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Fun Free Date Ideas

Karen Talavera — Sat, 23 Aug 2008 10:21:22 +0000

Think back to the times in your life when you were happiest, or having the most fun. If you're like me, your happiest times were probably also your simplest. They didn't require large amounts of money or effort to make them happen – they just did. When you think about it, it's actually a little ironic. The best things in life are free, yet we work so hard to make our dates perfect, planned…and expensive. Don't we want the "best things" for our dates?

Yes, I realize that I'm over-simplifying things a little. And that if you're never willing to spend a penny on a date, you might run into problems pretty darned quickly. But every once in awhile, it's a good idea to give yourself and your bank account a break from the pressure of your traditional Friday night dinner and a movie. And very possibly have a better time than you would at that $80-a-head candlelit restaurant downtown while you do it.

Free Outdoor Date Ideas

It doesn't take long to get tired of all that mood lighting and snooty service. So get outside! There are a ton of outdoor activities that make great dates…and best of all, many of them are creative, romantic, and free. Such as:

Having a picnic at the park or in the countryside
Going hiking in the nearby mountains
Visiting a local art fair, outdoor market, music fair, or food fair
Going for a long bike ride in the country
Taking a camping trip
Going shopping together at the farmer's market for ingredients for a dinner you make together
Going to watch a free little league game and eat hotdogs
Playing Frisbee on the beach
Going to an animal shelter to play with the dogs
Walking around downtown and listen to street musicians

Free Indoor Date Ideas

There are a few really fun indoor date activities that are always free, if you know what I mean. But, uh, you're not necessarily going to do them on a first or second date…and even if you are, you can't do them all the time! If you don't want to spend a lot of money on a fancy dinner out, there are plenty of cheap or free things you can do indoors that aren't sex. Like:

Having a kung fu movie marathon
Playing a board game
Playing strip poker (if you can talk her into it!)
Making dinner together, or cook her your favorite childhood meal, just for fun
Experimenting together in the kitchen preparing a new kind of food
Buying a couple of bottles of wine and doing a mini home wine tasting
Playing Wii Tennis until you're sweaty and falling over laughing

There are tons of fun things that you can do for free on a date. The best way to think up some of your own? Think about things that you love to do. If you kayak or play World or Warcraft or go watch baseball spring training every weekend, you can do these same things with your date. Okay, getting her to play a World of Warcraft marathon is a long-shot, but you never know…she could think it's a blast!

Planning a Green Date

Lori Dake — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 21:28:49 +0000

Since Earth Day has really gained in popularity within the last decade, to where people even mark their calendars for it, it's no surprise couples are now starting to plan a date around the most greenest of festivities. If you really want to go all out and leave a neutral carbon footprint for a single day, you might want to take in some of these suggestions!

Choose a local destination: If there's an Earth Day festival in your area, then that's the place to go! You can sample food from local vendors and farmers, learn a few tips and tricks from the pros, and perhaps even check out a free concert! What's more, you and your special someone will walk away with a little understanding of how even the most urban of people can make their world a better place.

If the fest is honestly too far away, then perhaps planning a picnic at a sanctuary or botanical garden would be a better fit. Of course, if you're really fortunate enough to live in a warm climate and near a state park, then you just might want to pull out your camping gear and plan a weekend under the stars! Even spending some time in your back yard can be pleasant enough, especially if you do a little bit of landscaping that your snuggle bunny would treasure and enjoy all summer long!

Leave the car at home: We all know it's bad for the environment, and the steadily increasing price of gas certainly doesn't inspire being stuck in traffic anyway. So, ride the train or bus to where you're going instead, or better yet, take your bikes out for a spin! It's good for the Earth and your heart, and hey – a leisurely bike ride is just so old school romantic!

