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Answering the Dreaded "Was it Good for You?" When it Wasn't

by Karen Talavera

Ah, sex for the first time with a new partner. Isn’t it wonderful? Unfortunately, it’s not always. No matter how attracted you are to somebody, sometimes things just don’t click in the bedroom. You lie there, vaguely disappointed...and then you hear it. “Wow, that was incredible. Was it good for you?” And your heart plummets. What the heck do you say?

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Your Five First Steps When You Think He's Cheating

by Karen Talavera

All men are pigs! Okay, okay… they’re really not. In fact, most of them are wonderful, faithful partners. But when you suspect that your boyfriend or husband is cheating on you, it sure feels like all men are pigs. And even worse, it feels like your head’s going to explode with all the choices you have to make. Do you confront him? Cut and run? Or do you sit quietly in torture, waiting for the moment to explode?

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He Said, She Said

by Sheilah Brooks

Back in the 90’s I remember a movie coming out called ‘He Said, She Said’ with Kevin Bacon. I’ve never seen the movie, but I do recall thinking it was a great title and a great idea for someone to capitalize on by either writing a book or writing a screenplay based on the way men and women can see a similar situation, but somehow see it in a completely different way.

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Surprise Weekend Getaway Planning

by Lori Dake

Now that the weather is in a much more cooperative mood but still off season, many of us are really itching to get out of the house and just do something, anything, to just shake the chill off! But, that nasty little aspect of Life always seems to get involved: you know the one - the one that mandates we show up for work on time, worry about feeding the kids and tending to the spring landscaping. Well, the way I see it, we are supposed to be working to live, and not the other way around, and a couple evenings away from home is not going to hurt anything. And if your better half is the one who usually handles all of the planning, even little things like calling in the pizza order, then there is no better way to reward yourself and your Event Coordinator than to drop what you're doing and, as my dad liked to put it, "go blow the stink off ya!"

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The Need To Feel Appreciated

by Lori Dake

So you slaved all day to surprise your guy with a fabulous meal. You made his absolute favorite food, and you even remembered to compliment it with a nice wine. But when he sat down to eat, he didn’t even seem to notice and just shoveled it in. Or perhaps you fought with every ticket broker in town to get the most primo seats for the concert of the year, and all she did was bitch about being ten minutes late for the opening act and about the escapades of that floozy in the row behind you two. And of course, there is always the classic of the forgotten anniversary or birthday – wow, that never seems to go out of style! In all of these situations, the one who went out of the way to do something nice for the other half has been left with feeling rather stung, and rightly so. But at the same time, you know he or she honestly didn’t mean anything by it, so you let it slide, hoping the next time you do something nice, and the extra effort will get noticed.

But will it really?

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