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It can be tough trying to figure out if a girl is into you or not. By watching a girl’s behavior, her mannerisms, and the way that she acts when your near is a good way to determine if she’s into your or not. This can be especially important if you’re thinking about taking a relationship with a friend to the next level. The best way to find out if a girl likes you or not is to ask. However, this is not as simple as it seems. The fear of rejection is often great and can inhibit a man from asking the object of his affection point blank if she reciprocates the feeling. Here are some suggestions that you can use to find out if she likes you or not.

Since you’d like to spend more time with the girl that you like on an intimate level, you’ve undoubtedly thought about asking her out on a date. Using some creative ideas can help you find out if she likes you as well as get you a date if she’s interested, without suffering outright rejection. Something that you can do is wait until you hear her mention a movie or cultural even that she is interested in attending. You can casually say something to the effect that you are interested in seeing that movie or concert, attending a museum (whatever the case may be) as well, and why not go together. By presenting it in a lighthearted, casual manner, you can determine if she’d like to spend more time with you, and not need to worry about flat out rejection. When you bring it up, make sure that you phrase the request in a manner that she will have to respond with a yes or no, or even a maybe. For example, you could say something like, “Oh, wow the new Bond movie, I didn’t know you were a fan. I am too, hey why don’t we see it this weekend?”

Another idea that you can use to find out if she’s into you or not, is ask her to kiss you. Again, this is an area where many men might become nervous or self conscious, so if you turn it into a game or playful question, you can take some of the stress out of the situation. If you have been spending a lot of time together as friends and you’d like to find out if she likes you, ask her if she’ll do something for you. When she says, “What?” Ask her if she’ll kiss you. If she says know, then laugh and change the subject. You can easily play it off as if you were joking. If she says yes, you’ll have your answer and can take the relationship to the next level.

Finally, you might want to determine whether or not she’s into you by judging her reaction when you touch her. Now this doesn’t mean to grope her, but you can put your arm around her if you are crossing a street, hold her hand while she’s talking to you, or make another gesture that can be interpreted as innocent if not reciprocated. You can tell if she becomes uncomfortable if you touch her, or if she reaches for your hand as well. When you put your arm around her, does she lean in to the embrace or pull away? By watching her responses to these and the other suggestions listed above, you can determine whether or not she is into you.