Go veg for the day!: Nothing leaves a larger carbon footprint than the process of raising animals for food, so giving the pork chops a pass every now and again is actually doing a lot of good for the environment. Going entirely vegetarian for a single day is not an impossibility these days, even if you plan on dining out. If you opt for a place to munch at that specializes in this cuisine, then you don't even have to worry about scrambling to find something on the menu. Another bonus is most of these establishments focus on providing locally grown and organic foods, which further reduces the amount of gas and pesticides that contaminate the planet.

Breathing New Life Into An Old Standby

Lori Dake — Sat, 01 Mar 2008 10:59:44 +0000

As I finish touching up my makeup before hitting a night on the town, it occurred to me that the classic combo of eating then being entertained has never gone out of style. The standard date consisting of going out dinner, then following it up with a movie afterwards is always a safe bet, but sometimes, you just need to breathe new life into that old standby. (And speaking for myself, it's one of the things that PlanJam helps me out on quite a bit!)

Let's take a look at how to jazz up that mix!

That Whole Eating Thing

It doesn't have to be dinner: it can be breakfast, lunch or even brunch!

With people having such crazy work schedules anymore, finding time to go out at night can be really hard on a lot of people. If you pick an off time, you can bypass the whole reservation deal and take the walk in route!

It doesn't have to be fancy or expensive: dogs and burgers can be just as romantic!

Now granted, sandwiches don't exactly ignite passion with hardly anyone, but sometimes, food is more for nourishment and filling an empty belly than it is for sparking a flame. Besides, no French restaurant I know is going to let you get away with laughing loudly and being silly, and they really seem to have a disliking for jeans for some odd reason.

It doesn't have to be on a Friday or Saturday night: what's wrong with Monday?

If nights work best for you, see if you two can agree on an off night. Not only are reservations a whole lot easier to obtain, but many times, you don't even need one. What's nice about going on a week night too is you can break up the monotony of the work week, giving you two something to talk about at the water cooler the next morning!

That Whole Having Fun Thing

It doesn't have to be a movie: check out a free or inexpensive concert!

With movie tickets going at $9-10 a pop, popcorn, candy and drinks chalking up another $20, and that annoying group of teens chatting behind you nonstop, that 90 minute movie had better be the film of the year! For the same price (or less!) and without the guilty calories, you can hit up a small, local venue, check out a traveling act and maybe even buy a CD as a keepsake. The bands always appreciate your support, and who knows – you may just be the first ones to discover a band before they hit it big!

It doesn't have to be filmed: a live performance can be even better!

Check the paper for something that sparks your fancy, be it a drama, a comedy or even a little creepy, and see the show on stage before it finds its way to a movie producer, the way its writers intended.

Tips For Planning Perfect Dates

Ron Zvagelsky — Mon, 27 Aug 2007 10:00:32 +0000

If you’ve been out of the dating scene for any length of time, you may feel uncomfortable or uneasy about planning perfect dates. However, there is no need to fear. No matter how long it’s been since you’ve been in the dating arena, planning perfect dates isn’t difficult at all. By following a few key elements, you can be certain that both you and your partner will have a wonderful time.

First, the basic ingredient that every date needs is fun. The best way to ensure that you and your date have a great time is to begin by selecting activities that both of you enjoy. It may seem a bit obvious, but too many times, couples try their hand at new activities. A first date isn’t a great time to try a new activity. If the date is a failure, thanks to trying an activity that wasn’t enjoyable, you may find that your partner isn’t enthusiastic about giving things a second chance. The first date should be played safely and centered on an activity that both you and your date will enjoy.

Did you know that going out to dinner isn’t always a great choice for a date? How about movies? It’s true! Dinner can be wonderful, but on a first date, many women may feel self-conscious. Also, if you do choose to go out to dinner, you will need to choose the restaurant carefully. Make sure it is a safe choice that both you and your date will enjoy, and also choose the dining fare carefully. This means, be selective about the type of food you order. You may be Italian and love spaghetti, but do you really want your date to see you slurping noodles while you dribble sauce on your chin? I didn’t think so. Choose the food carefully, and make sure it is a restaurant that you’ll both enjoy.

