PlanJam!From your screen to the scene

If you’ve seen the classic Ben Stiller movie, "Meet the Parent" then you are familiar with how bad things can go wrong when it’s time to meet the family of your significant other. Many men find that it is an awkward situation, meeting their girlfriend’s father, and you should be prepared to answer some questions. Hopefully, you won’t be bombarded with an inquisition like the one hurled at Gaylord Focker, but chances are your will need to be on your toes.

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There is nothing more romantic than being proposed to. Little girls spend countless hours daydreaming about the day that they will grow up and fall in love. Not only do they imagine a Cinderella romance, but they also spend a great deal of time wondering what the proposal will be like. It is due to this reason that every man should pay careful consideration to the way in which he proposes.

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You've been dating for a long time and now you're thinking about moving in together. This is a big step and one that should be taken with a lot of thought and preparation. Long gone are the days where people waited until they were married before moving in together. In fact, many people find that moving in together before marriage is a way to find out what someone is like. The fact is, that when a couple first falls in love, hormones take over and it's often difficult to see each other's faults. However, after the "falling in love" effect wears off, (and it always does) reality sets in and you begin to see each other through – not so rose colored – eyes. In fact, characteristic traits that may have been present all along, begin to glare at you and you wonder, how you could have missed such an obvious character flaw.

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Compatibility is an important element in any relationship. From the time your eyes first meet until saying, "I do", the importance of compatibility cannot be overlooked. Compatibility is more than the essential "first attraction"; compatibility encompasses everything from physical prowess and attraction to personality types. I’m sure that you have heard it said, "Opposites attract" and though this is true, the saying may be better quoted as, "Opposites attract, but compatibility makes it last". Often times, a couple will find a number of reasons to begin a relationship, only to learn further down the road that they are incompatible; after this realization is made, the relationship subsequently ends.

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There are certain times when your relationship just needs to breathe a little bit. You’re still interested in being with your partner, but things are either moving too fast or they need some space in order to work. This is not at all uncommon. Even though these situations don’t require a formal break up, you’ll still have to agree on an arrangement that will allow you to spend some time away from one another. Going through a "break" period is very difficult and it’s often a couples’ last resort. Although many won’t get through it, those who succeed will find that their relationship has become stronger than ever.

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Where you choose to take your girlfriend on her birthday should depend on the types of things she enjoys. It’s important that you listen closely during conversations to hear her mention something she hasn't done or wants to do; this could be the perfect time to embark on this experience. If she hasn’t mentioned anything recently, think back to when you first met and try to recall your discussion. In any event, she’ll be pleasantly surprised and super grateful that you listened to her and acted on that situation.

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When it's over…it's over.

There are some times when you’re in a relationship and you know it’s just not going to work. Though you want desperately to hold on for dear life as the relationship slips away, it’s never a good idea to try and force a relationship to work. Usher said it best in his song "Burn" – sometimes you just have to let it go.

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Making something personalized for that special someone can go a long way while leaving a lasting impression. Taking your time to create something personal really showcases your extreme care, attention, and love for an individual. Whether it’s for a birthday, holiday or just because – these types of gifts can be special for anyone. For instance, a scrapbook can be a great way to reminisce on all the good times you had together. Include your favorite pictures, movie stubs, and/or personal items that remind you of certain events; package these memories and enjoy them together from time to time. A scrapbook can be a great gift for both men and women.

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Everyone's definition of cheating is different. Therefore, it’s important that you address this topic as your relationship develops. Discussing your thoughts on cheating in advance – whether you’ve been cheated on or have cheated in the past, how it makes you feel, etc., will help you grow in a relationship. Cheating can encompass flirting, a kiss or just sex – hence, you should get the facts straight from the beginning!

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You and your significant other recently ended the relationship. You’re hurt, sad, angry, and just don’t know how you will ever get over the break up. There are very few things in life that can be as painful as a broken heart. So what should you do when faced with such a difficult time in your life?

The first thing any break up will do is cause emotional and mental distress. Therefore, the best thing to do is to talk to somebody about what you’re going through and how you’re feeling. Venting out will help to release all the built-up stress, anger, sadness, and worries. If you find yourself uncomfortable speaking to somebody, write it down on a sheet of paper, in a personal diary or journal. The worst thing you can do is to internalize all of the negative feelings. It is so important to just let it all out.

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