PlanJam!From your screen to the scene

My last blog post was all about dumping a guy gently. Taking care of his ever-fragile ego and letting him down as easily as possible. Today is part two – dumping a girl while inflicting the smallest amount of pain possible. Being a girl myself, I’ve always thought that we ladies are more complicated than guys in this respect (and most others, come to think of it – but that’s an entirely different article). So the methods that work well with guys don’t work at all for girls…in fact, we generally want exactly the opposite.
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Unless if you’ve got a cruel sense of humor, dumping somebody you’re dating isn’t a lot of fun. But even though you’re aching with guilt about wanting to break things off, you have to remember this: it’s your right to end a relationship. In fact, it’s your responsibility. If you’re not happy in a relationship (or don’t see yourself even having a relationship with this guy) you owe it to yourself to break it off and not look back. Sounds harsh, I know, but…that’s all there is to it.
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All of us are passive aggressive sometimes — even if we don’t want to admit it. There are just times in life when, though there’s something you don’t agree with (or something you don’t want to do), it’s just not worth it to come right out and say so. Sometimes you just want to take the easy road and avoid confrontation. Does your mother need to know how much you hate her corn casserole? Nah. You just push it around on your plate and pretend to eat it to keep the peace.
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So you’ve gone on the required number of dates, explored each other physically, and established a real mental and emotional connection. The next step? You guessed it…it’s time to go exclusive. How exciting!
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Some things never change: women are always wondering when it’s the right time to get physical… and if today is “too soon”. And guys are always wondering just how to convince her that the right time was yesterday… so they’d better start getting caught up. But who’s right? When is it the right time?
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Ah, sex for the first time with a new partner. Isn’t it wonderful? Unfortunately, it’s not always. No matter how attracted you are to somebody, sometimes things just don’t click in the bedroom. You lie there, vaguely disappointed…and then you hear it. “Wow, that was incredible. Was it good for you?” And your heart plummets. What the heck do you say?
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Lots of people use star signs as a guide for relationships and dating. And a lot of other people think that it's, well…a little crazy. But who’s right?
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All men are pigs! Okay, okay… they’re really not. In fact, most of them are wonderful, faithful partners. But when you suspect that your boyfriend or husband is cheating on you, it sure feels like all men are pigs. And even worse, it feels like your head’s going to explode with all the choices you have to make. Do you confront him? Cut and run? Or do you sit quietly in torture, waiting for the moment to explode?
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Back in the 90’s I remember a movie coming out called ‘He Said, She Said’ with Kevin Bacon. I’ve never seen the movie, but I do recall thinking it was a great title and a great idea for someone to capitalize on by either writing a book or writing a screenplay based on the way men and women can see a similar situation, but somehow see it in a completely different way.
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Some of us have problems throwing things away. Like my mother and her habit of saving things for possible future re-use, like old plastic water bottles or quirky purses that might possibly come back into fashion some day.
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