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Hindsight is 20/20 and when it comes to dating, it would be great if there were a way to look into the future and get a clear picture of a person’s character. This would help prevent many relationships that had no potential of moving forward from ever happening in the first place.
Unfortunately, many people never get to learn what their type is, until after they’ve been involved in a serious relationship, and then can use the experience to determine what definitely is not their type. However, there are certain conditions, or personality disorders, that are obvious clues that someone is dealing with personal issues that might interfere with their ability to sustain a healthy relationship. Identifying these personality types can help you avoid many difficulties in a future relationship, or at least prepare you for the amount of work that will be involved, should you choose to enter into a relationship with someone who has one of these disorders.
When a person suffers from a personality disorder they have a difficult time handling the pressures of stress that affects everyone on a daily basis. They also have a hard time managing relationships with other people and might have difficulties with family members, friends, and co-workers. Though it is impossible to look at someone and determine how his or her mind works, you can look for warning signs, or clues that someone is dealing with a personality disorder.
One of the main symptoms of a personality disorder is the inability to adjust to other people’s needs. This can have a detrimental affect on a relationship and can cause serious problems to any relationship. Personality disorders are classified into three basic categories. These are sometimes referred to as clusters and can be divided into groups A, B, and C. Group A would be those who have personality disorders that focus on odd or unusual behavior. The second cluster, Group B, focuses on very dramatic behavior that often includes severe or serious emotional outbursts, and the third cluster or Group C consists of personality disorders that are based on phobias or fearful behaviors. Here is a listing of five personality types to avoid and a brief description regarding each condition.
Paranoid Personality Disorder is associated with Cluster or Group A. The underlying basis of paranoid personality types is that they distrust the actions of other people. They often believe that other people are committing actions against them, such as being unfaithful, disloyal, or even threatening. Those who are paranoid are often very jealous of their partners and are prone to accusing them of doing things that they are innocent of.
Antisocial Personality Disorder is classified as a Group or Cluster B disorder, and is characterized by erratic behavior. Those with an antisocial personality have a difficult time showing respect for other people. They might have a history of legal issues as well as alcohol and substance abuse. Since those with this personality type often feel no remorse or guilt for their behaviors, it is impossible to have a healthy relationship with an individual with an antisocial personality.
Borderline Personality Disorder is characterized by extreme high and low behaviors. This causes the individual to be unstable and often impulsive. They might even become very devoted or focused on an individual only to cut off their emotional attachment suddenly. Those who have a Borderline personality have a history of extremely troubled relationships and often have a difficult time maintaining a relationship.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is another personality type that falls under the Group or Cluster B category. People with this personality type see themselves as worthy of all admiration and adoration. They are often incapable of having healthy relationships as they seek constant admiration, are self-centered, and use other people for their own needs.
Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder is classified as a Cluster C personality disorder. For those who suffer from this condition, life consists of rigid rules and routines. Spontaneity is difficult and those with OCD often set extremely high standards for themselves. They can become extremely critical of themselves and have a difficult time handling a relationship, as they struggle to make decisions and can become overly dependent on their partners.
(On January 29th, 2009 at 1:36 pm)
This is such a very nice warning.
I don't think I can handle a relationship with a person who has either one of the personalities above, or maybe I'll end up being one of them too. lol.
For me a person with paranoid personality disorder is the most difficult person to be with. He will make me go crazy. ;0
Anyway, thank you for this info, it's very useful to everyone.
(On February 10th, 2009 at 6:14 am)
this is very detail..must really read it to understand it..its really scary sometimes that people have different personalities, but i guess you just have to deal with them..
(On May 30th, 2009 at 5:08 am)
When people come from different countries and cultures, it can be quite difficult to detect the personality types, moreso predict how it will work out. But your info is very useful, especially in international relationships, when women often totally depend on their man at first when they move to be with him in his country.
(On September 4th, 2009 at 3:48 am)
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(On January 23rd, 2010 at 3:23 am)
Great way to put it. Now I have a name for all those strange activities those people play.
(On March 19th, 2010 at 8:53 am)
I don't understand, if I were looking for a person like myself is that paranoid? I having pstd (which has some aspects of antisocial behaivor) and when I find someone they act like me They can't or I can't have a healthy relationship? I've been told so many things I'm having trouble keeping track. I went to give a theripist a hug because I was happy to finally get some help with my sons father and wife constante belittlement. He jumped back and said oh no you have rejection issues. My intention was not to have some relationship maybe people are right I'm blind and can't see my own behavior.
(On March 19th, 2010 at 9:09 am)
I don't feel rejected when people don't want that a hug. Most of the time I don't think much of it.
(On May 3rd, 2010 at 6:16 am)
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(On May 12th, 2010 at 2:18 am)
Priceless information to share…but the difficulty lies in the fact that we cannot be sure of these disorders until we come closer to them….and once you get emotionally attached, detachment is always hard and painful.
(On August 31st, 2010 at 11:48 am)
You forgot "Serial Killer", "Stalker" and "Mammas Boy"! LOL
(On September 12th, 2010 at 10:53 pm)
Being an overthinker will definitely get us into the state of analysis paralysis which cause us not to take any action to achieve result. I had written an article on analysis paralysis and maybe you would like to take a look at it.
(On November 5th, 2010 at 7:02 am)
I think generally this is a good article. The only idea I disagree with is that you should not date a person with OCD because unlike the other personality disorders, OCD can be highly compartmentalized. A person with mild OCD can be spontaneous in some areas of his or her life but rigid in others. I have a good friend whose OCD focused on what he eats. Other than some strange eating habits, he's incredibly nice, considerate, and easygoing. Is it a hassle sometimes? Yes. Is he a catch? You betcha!
(On March 21st, 2011 at 1:48 am)
I am now in a serious relationship and after reading this post, new realizations came into my mind.Sometimes, I freak out and act like a paranoid when dealing our problems like when somebody got a crush on him or when he is jealous of a friend. We two love each other but there are really things that come to test how strong the relationship is being founded and I can say these trials should not be taken for granted.
(On May 9th, 2011 at 2:35 pm)
Lol what a great article. These are definitely things to look out for. Thanks for sharing!
(On October 7th, 2011 at 10:11 am)
I have respect for others as well as myself, I think there is too much of revenge because they either don't remember what they said or they really are trying to kill and relationship a person have so that they can watch and learn how to deal with their own emotions. Seems like some people try to focus on someone elses life so that they don't have to deal with their own lives as well. I think in my relationships right now people are so distraught about what is going on with them that some look for an escape goat so that they don't have to take responsiblity for their own actions or a middle man. Parnoid or not trying to make a person look crazy is their own parinoia and some where down the line it always came to is step back and take care of yourself and trying to talk to about what is bothering a person. I'm not talking about revenge or talking about having constant battles to stand up for yourself to the point it makes you a nervous wreck if these people can't grow up then maybe you should and step aside to let them cause their own train wreck is the best thing you can do for yourself and the relationship. relationship is not about constant testing that is missed up. For me I choice not to be angry and use that energy have a health relationship and move on when head games are being played. Trusting in yourself is the key and if a person writes this kind of stuff the immdiate reaction is that she is parnoid all I got to say to that is good luck with that idea and when I mention that statement then it becomes a war with certain individuals. A beat down I know is a kind of tranference so that they don't feel so alone and don't have to take responsibility for their adult lives. Revenge is for the ill equipped person that hasn't yet learned how to live.