Movies are often selected for a first date, but again, this may have serious drawbacks. The first drawback is the fact that when a couple watches a movie, there is no talking or communication taking place. Granted, you may go out for coffee after the movie and discuss the plot, character, or setting but the next day, you may discover you learned more about the lead character then you did your date. Because of this reason, movies are not a good choice for a first date.

On your first date, your focus should be on your partner and your partner alone. Your date should provide the perfect environment for plenty of conversation and it should be a chance to really get to know each other thoroughly. This should always take place in a fun and comfortable environment.

You should also avoid going to each other’s home on a first date, unless you have been friends for a very long time, and feel very comfortable with one another. It may feel very uncomfortable if you are at your date’s house and the date turns sour or you would like to leave. It is best to meet in a public place where you can both enjoy yourselves while participating in mutual activities. By keeping these tips, you can ensure that you will enjoy wonderfully entertaining dates.

Where To Take Your Girlfriend On Her Birthday

Ron Zvagelsky — Fri, 15 Jun 2007 10:00:08 +0000

Where you choose to take your girlfriend on her birthday should depend on the types of things she enjoys. It’s important that you listen closely during conversations to hear her mention something she hasn't done or wants to do; this could be the perfect time to embark on this experience. If she hasn’t mentioned anything recently, think back to when you first met and try to recall your discussion. In any event, she’ll be pleasantly surprised and super grateful that you listened to her and acted on that situation.

Blowout or Low-Key?

Some women may enjoy a huge blowout party while others may prefer a late-night picnic along the beach or a romantic dinner at home. Regardless, take the time to plan something that you know she’ll treasure and make sure her entire day is special. If she has to work that day, be sure to send her flowers or an email/text that gives her a clue about what’s in store for her that evening. The whole point here is to keep her on her toes!

The Season

The date of her birthday will also yield plethora of date options. For instance, a fall birthday may be a great chance to go to a cider mill, hike, or a nature walk. If she's a winter baby, take her ice skating (if you live in a cold climate) or just stay in by the fireplace while roasting smores. A spring birthday may lead to great picnic weather and a summer birthday girl may love a day at the fair or amusement park. Whatever you decide to do, be sure to showcase your intentions for her overall happiness on her big day!

Summer Date Ideas

Ron Zvagelsky — Fri, 18 May 2007 07:06:27 +0000

With summer right around the corner, dating is about to heat up. There is no reason to keep up with those old and tired date ideas that you have been using for so many years. Don’t get me wrong, I love bowling as much as the next person, but it does tend to get boring. Summer time offers a great opportunity to do some fun and creative things that can leave an impact on your date. After all, people just want to have fun on dates. Choosing something far from cliché is a great way to make sure this happens.

Because the weather is warm and the water is great, heading down to the beach or lake is always a good summer date idea. If you happen to live near the beach, drive down there, have a meal, and enjoy the setting. The lake is also a good option, especially if you have a boat. Invite your date and some of your mutual friends to head out on the water and have a great day.

Most people agree that dinner and a movie is simply played out in today’s society. Instead of going to dinner, why not go and grab ice cream at a local shop. This will make for an informal date setting that is comfortable for everybody. Most people love ice cream, so this is a good way to come together.

During the summer, there are baseball games each night all over the country. If you are lucky enough to live in a major league city, then a major league game makes a great date. Minor league games aren’t shabby either. Baseball is a game that can be enjoyed by men and women; even non-sports fans seem to have a good time at the park. This also gives you an opportunity to enjoy some cold beer and have a good time in a laid back setting.

These date ideas are perfect for summer and will show your significant other that you are more creative than the average date. Don’t be afraid to try something new and different.

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Cheap Date Ideas

Ron Zvagelsky — Mon, 14 May 2007 18:31:40 +0000

Cheap date ideas surround us from a romantic dinner at home to a simple picnic at the park. Whatever it is, there are a variety of cheap date ideas for any potential couple. Creativity is always appreciated, but especially in the beginning stages of a relationship. It shows that you have great intentions for the future and want to make the experience memorable and enjoyable for the both of you.

