Is Jealousy Ruining Your Relationship?
Admit it, you’ve been jealous at one time or another. In fact, a little bit of jealousy is normal and a sign of a healthy relationship. If anyone is in a committed relationship and didn’t feel a pang of jealousy here or there, it could be a sign that something was wrong. However, there is a point where jealousy can become severe, possessive, and border line dangerous. Every relationship must be built on trust for it to thrive, and unfortunately, when one partner becomes extremely jealous, there is a loss of trust and many problems may arise in the relationship.
I am sure that you’ve heard of, "love at first sight", or "opposites attract", or even heard the statement, "we had instant chemistry". If you’ve ever wondered if there was anything scientific to prove any of these declarations you may be surprised to learn that there are. Many scientific studies are showing that hormones play a strong role in the early stages of a relationship. When couples first fall in love, a number of hormones are on the rise. These hormones elevate feelings of pleasure and explain why couples in love can only think about each other and feel as if they're walking on air.
You may have heard the old cliché; "Nice guys finish last" coupled with the thought that all women are interested in "bad boys" and wonder where that leaves you. Let's remove some of the mystery here; it really is unfair to the male species that have no idea if they should behave like James Dean or Ritchie Cunningham. The truth of the matter is that women want men who are nice to them, but know how to hold their own when they are around other males. More specifically, women want a man that is a "nice" guy when it comes to issues such as marriage, raising a family, treating a woman with respect, but they don't want to marry a man who is so "nice" that he acts like a wimp, or can't hold his own. They also want to know that a man is "tough enough" to protect their woman if she is in a dangerous or threatening situation.
When a couple first falls in love, they are convinced that their mate is perfectly flawless. They have no blemishes, no faults, and are perfect through and through. However, it doesn't take very long before the sparkle starts to lose its shine and the true nature begins to surface. Often, in retrospect, it becomes easy to recognize that the flaws were there all along, but were simply ignored.
When it comes to dating, many don't often think of the importance of emotional intelligence. However, just like regular intelligence, emotional intelligence often impacts the choices, decisions, and reactions made within a relationship; they are also a very good way to determine how successful a relationship will be.