← PlanJam.comArchived blog, 2006–2008

Posts by Karen Talavera

Identifying a Passive Aggressive Partner

by Karen Talavera

All of us are passive aggressive sometimes -- even if we don’t want to admit it. There are just times in life when, though there’s something you don’t agree with (or something you don’t want to do), it’s just not worth it to come right out and say so. Sometimes you just want to take the easy road and avoid confrontation. Does your mother need to know how much you hate her corn casserole? Nah. You just push it around on your plate and pretend to eat it to keep the peace.

Read the rest of this entry »

Is This Just a Friendly Outing, or a Hot Date?

by Karen Talavera

Most of the time, it’s pretty clear when you’re being asked out for a date. The guy or girl in question is pink-cheeked and nervous, and the situation makes it clear that this is about romance...not finding a new buddy who likes Star Wars as much as you do. But occasionally you can go out with somebody who either hasn’t made it clear whether or not this is a date...or, even worse, doesn’t seem to realize that you asked him or her out on a date instead of just a friendly outing.

Read the rest of this entry »

Establishing an Attraction vs. Making a Connection

by Karen Talavera

Ever been in a relationship where, even though the physical side of things was great (hey, even mind-blowing), you just didn’t click with your partner on a non-physical level? Of course you have – we all have (haven’t we?). This is the kind of relationship that results from letting a physical attraction take its course...and ignoring the fact that there’s no real connection. And, hey, it’s a lot of fun. Even if it’s temporary.

Read the rest of this entry »

Answering the Dreaded "Was it Good for You?" When it Wasn't

by Karen Talavera

Ah, sex for the first time with a new partner. Isn’t it wonderful? Unfortunately, it’s not always. No matter how attracted you are to somebody, sometimes things just don’t click in the bedroom. You lie there, vaguely disappointed...and then you hear it. “Wow, that was incredible. Was it good for you?” And your heart plummets. What the heck do you say?

Read the rest of this entry »

Your Five First Steps When You Think He's Cheating

by Karen Talavera

All men are pigs! Okay, okay… they’re really not. In fact, most of them are wonderful, faithful partners. But when you suspect that your boyfriend or husband is cheating on you, it sure feels like all men are pigs. And even worse, it feels like your head’s going to explode with all the choices you have to make. Do you confront him? Cut and run? Or do you sit quietly in torture, waiting for the moment to explode?

Read the rest of this entry »

Flirting Tips for the Newly Single

by Karen Talavera

You’re free! Maybe you’re over-the-moon about having been let loose from your ex. Or maybe you’re crying into your double-chocolate fudge chunk every night. But no matter how you feel about the end of a relationship, the fact is…it’s over. It’s time to move on. But especially if you’ve just come out of a long-term relationship, moving on is not the cake-walk your girlfriends try to make it sound. It’s hard! You’re not used to the awkward, quivery excitement of meeting men and going on first dates. And you’re not used to flirting with them, either – you may have even forgotten how.

Read the rest of this entry »