Depending on the weather and the situation, you may choose to take a long drive to a park and perhaps hike for the day. Others enjoy a bonfire at the beach or even a nice day walking around a summer fair. All of these events are great cheap date ideas.

As a relationship begins or continues, a simple evening at home can be a great idea. This allows you to get to know the other more as well as giving time together without others around. While the situation is intimate, it helps you to grow together as a couple (or potential couple at that). Cheap date ideas don't necessarily make you cheap, just thrifty. A good experience doesn't have to cost a lot of money – keep that in mind!

A good time involves laughs and enjoyed company, and doesn’t always have to include an elaborate planning session beforehand. Sometimes the best experiences are impromptu and unexpected. These situations allow you to truly enjoy yourself and the other without the fear of the plans failing and exploding in your face. Wherever you are, you should have a great time because of the people or person with you, and nothing else should influence your experience.

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Double Dating

Ron Zvagelsky — Fri, 11 May 2007 08:28:25 +0000

We've all been there. You’re in a relationship and so is your best friend, and you guys hardly get a chance to see each other anymore. So what can you do to fix it? Plan a double date. When deciding what to do on your double date, try to go somewhere that will be fun for everyone, perhaps it's a favorite restaurant or club or maybe even a fun night in for a more relaxed atmosphere.

Double dating can be a great way to spend more time with your close friends, but you should also make sure that each of your significant others get along – otherwise, this intended positive experience will turn into something much less fun. Ideally, they would have already met beforehand and enjoy each other's company.

Double Date Idea #1

Make reservations at a lively place in town. Spend some time sipping drinks and enjoying some great food while in the company of your favorite people. Head over to a martini lounge or a club (if you're feeling active) afterwards to finish the night off in style.

Double Date Idea #2

With summer time quickly approaching, plan your double date around an outdoor fair. Everyone can enjoy their favorite childhood rides while in the company of their greatest friends. Cotton Candy, Ferris Wheels and friends…sounds like a recipe to a successful night in my book!

Double dates are a great way to reacquaint yourself with people who you haven't taken much time for recently. While it's important to get close and comfortable with someone new that you're dating, it's also important not to lose the close ties we hold between our friends.

While dating someone, don't separate yourself from the world, and do your best to maintain previous relationships with friends. In the end, your friends will always be there for you (assuming they’re true friends) – and in most cases, your current boyfriend or girlfriend will not. Don't make the mistake of neglecting and/or pushing others away – otherwise, you may find yourself awfully lonely down the road. Ultimately, a steady balance between the two will yield much better results in the future.

A Day At Venice Beach

Ron Zvagelsky — Sun, 08 Apr 2007 22:21:03 +0000

This weekend Liz and I decided to take advantage of the great weather and we headed out to Venice Beach. We had dinner plans for a double date at 7:00pm so we arrived a few hours early to hang out for a bit.

Parking in Venice is no picnic and you’ll be really lucky to find an available space along the street. You should read the signs carefully because you don’t want to get a ticket, or worse, have your car towed away. We couldn’t find any street parking so we parked at the lot on Rose Ave and Speedway for $4. Interestingly enough, there was a parking lot a few blocks south that was charging $14.

Venice Beach has always been one of my favorite places to visit because there are tons of things to see and do. If you’re looking for some cheap souvenirs or pieces of art for the house, you’ve come to the right place. Another thing you’ll find abundant on the boardwalk are Tarot Card and Palm Readers…about 2-3 per block. Some have their own shops while others are nestled along the boardwalk between the street performers and the animal rights activists.

Eugene (the genius behind PlanJam) is a big fan of psychic readings and I know that he would have been disappointed had I passed up the opportunity. So I picked the one that looked the most professional (he had a crystal ball on the table) and sat down for my tarot reading. His name was RA and he began by explaining how Tarot Card readings work. Basically, you shuffle the deck while thinking about a question you want answered. What essentially happens is that based on your subconscious thoughts, the cards will come out in a specific order that will contain the answer to your question. Without going into too much detail about the reading, let me just say that you won’t find the answer you’re looking for from a Venice Beach psychic. With that said, it was still tons of fun and well worth the $10 spent (about a 30 minute reading). Thanks Euge!

