Comments on: Why Women Aren't Attracted to "Nice Guys"

By: Dave

Dave — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 06:19:57 +0000

Trouble is, what if you're the type of guy who's outdoorsy, adventurous, cooks gourmet food, is flexible in his tastes, is highly motivated in his creative endeavors, is educated, well-traveled, has ambitions for the future AND is kind, attentive, and passionate (and really good in bed), without being one of the "doting wimps" as you put it, and STILL gets dumped by women, who can't even offer an explanation for why the "spark died"? This is a mystery that haunts me and a good number of my male friends.

By: HeartOfGold

HeartOfGold — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 05:00:13 +0000

I am sorry to see a lot of negative things being said here, I have nothing against men and I do not lie, or pretend to be something I am not, I don't want money or prestige. I want a man who loves me and I love him.

Sounds dumb but I recently lost a man I dearly loved who was very abusive to me emtionally.

All of the men were I met, but I don't men bash and women have their issues too.

I do not abuse my partner and always have respect for them.

And no one should lie, if you have something to say that you have to lie, then why be together in the first place if you cannot be honest?

I have a lot to learn, and I don't always make the right choices but I am not mean or lie to my partner and everything they do I appreciate.

I am my own person but others have rights too.

So not all women are liars gold diggers or game players.

I am not

By: Jason

Jason — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 02:56:22 +0000

It's gonna get a lot worse here in America, too… Just watch and wait… All these new girls going to college, and for what kind of careers? Sociology and Social Workers? Psychology!? In this Economic Collapse we are going through, 82% of the layoffs are Men, the rest are Women…

The Women are going to keep getting more and more selfish even though they have become the new Breadwinner… But even though they have attained their desire to be "equal" to us Men, no matter what we do, we are gonna "always" be expected to contribute more to them… More of what we don't even have already…

It will be getting very interesting very soon! Wait till you see what kind of times are in store for this country and the world!

There will definitely be a civil war…

Jason

By: Jason

Jason — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 02:53:03 +0000

HENRY,

I'm totally with ya on that man…

It's true… The parents, especially the baby-boomer ones, and our Media and Textbooks which are run and controlled by the "Yids" influence the ideas through their heads… If you notice, all American Women (mostly) have this sense that they are automatically Entitled to anything and everything they want, and have no sense of being Accountable, or Responsible for anything, or even have any perception of money or where money comes from which may supply and sustain their habits…

The men who endlessly buy drinks for women at the bar for free are only feeding this cause. I "only" buy drinks for women once/if they've earned my respect.

We live in an age where Women feel that the Men must submit and bow down to them… But, the way it used to be was that Women were eager to find a way they can capture a Man who will want them and stay faithful to them to raise a healthy family, and allow them to nest securely, etc. It isn't that way anymore.

These women are infintely psychopaths, and they expect "you" my friend, to bow down to them.

I'm 27 now, and I've been single for over 5 years as it is… Have a few dates every now and then, but almost every woman I've come across is worthless.

Keep on doing what you do man, don't change for these bottomless pit whores that are infinitely greedy, don't apologize to them EVER, and do not stroke their perverted egos.

Jason

By: HENRY

HENRY — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 02:42:21 +0000

I'm sick and tired of American women. Most are
materialistic and very self- centered. They are
spoiled rotten by their parents and by the time
they start dating they expect even more from a man. Lying and cheating also play a part, a huge
part. It always comes down to this with women,
HOW MUCH BULLSHIT IS A MAN WILLING TO PUT UP
WITH to either date her or to keep the so called relationship going. American women are almost all prostitutes in one form or another.
Unfortunately TV has a big influence on what
women expect of a man. As a man who used to treat the women in my life very well I learned
the hard way. NEVER AGAIN! Do I have a chip on my shoulder? Goddamn right I do! This is NO
COUNTRY FOR NICE GUYS. Anytime a woman says she
wants a nice guy she's almost always full of shit!

