PlanJam!From your screen to the scene

Don't be too sure of yourself. Ultimately, one of the biggest mistakes in the dating world occurs when a huge ego gets in the way of the heart. When you approach someone, be classy about it. Physical attraction is just the beginning; be in tune with yourself to see if you really have a connection worth going after. Most of the time, you’ll realize this within the first few minutes of being around someone.

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It’s what every guy wants to know, right?

First impressions are long lasting and women definitely keep this in mind. Everything is given great consideration while preparing for a date – from the outfit, the hairstyle, the shoes, makeup, the mannerisms, etc. Looking her best is important; she wants to tell him that she can put herself together, she has style and that she takes herself very seriously from the start.

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Although the idea of hooking up has been around for years, this trend has really come a long way in our society. While hooking up doesn't have to encompass intercourse, it can include oral sex or any other sexual activity. Whatever it is, both men and women are affected differently by this behavior. As a result, make sure that you take the necessary precautions so that you will not end up hurt when it's over.

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For many of us, dating someone with kids will occur at one point or another. When you eventually meet someone that has children from a previous relationship, it's important that you know what to expect and realize that this may have an affect on your relationship in the future.

Most kids find it difficult to accept the fact that their parent is dating. Therefore, it’s crucial that you make an honest effort to get to know their children and spend quality time with them. If the relationship escalates, talk to the children about how they feel about your relationship with their parent. Another important thing to consider is the impact of their ex on your relationship. This person will always be in your significant other's life because they bore children together; this infused a lasting bond between them. Before you get involved, decide whether this is something that you can deal with continuously.

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It's a Saturday night, you've done your errands, cleaned your apartment, worked out, cooked dinner, and now it's 8pm. You call your group of friends – the first is on her way out with her boyfriend of three years, the second is heading out to meet a girl on the other side of town for drinks, and the last is already scoping out girls for the night. This is one of those times where being single isn't so fun. However, not being tied down to someone and being able to come and go as you choose can be a positive thing.

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When you go out on a date, be honest and upfront about who you are, what you stand for and what you're looking for. This helps to avoid any misconceptions in the future and allows for greater success in the overall scheme of things. When you’re letting someone else get to know you, make sure that you present yourself genuinely; otherwise, they’ll see right through you.

While you may be nervous and may embark in some of your more embarrassing habits, it's natural to feel so and it's likely the other person feels the same. Don’t worry about those nervous habits – be yourself and everything else will fall into place. By the second date, things will be much easier. Your date will probably have a general idea of who you are, and they’ll continue to learn more after each subsequent date or meeting. This growing experience helps shape a connection for a potential relationship.

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If the old cliché is any indication, then opposites do get together. Whether or not opposites actually attract more often than similar people is something that has been studied over and over by people who get paid to know that stuff. Regardless of these findings, it’s true that sometimes people can find something interesting in another person that they’re not able to find within themselves.

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People are now spending more and more time at the workplace, leaving little room for outside social interaction. In fact, we often spend more time with our colleagues than with our family and friends. Because of this, people often times start to develop feelings for another coworker within the workplace.

So what action do you take when you realize that you are attracted to somebody at work? Do you start dating that person? Or do you stay clear of such relationships? First things first – we all know that dating a coworker can turn into a sticky situation. In many companies, it is considered taboo. Although I don’t want to turn this into meaningless, technical advice, you do have to take company dating policies into consideration. Most companies won’t have any written policies against dating another colleague, but that doesn’t necessarily signify the green light.

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So you’re really looking forward to the first date, but have no idea what to wear. All these thoughts are running through your mind, “Should I dress casual, sexy, or classy? Should I wear my comfy flats, or my pumps? How should I do my make-up?” It’s only natural for most women to get anxious about these things. After all, the first impression can make or break the date. However, don’t sweat it – with a little preparation, you can set the tone for a successful first date.

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Ladies, we have all encountered this problem at least once in our lives – you’re really digging this guy and want to ask him out on a date. The only problem is that you have a hunch he might be gay. So you end up asking yourself, “Is this crush a lost cause?” Hmmm…I thought, we, women were suppose to be able to spot a gay man from miles away. What’s happened? Unless he’s sporting a rainbow bumper sticker on his car, there are no sure ways to tell whether somebody is gay. However, some keen observation can go a long way. Just don’t question him up front about his sexual orientation. Asking such a personal and sensitive question can end up insulting him.

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