After the reading, we walked over to a cozy little Italian restaurant on Dudley Ave called Piccolo Ristorante. It’s a romantic neighborhood spot that is only steps away from the boardwalk. They open at 5pm and don’t accept reservations, so you’ll have to either come in early or be prepared for about an hour wait (depending on how busy it is of course). If you find yourself on the waiting list then you have a few options. There is a neighborhood bar right around the corner where you can enjoy some drinks and live music. You can also hang out inside the restaurant, but you’ll have to settle for sitting on the steps (with a bottle of wine of course).

Once we got our table (after an hour and a half wait) and ordered, the food came out pretty quickly. The wine list wasn’t particularly amazing, but they did have a good selection of Italian wines. Their signature dish – the Potatoes and Fig Tortellini was excellent, but the rest of the food came out a little too salty (something we all noticed). I’m not one of those people who complain and send the food back, so I did end up eating it all. It wasn’t my first time at the restaurant so this could have just been an isolated incident.

In total, we had a bottle of wine, 2 appetizers, 2 entrees, and dessert, which came out to $150 (with tip). Overall, the food was good – but if I could do it over again, I would not have waited that long.

Total Cost: $164

Total Time: 5 Hours

A Day At The Los Angeles Zoo

Ron Zvagelsky — Mon, 02 Apr 2007 04:56:32 +0000

Since today was our 6 month anniversary, I decided to take my girlfriend Liz to the Los Angeles Zoo. The weather was great so I wanted to take advantage of it by doing something fun outdoors.

12:00pm – We arrived at the Zoo at Noon and I was surprised that there was no charge for parking. You would think that finding parking would be almost impossible, but there were a ton of open spaces right near the entrance.

At first glance, the line to purchase tickets looks really intimidating, but it does move really quickly. We got to the ticket window in about 25 minutes and the price of admission was a reasonable $10 per person (children get in for $5).

We quickly glanced at the program of shows and there was nothing too impressive…about a half dozen shows centered on birds. That didn’t matter though, I came there to see the Tigers and Lions (btw, I love cats).

Since it was a warm day and we stood in line for about half an hour, we were a little hot so we decided to get a cold treat. Liz went for the Shaved Italian Ice, at $5.95, and I went for the Dippin Dots which were priced at $4.35. Now that we had cooled down a bit, we were ready to go explore the zoo!

As we walked from exhibit to exhibit, we couldn’t help but notice that almost all of the animals were either sleeping or hiding. This made it really frustrating after taking multiple detours around the zoo to get to them. Specifically, we were unable to see the Snow Leopard, Tigers, Bears, and Wolves. The only animal we were actually able to see during our first hour was the Tortoise, which really had nowhere to go. Now I am not sure if you have ever seen a Tortoise in real life, but it’s not that exhilarating.

It may have just been the time we decided to visit, but we were getting really annoyed having to play “Where’s Waldo” at each exhibit. The second half of our visit was a little more fun. They got around to feeding the hippopotamuses which allowed for some great close-up shots. There was also a family of Orangutans which were absolutely adorable and the Koalas were really cute (see pictures below).

We were at the Zoo for a total for 2.5 hours and we weren’t really rushing through it. All in all we had a wonderful time, but the selection of animals was far from spectacular. And no, I didn’t get to see any cats (which was a little disappointing). In the future we will probably take a trip down to San Diego and visit the Zoo there.

If you’ve never been to the Los Angeles Zoo, I would really suggest that you check it out (plus its right next door to Griffith Park where you can set up a picnic). But if you frequent Zoos often, you may get a little bored here.

Total Cost: $30.30

Total Time: 2.5 Hours