with orgasmic pleasure without agonizing about calories. Learn to delight in the feel of yourself – your smooth skin on a cool tabletop or the breeze drying the fine sheen of sweat on your bare shoulders. When you’re feeling sensual, men can sense it – and it’s very sexy.

Most importantly, know that you’re super-sexy, super-amazing, and worth his admiration. When you forget and start to feel self-conscious, brush the thought away like a too-persistent mosquito. You’re too busy being confident and sexy to feel self-conscious.

Make Him Feel Good. I know that stroking a man’s ego and letting him take charge might be against your feminist beliefs – and injuring to your pride. But if you can set that aside long enough to make the men you date feel like big, important men, they’ll love you for it. Ask him for help with the wine list, then compliment his tastes. Praise him profusely when he does something thoughtful. Stroke his ego all you can and he’ll definitely respond.

Find the idea repulsive? Just think of it this way… making a man feel good is just another way to put yourself in control. That he thinks he has control doesn’t matter – you, after all, know the truth. (Sorry, guys!)

Have Fun and Be Fun. When a dating bombshell meets a man for the first time, she just…has fun with him. So don’t take flirting seriously, and never, ever take a date too seriously. A lot of men are easily scared off by a too-intense woman. Especially when she’s intense about them. Instead, relax and have fun. Don’t let yourself agonize about what he thinks of you, or if he’s the right guy. It you allow yourself to simply have fun with men, it won’t matter if he’s the right guy – because you’ll have plenty to choose from.