PlanJam!From your screen to the scene

When I'm talking about this subject, I always feel like I'm treading over dangerous ground. Because I'm a girl who does like nice guys…and I know that other women want men to treat them decently, too. But here's something else that I think is true for most women: while we say that we want a nice guy to treat us like a princess and buy us flowers and worship us…we're kind of, well…lying. And most of us don't even realize it.
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Every time I hear this famous Harry Belafonte song, it makes me think about the importance of looks in romance:

I always wondered if Belafonte was married, and if so, what his wife thought of that particular ditty! Because it seems like there’s nothing in the world worse than being considered unattractive by the opposite sex. But is that actually true? Are looks really so important? Or does personality have a greater effect on attraction in the long run?
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I've had my fair share of horrible dates – who hasn't? Before, I'd usually suffer through them in silence, making small talk and pretending to laugh at their less-than-humorous jokes.

Eventually, I started to realize that not only was I making myself miserable; I was leading the poor sap on! I can't tell you how many times guys have called me after a first date, only to realize after the 17th call I had no desire to go out with them again…

But, I digress.

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No two ways about it, we are led by our physical desires. Initially, we pick each other based on how physically attracted we are to each other and if we don’t step back and catch our breath, those emotions can often cloud our thinking and get in the way of us getting to know that person. All reasoning becomes obsolete as our physical emotions take over.

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Everyone wants to know how to attract the man or woman of his or her dreams. However, when it comes to attracting the perfect mate, you may be surprised to discover that you should begin by focusing on yourself. First, if you don’t have a clear understanding of who you are, what you like, or where you are headed in life, it will be impossible to attract other people. Before you can attract someone who is your complement, you must first develop your own individual characteristics and attain your own dreams, goals, and visions.

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No, you don’t need to get plastic surgery to become attractive to women. You may be surprised to discover that the qualities women are seeking in men are much more than skin deep. In fact, if you want to become attractive to women, it will serve you greatly to work on inner characteristics and traits rather than the outward appearance. Of course, you need to work on your physical appearance, have good grooming, and make the most of your natural strengths, but the true characteristics that make men the most appealing to women are virtues that rest under the surface. If you’ve ever asked the question, "How did that guy get her?", then these tips are for you.

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When it comes to dating, everyone wants to be practiced at the art of flirting. Flirting is a great way to break the ice and ensure that you meet the person that you are interested in. Whether you are male or female, are new to the dating scene, or are a dating pro, learning how to be a great flirt can help you overcome many obstacles. Flirting can also help ensure that when you are interested in someone, you have an open door for communication.

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I am sure that you’ve heard of, "love at first sight", or "opposites attract", or even heard the statement, "we had instant chemistry". If you’ve ever wondered if there was anything scientific to prove any of these declarations you may be surprised to learn that there are. Many scientific studies are showing that hormones play a strong role in the early stages of a relationship. When couples first fall in love, a number of hormones are on the rise. These hormones elevate feelings of pleasure and explain why couples in love can only think about each other and feel as if they're walking on air.

When an individual first meets a potential love interest, the first question they usually have is whether or not the other party is interested in him or her. If the chemistry exists, then hormones will be elevated and though you may not be able to take a blood test, you can check for certain behaviors. Here are some signs that will let you know whether or not you and your person of interest have chemistry.

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Are you interested in learning how to attract the opposite sex, simply by walking in a room? Of course you are! Everyone wants to unlock the secrets that lie beneath the power of attraction and put them to work for us. Amazingly, the power of attraction is a force that seems to work on its own, almost magically. Sometimes, two people just pass each other by, chemistry clicks, and there is an instant attraction. Have you ever wondered why this phenomenon occurs? Or yet, have you ever wondered if there was anything that you could do to make this attraction happen?

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Scientific research has shown that there is a direct correlation between seduction, physical attraction, and scent. In fact, this relationship extends further then purchasing a bottle of Chanel No. 5 or Calvin Klein’s newest signature. It extends to a deeper level of human chemical makeup; it involves hormone levels and a substance known as Pheromones. Pheromones are natural chemicals that animals produce for the purpose of sexual attraction, and yes, it has been proven that humans produce Pheromones.

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