PlanJam!From your screen to the scene

Everyone wants to know how to attract the man or woman of his or her dreams. However, when it comes to attracting the perfect mate, you may be surprised to discover that you should begin by focusing on yourself. First, if you don’t have a clear understanding of who you are, what you like, or where you are headed in life, it will be impossible to attract other people. Before you can attract someone who is your complement, you must first develop your own individual characteristics and attain your own dreams, goals, and visions.

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One of the emotions that most couples experience at some point in their relationship is jealousy. Jealousy may best be described as an emotion that arises when one person feels that someone else is giving the attention they deserve to another person. In addition to attention, a partner may feel jealous if his or her partner gives time, love, or affection to someone else. Jealousy can become a problem in a relationship, as the partner who is feeling jealous begins to dominate and control their partner’s behavior. Additionally, jealousy is caused when one person perceives a threat to the stability of their relationship, and they may begin to act in inappropriate ways to try to remove the threat. This is when the actions of a jealous partner may begin to cross the lines and become obsessive.

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When two people enter a relationship, there is one thing that they will bring with them – baggage. Though at first, the feelings of love may be strong and overwhelming, it doesn’t take very long before those feelings wear off and you begin to see each other for whom you really are. When this happens, dialogue and communication begins to change. At first, the two of you may never utter an unflattering word or remark to each other, however after time, you’ll find that you’ll know exactly how to push each other’s buttons. This is a simple fact of relationships. The better you know each other, the deeper your communication will be, and the easier it will be to trigger sensitive areas that each partner has.

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Today, infidelity is more prevalent than ever before. When someone finds the person that they believe is their soul mate, it can be devastating to discover that their trust has been betrayed. This betrayal typically occurs in the form of an affair and many relationships have been permanently destroyed when they discover that one person has been unfaithful. However, the Internet and modern technology has added many dimensions to the meaning of the words, "unfaithful" or "affair".

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There's no denying the simple truth that women talk more than men. Women are constantly begging men to open up or share their feelings, while men typically want to be left alone and wish the woman would stop talking so frequently. However, when it comes to open communication between couples, there is one subject that may have serious implications to the stability of your relationship-frequent talk about "the ex".

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When two people are involved in a committed relationship, it doesn't take very long before all of the fun, dazzle, and romance begins to wear off. Once this happens, couples may discover that they have many differences and begin arguing and fighting. First, it should be stated that the feeling of "being in love" never lasts. This is a proven scientific fact. All of the hormones, forgetfulness, and constant thoughts of each other lasts roughly the first two years of being "in love". After that, reality sets in and people begin to see each other without the rose colored blinders – faults and all.

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It is unrealistic to think that you will never have arguments in your relationship. A relationship consists of two different people, with separate sets of opinions, values, and belief systems. It is unavoidable that at some point in your relationship, you will encounter disagreements and arguments. The most important aspect to consider is not how to avoid arguing and disagreements, but rather how can you handle them effectively and fight fair.

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It's one of the most common remarks heard after a breakup, "I think it would be best if we were friends." However, when it comes to remaining friends after a breakup, many wonder if it is really possible. The simple truth is that many times, breakups involve emotional hurts. There could be infidelity, anger, sadness, or unresolved issues at work, and all of these can put a serious strain on a future friendship. Also for a friendship to work, both parties must agree that they want to continue in this direction. Sometimes one party may be sincere in wanting to remain friends, while the other person may not be ready for a friendship. If the break up is causing a great deal of emotional stress or pain, they may feel that the best course of action is to stay a safe distance away from the other person.

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Today, many people succumb to the pressures of working and maintaining a home, and time for leisurely activities tends to fall to the backside. There is no doubt about the fact that people need to work. Without hard work and taking the time to ensure that you perform your job well, you will never succeed in life. To be a hard worker takes time, there’s no questioning that. Staying busy and active are qualities that employers look for and can ultimately result in promotion. On the job, it is a good thing to stay busy, work extra hours, and ensure that your job is performed thoroughly and efficiently. However, there is a point when simple "busyness" becomes obsession.

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Admit it, you’ve been jealous at one time or another. In fact, a little bit of jealousy is normal and a sign of a healthy relationship. If anyone is in a committed relationship and didn’t feel a pang of jealousy here or there, it could be a sign that something was wrong. However, there is a point where jealousy can become severe, possessive, and border line dangerous. Every relationship must be built on trust for it to thrive, and unfortunately, when one partner becomes extremely jealous, there is a loss of trust and many problems may arise in the relationship.

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