PlanJam!From your screen to the scene

Ever noticed that the enviable girl with ten gorgeous guys scrambling to date her isn't always the prettiest one? She might be pretty, sure, but she might be just a little cute, or even rather plain. But no matter what she looks like, there's something intangible about her that men love.
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You’re free! Maybe you’re over-the-moon about having been let loose from your ex. Or maybe you’re crying into your double-chocolate fudge chunk every night. But no matter how you feel about the end of a relationship, the fact is…it’s over. It’s time to move on. But especially if you’ve just come out of a long-term relationship, moving on is not the cake-walk your girlfriends try to make it sound. It’s hard! You’re not used to the awkward, quivery excitement of meeting men and going on first dates. And you’re not used to flirting with them, either – you may have even forgotten how.
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“Just do it.” “Jump right in, the water’s fine.” “Get busy livin’, or get busy dyin’.” There are about a thousand clichéd phrases thought up by the oh-so-wise to encourage you to just…take a chance in life. But if you’re sitting in a bar, palms sweating and heart pounding, your mind wrestling with itself about whether or not to ask out that pretty blonde who’s been glancing at you all night, “take a chance” doesn’t usually feel like the most appealing option. “Play it safe,” probably sounds better. That and, “order another beer and then go home.”
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Some of us have problems throwing things away. Like my mother and her habit of saving things for possible future re-use, like old plastic water bottles or quirky purses that might possibly come back into fashion some day.
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One of the things I have always found silly is how women still feel as though they are expected to be passive when it comes to meeting men. This is the 21st century after all, so why is it that modern women are still allowing themselves to sit idly by, hoping the guys come to them? Let’s go over some of these fears and get over them!
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While the dating game can be fun, and can potentially allow you to find someone compatible for you in the long-term, many women (and men) can turn into a “serial dater.”

I know how dangerous serial dating can be, because I used to be one. After a boyfriend ended our relationship of four years, I was completely devastated. At first, I turned to binge-eating, sob fests, and writing tragic “poetry” in my journal in order to try and cope with the pain I was feeling. When I realized that it wasn’t working, I turned to serial dating to try and deal with my rejection. I dated man after man after man, never pausing to face the perilous slope I was heading down. I didn’t realize it then, but I was simply using each new man in my life to fill the void my long-term partner had left in my heart when he broke up with me.
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So your date says she's a vegetarian, and you're a meat and potatoes kind of guy. Just hearing that term has all these images of boring iceberg lettuce salads and weird chunks of tofu swimming through your head, like some kind of bad 50's horror movie. To make matters worse, you have already reserved at booth at the fanciest steak house in town! Oh no! What now? So, feeling rather sullen, you breathe a heavy sigh, and you blurt out the most obvious question that comes to mind:
"So what can you eat?"
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As I finish touching up my makeup before hitting a night on the town, it occurred to me that the classic combo of eating then being entertained has never gone out of style. The standard date consisting of going out dinner, then following it up with a movie afterwards is always a safe bet, but sometimes, you just need to breathe new life into that old standby. (And speaking for myself, it's one of the things that PlanJam helps me out on quite a bit!)

Let's take a look at how to jazz up that mix!
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Whether you’re getting ready for a first date, a hundredth with your life partner or a fun night out on the town with your friends, it’s always important to look your best. Of course, this doesn’t mean you need to abandon your personality or break the bank in the process, but a little sprucing up never hurt anyone! After all, you really do only get one chance to make a lasting first impression – with anyone you may run into. And yes, this is coming from someone who needs little reminders herself!
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Some single parents starting new relationships may feel they’re climbing an uphill battle, and this flies equally for both for women as well as for men. After all, it’s hard enough for a single person to get back into the dating scene after a presumably difficult breakup, but it can be a hundred times more difficult to squeeze in a night out with another adult, what with a crazy work schedule and PTA meetings to worry about. And adding the fear of rejection due to already having a family can really put a damper on an evening, so the thought of holding back this crucial bit of information may sound tempting… at least until after a few dates, of course. Why not let him or her get to know you as a single adult first, so “dropping the bomb" won’t have as much punch.
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