My aunt used to love giving my cousins and me dating tips. One of her favorite suggestions was for us to go down to the Bowery in New York City, find a guy, and clean him up. Her rationale was… you never know. Some of those guys could be just down on their luck and once you clean them up, you might end up with a winner. Well… I didn't follow my aunt's advice. There just seemed to be too many other options for a girl back then. Today, I'm not so sure and once in awhile I consider her advice, but that's not the point of this article.
It's funny (or maybe not) but I've been hearing the word selfish a lot. Some of my friends have been complaining (some in serious relationships and some married) about it and I don't think it's mainly an issue with the men, but also with the women being selfish (although I would like to think it is always the men.)
One of my close friends is more than a few years older than I am. Because she was happily married for many years and has raised amazing kids, many single women seek her advice. Until recently I wasn't one of them. Let me back up. I never thought her advice applied to me until recently.
I'm sure we've all heard this statement many times – "He completes me" or "I won't feel whole until I meet that special person." I used to be one of those women who believed I would not be a complete person without a husband or having a child. This idea came more from the media and the way they portrayed the role of women which was strange because it was not the role my parents had created.
You do everything together. You like the same movies, food, have the same sense of humor and many similar little quirks. A day doesn't go by where you haven't spoken to each other at least 3 to 4 times a day about absolutely nothing and they're usually the last person you talk to at night.
Whenever something amazing happens or you've had a piss-poor day, they're the first person you call. You can't wait to call them and complain about your current boyfriend or girlfriend because they don't understand you at all. Whom am I talking about? Your best friend!
When do you finally realize it's time to let go of a former flame?
…After you were thrown in a holding tank for a night because you were stalking him and his new girlfriend – oh, and you keyed his brand new Mustang convertible. Um… you may have broken the window to his apartment, too.
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Welcome back and congratulations on taking your first step to leaving the bars and testing new waters, and no, De Nile does not count.
Despite the unsettling facts discussed in series debut of the impossible environment the bar creates for romance, it is not to say that we don’t have much more promising locales. In fact, instead of the tired query of “Where else I can go to meet someone?” I challenge you to consider “What else you can do to meet someone in or out of a bar?”
Why is it that there is always a sense of excitement when we get ready for a night on the town? A bubbly anticipation as we zip our dresses, button our blouses, spray the cologne, tousle the hair. It's not as if we are going out to that same bar that we've been frequenting for the last 5 years, for the first time! The floors are still sticky from spilled drinks and foot traffic, the doorman is still on a power trip and the same drunk teenager with a fake I.D is always dancing on the table in the corner for no good reason. Yet, weekend after weekend, we rally at the house, donning our party apparel, high fives all around and a silent expectation brewing in our well dressed bodies. But, for what?
I've had my fair share of horrible dates – who hasn't? Before, I'd usually suffer through them in silence, making small talk and pretending to laugh at their less-than-humorous jokes.
Eventually, I started to realize that not only was I making myself miserable; I was leading the poor sap on! I can't tell you how many times guys have called me after a first date, only to realize after the 17th call I had no desire to go out with them again…
Daphne Brogdon is excited about starting conversations by saying out loud what she's thinking. Daphne has appeared on numerous television series, showcasing her range of talent which includes improv, celebrity interviews, and relationship advice from a woman's perspective. She is mom to two-year-old Vivien, and stepmom to her chef-husband Mark Peel's three kids. Get in touch or follow 
Welcome back and congratulations on taking your first step to leaving the bars and testing new waters, and no, De Nile does not count.
Why is it that there is always a sense of excitement when we get ready for a night on the town? A bubbly anticipation as we zip our dresses, button our blouses, spray the cologne, tousle the hair. It's not as if we are going out to that same bar that we've been frequenting for the last 5 years, for the first time! The floors are still sticky from spilled drinks and foot traffic, the doorman is still on a power trip and the same drunk teenager with a fake I.D is always dancing on the table in the corner for no good reason. Yet, weekend after weekend, we rally at the house, donning our party apparel, high fives all around and a silent expectation brewing in our well dressed bodies. But, for what?