By: Gino Nathaniel

Gino Nathaniel — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 16:10:40 +0000

Women want one type–successful-attractive-type A….those who say differently lie. women are shallow-matterialistic-superficial mostly. sad. it will get worse.

By: bobby

bobby — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 20:31:07 +0000

well, all these points are very good points indeed. Some women are just plain into "bad boys" because they get the attention and things that they want, even though they get treat like shit. I've seen cases where a girl's bf would treat her bad, hit her, etc., and then there is another guy that treats her nice. But she lies to the "good" guy and keeps going back to the guy who beats her up…why? I have no fucken clue why. yea, maybe they are tough, have a gang behind them to back them up, so the girl feels more secure? whatever. but there are also woman who make "good" choices out there. Dont get me wrong, every person is "unique", no two person are a like. Relationships between a male and female depends on a lot of things, we all just can't go on talking shit about each other. I'm not supporting anything above by saying what I say here, just simply saying that I understand what all these guys are saying, why they get angry and all that shit. Heck, sometimes i feel like just going outside with a fucken huge ass speaker system and yell out "FUCK BITCHES!". But yea, not all women are bad, and definitely not all women are good.

I just simply believe that, if you want a real relationship, be yourself. Don't act cool or be someone else if around the person you want to "date" or have the relationship with. If you want to just f*ck around with all the b*tches out there, then yea, act like someone "cool". Girls, you dont want to get hurt emotionally do you? And guys don't neither. If you just want to fuck around with each other…it's your choice…there are many things out there that could happen people if you hurt someone and they want revenge. Life is complicated isn't it….

By: Liesl

Liesl — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 20:02:37 +0000

The "nice guys finish last" stereotype isn't even true! Look at the research examples cited on wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nice_guy

It's my experience that most men who blame their relationship troubles on the idea that they are "nice guys" actually suffer from other issues; like poor self-confidence. The fact that they place external blame on the women who reject them is a red flag that they have relationship issues to cope with before they can enter into a healthy relationship.

People are or are not attracted to each other for a myriad of other reasons, too. Maybe she doesn't feel you have common interests or values. Maybe she doesn't have chemistry with you. How can you reduce the numerous features of attraction to "well, she just doesn't like nice guys"? Look a little deeper, pal.

Mentally healthy men and women are attracted to people who have healthy self-esteem AND who are nice to them. If they aren't, they probably are not mentally healthy.

I don't want a guy who treats me like dirt and I don't want a guy who puts me on a pedestal. Both extremes suggest problems that prohibit a healthy relationship. A good relationship is balanced, fair and requires compromise from both people to work.

Any advice that suggests you should cover your true feelings and avoid being your true self is poor advice. How can you fall in love with someone you don't even know? You'd only be falling in love with an ideal, not a person.

By: Svetlana

Svetlana — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 21:32:01 +0000

I would like to add that women like Karen Talavera only help to promote this ideology that to get a woman, treat her like shit, which is completely wrong. While I agree that there may be women like that out there, I also know plenty of dudes that go for girls that treat them like dirt, so it's not a matter of gender; it's a matter of personal preference. If being shoved around tickles someone's balls, if they equate masochism with love, then that's something they have to deal with. And I sense that a lot of the guys hating on women on this post may have that preference.

By: Svetlana

Svetlana — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 20:08:09 +0000

It's unfortunate that there are so many women out there that fall for the asshole type of guy. Many women do not appreciate when a guy is nice to them… they see that as a sign of weakness, which I completely fail to understand. But do not despair, guys, there are plenty of women out there that appreciate a quality man when they see one. Unfortunately, there are too many idiots out there doling advice that it's better to be a douche to women to get their attention. |If that's the kind of women you want, then by all means, go for it. But then don't complain when they turn around and give you the finger when you start being real with them. Just be yourself, and smile! Confidence and a great smile go a long way!!