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You may have heard the old cliché; "Nice guys finish last" coupled with the thought that all women are interested in "bad boys" and wonder where that leaves you. Let's remove some of the mystery here; it really is unfair to the male species that have no idea if they should behave like James Dean or Ritchie Cunningham. The truth of the matter is that women want men who are nice to them, but know how to hold their own when they are around other males. More specifically, women want a man that is a "nice" guy when it comes to issues such as marriage, raising a family, treating a woman with respect, but they don't want to marry a man who is so "nice" that he acts like a wimp, or can't hold his own. They also want to know that a man is "tough enough" to protect their woman if she is in a dangerous or threatening situation.

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When a couple first falls in love, they are convinced that their mate is perfectly flawless. They have no blemishes, no faults, and are perfect through and through. However, it doesn't take very long before the sparkle starts to lose its shine and the true nature begins to surface. Often, in retrospect, it becomes easy to recognize that the flaws were there all along, but were simply ignored.

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When it comes to dating, many don't often think of the importance of emotional intelligence. However, just like regular intelligence, emotional intelligence often impacts the choices, decisions, and reactions made within a relationship; they are also a very good way to determine how successful a relationship will be.

Emotional Intelligence may best be described as the ability to handle, control, and manage one's emotions in a healthy manner. Emotional Intelligence also includes the ability to handle other people's emotions as well. People with low Emotional Intelligence may be more difficult to get along with in a relationship. Without the knowledge or understanding of their partner's feelings or point of view, those with low Emotional Intelligence often make decisions that are detrimental to a relationship

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When it comes to sex, it's important that both members enter into all aspects of their relationship with a healthy and positive attitude. However, no one is positive every day, and it's only a matter of time before doubt, low self esteem, and negativity may cause issues to arise.

One area in particular, where low self-image can wreak havoc in a relationship, is when men struggle with self esteem issues regarding sex. This may be due to comments that their partner has made, issues that existed in previous relationships, or simply a poor self-image that the man has imagined. However, despite the cause, there is no doubt that low self esteem can negatively affect the way a man performs sexually.

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So you've been dating for several months and now you are talking about getting married. Your friends and family ask you if you've lost your mind and you respond with stars in your eyes, "But we're in love…".

As the word love rolls off of your tongue you wonder for a brief moment if your relationship is moving too fast, and you quickly turn to thoughts of your wedding gown, potential bridesmaids, and wonder what your engagement ring will look like.

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You’ve heard about long distance relationships, but how about long distance marriages? Well, that’s exactly what our friends and family members who are serving in the military are experiencing. There is no question that serving in the military takes a toll on everyone, but for those who are married or whose significant other is deployed over seas, the toll can be wearisome. The key to making your military long distance relationship last is communication.

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What would you say if I told you that nearly 50% of all couples that break up, consider dating their ex again? Maybe you’ve been in this situation, or are contemplating it right now. It’s easy to see why dating your ex is an alluring concept. It’s familiar, you have history together, and there was a time where the both of you were in love. In fact, maybe you’re thinking that your whole break up was a mistake – an immature flight of reason and passion that couldn’t be resolved. You think, "Maybe, its worth another try. Maybe, this time it will work."

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There are basically two different scenarios that involve talking with your ex. One is when you and your ex have children together and need to co-parent. The other is when you and your ex continue to speak because of unresolved issues or if both of you are seeking a possible reconciliation. However, one thing is certain – talking to your ex can be an emotionally overwhelming experience.

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There's no doubt about it, rejection hurts. When it comes to dating and relationships, one thing is as certain as death and taxes – you will experience rejection. Rejection comes in all different shapes and sizes, just like the instrument that delivers it. Whether it is that pretty woman in the bar that you approached, you know- the one who turned her nose up and walked away – or whether it was your boyfriend whom you discovered wasn't spending his late night working hours alone, rejection hurts.

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You’ve done it! You found the person of your dreams. You’ve never been happier; in fact, you think it might be love. Only there’s a little problem, your friends can’t stand him or her. There comes a time when everyone has to face this dilemma- true love or friendship. In fact, it seems that once a relationship becomes serious, friends immediately begin to raise flags of protest demanding that you stop seeing each other. It’s actually really simple – friends get jealous of the time and attentions spent away when one falls in love.

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