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Establishing an Attraction vs. Making a Connection

by Karen Talavera

Ever been in a relationship where, even though the physical side of things was great (hey, even mind-blowing), you just didn’t click with your partner on a non-physical level? Of course you have – we all have (haven’t we?). This is the kind of relationship that results from letting a physical attraction take its course...and ignoring the fact that there’s no real connection. And, hey, it’s a lot of fun. Even if it’s temporary.

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Answering the Dreaded "Was it Good for You?" When it Wasn't

by Karen Talavera

Ah, sex for the first time with a new partner. Isn’t it wonderful? Unfortunately, it’s not always. No matter how attracted you are to somebody, sometimes things just don’t click in the bedroom. You lie there, vaguely disappointed...and then you hear it. “Wow, that was incredible. Was it good for you?” And your heart plummets. What the heck do you say?

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Your Five First Steps When You Think He's Cheating

by Karen Talavera

All men are pigs! Okay, okay… they’re really not. In fact, most of them are wonderful, faithful partners. But when you suspect that your boyfriend or husband is cheating on you, it sure feels like all men are pigs. And even worse, it feels like your head’s going to explode with all the choices you have to make. Do you confront him? Cut and run? Or do you sit quietly in torture, waiting for the moment to explode?

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Flirting Tips for the Newly Single

by Karen Talavera

You’re free! Maybe you’re over-the-moon about having been let loose from your ex. Or maybe you’re crying into your double-chocolate fudge chunk every night. But no matter how you feel about the end of a relationship, the fact is…it’s over. It’s time to move on. But especially if you’ve just come out of a long-term relationship, moving on is not the cake-walk your girlfriends try to make it sound. It’s hard! You’re not used to the awkward, quivery excitement of meeting men and going on first dates. And you’re not used to flirting with them, either – you may have even forgotten how.

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Should I Ask Her Out?

by Karen Talavera

“Just do it.” “Jump right in, the water’s fine.” “Get busy livin’, or get busy dyin’.” There are about a thousand clichéd phrases thought up by the oh-so-wise to encourage you to just…take a chance in life. But if you’re sitting in a bar, palms sweating and heart pounding, your mind wrestling with itself about whether or not to ask out that pretty blonde who’s been glancing at you all night, “take a chance” doesn’t usually feel like the most appealing option. “Play it safe,” probably sounds better. That and, “order another beer and then go home.”

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