PlanJam!From your screen to the scene

Everyone goes through a period in their relationship where things seem to sour. Maybe your partner doesn't seem interested in spending time with you anymore, or perhaps he's so focused on other obligations he doesn't have time for you. Before you pack your bags and get the heck out of dodge, you should know that this type of behavior can actually be normal in a long-term relationship. I know – shocker, right?

(more…)

You've been in a relationship for a moment and are pretty sure about your feelings. You're in love and you're dying to tell that person, but you don't want to be the first one to say it and you're quite sure that given the right moment, they will admit their feelings. A few weeks or even a month has gone by and they haven't said anything. Afraid that you are going to burst, you say those 3 magic words–I love you, only to hear back those 2 dreaded ones, thank you.

(more…)

If you've ever been in a relationship with a possessive partner, you'll completely understand the following scenario. About two years ago, I met a man through a mutual friend of ours. I didn't notice any red flags. This man seemed, LITERALLY, perfect, which perhaps was a red flag in and of itself.

(more…)

Have you ever asked the question or even been asked the question, should I buy the person I just started dating a gift for the holidays and if yes, what to buy? Or what if you’ve been dating for close to a year and the holidays are coming around. Are you also confused and not sure what the holiday gift etiquette should be?

(more…)

It's funny (or maybe not) but I've been hearing the word selfish a lot. Some of my friends have been complaining (some in serious relationships and some married) about it and I don't think it's mainly an issue with the men, but also with the women being selfish (although I would like to think it is always the men.)

(more…)

When do you finally realize it's time to let go of a former flame?

…After you were thrown in a holding tank for a night because you were stalking him and his new girlfriend – oh, and you keyed his brand new Mustang convertible. Um… you may have broken the window to his apartment, too.

(more…)

At one point during your romantic history, you've undoubtedly encountered a partner that, when you try to end the relationship, refuses to accept it. As frustrating as that can be, it's important to consider your former partners behavior and why they aren't able to let go.

But how are you reacting to their behavior?

(more…)

Getting over someone after we dated for awhile used to be such an ordeal for me. I'd stay hold up in my small studio apartment playing these sad ass love songs, listening to their voice on my answering machine over and over, then either looking at a picture or some cheap trinket that they brought me. I was pathetic. Thank goodness I moved on from that.

(more…)

The word unconditional is defined as; not conditional or limited, absolute, unqualified and unconditional surrender and I believe when we're falling in love we are doing so; absolutely, unqualified and definitely unconditionally – surrendering ourselves.

But is there a limit when it comes to unconditional love, and when we do add those limitations, can we really use the word unconditional?

(more…)

Not every great relationship starts with a neighbor in the apartment next door. Sometimes they don't even have to live in the same city. Example: Say for instance you're on vacation in a tropical paradise. One evening while visiting the nightclubs, you meet someone. Immediately there is an attraction, but hours later as the sun rises, you realize that this person has a lot more going on than looks. They're smart, funny, successful and most of all single; basically the many assets you've been looking for in a mate.

(more…)