PlanJam!From your screen to the scene

My last blog post was all about dumping a guy gently. Taking care of his ever-fragile ego and letting him down as easily as possible. Today is part two – dumping a girl while inflicting the smallest amount of pain possible. Being a girl myself, I’ve always thought that we ladies are more complicated than guys in this respect (and most others, come to think of it – but that’s an entirely different article). So the methods that work well with guys don’t work at all for girls…in fact, we generally want exactly the opposite.
(more…)

Unless if you’ve got a cruel sense of humor, dumping somebody you’re dating isn’t a lot of fun. But even though you’re aching with guilt about wanting to break things off, you have to remember this: it’s your right to end a relationship. In fact, it’s your responsibility. If you’re not happy in a relationship (or don’t see yourself even having a relationship with this guy) you owe it to yourself to break it off and not look back. Sounds harsh, I know, but…that’s all there is to it.
(more…)

Yes, breakups suck - there’s no polite terminology to describe the aftermath of a ruined relationship. You can cry, eat a pound of ice cream and write angry letters to your ex in your online journal, but eventually it’s time to face reality and realize life isn’t over. But what happens if you think your ex wants you back?

(more…)

When do you finally realize it's time to let go of a former flame?

…After you were thrown in a holding tank for a night because you were stalking him and his new girlfriend – oh, and you keyed his brand new Mustang convertible. Um… you may have broken the window to his apartment, too.

(more…)

Getting over someone after we dated for awhile used to be such an ordeal for me. I'd stay hold up in my small studio apartment playing these sad ass love songs, listening to their voice on my answering machine over and over, then either looking at a picture or some cheap trinket that they brought me. I was pathetic. Thank goodness I moved on from that.

(more…)

When two people are involved in a committed relationship, it doesn't take very long before all of the fun, dazzle, and romance begins to wear off. Once this happens, couples may discover that they have many differences and begin arguing and fighting. First, it should be stated that the feeling of "being in love" never lasts. This is a proven scientific fact. All of the hormones, forgetfulness, and constant thoughts of each other lasts roughly the first two years of being "in love". After that, reality sets in and people begin to see each other without the rose colored blinders – faults and all.

(more…)

There are certain times when your relationship just needs to breathe a little bit. You’re still interested in being with your partner, but things are either moving too fast or they need some space in order to work. This is not at all uncommon. Even though these situations don’t require a formal break up, you’ll still have to agree on an arrangement that will allow you to spend some time away from one another. Going through a "break" period is very difficult and it’s often a couples’ last resort. Although many won’t get through it, those who succeed will find that their relationship has become stronger than ever.

(more…)

When it's over…it's over.

There are some times when you’re in a relationship and you know it’s just not going to work. Though you want desperately to hold on for dear life as the relationship slips away, it’s never a good idea to try and force a relationship to work. Usher said it best in his song "Burn" – sometimes you just have to let it go.

(more…)

You’ve been together for a long time, but now you can’t wait to be single again. You’ve been fighting constantly, never seem to agree on anything, and the thought of spending a night together bores you terribly. To top it off, you’ve been thinking that maybe it is time to call it quits.

(more…)

There is a basic immutable truth about relationships. They either last forever or they don’t. Sorry. It is an essential part of dating education to consider that second possibility, and prepare for it.

(more…)