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Ten Almost Surefire Signs He Likes You

by Karen Talavera

Sometimes romantic relationships are clear as glass. You see each other, feel a mutual interest, go on a date, and sit back as things take off from there. There's never much ambiguity about what your romantic intentions are for each other. And while that easy clarity is always nice, unfortunately you don't always get it. Especially when you develop romantic feeling for a friend, a friend of a friend, or a long-time acquaintance, it can be difficult to tell when the relationship shifts.

Sure, you like him, but...does he like you? While there are a ton of different ways to tell if somebody you know is beginning to have romantic feelings for you, there are a few that are particularly easy to spot. All you have to do is keep an eye out.

Here are ten almost surefire ways to tell.

  1. He brags or shows off around you. If he catches your eye while mentioning how much money he makes, or how defined his abs are, or some other silly male thing, he's begging for you to admire him.
  2. He's nervous around you. He tends to fidget and sweat, or stumble over his words when he talks to you. Do you often catch him staring in your direction, only to look quickly away when you meet his gaze? That's a pretty clear sign he's interested.
  3. He listens. When you're part of the same conversational group, he stops his own conversations to listen to you talk.
  4. His friends know who you are. If you don't even know the names of a guy's friends, but they know just who you are, it may very well mean that he's been talking about you.
  5. He seems jealous. You catch him looking intensely in your direction, or he comes over to interrupt your conversation when you're talking to other men.
  6. He's there. He tends to show up at places he thinks you'll be, or events that he has reason to think you'll attend. If you start seeing him more often than before without any discernable reason, he may very well be doing it on purpose.
  7. He looks for commonalities. In conversation, he tends to search out common interests and traits, and works to bring them to your attention.
  8. His friends tease him. If his friends (especially his guy friends) tease him and make pointed comments when you are there, it means he's been talking to them about how he feels about you.
  9. He engages. He remembers things you say, and laughs at your stupid jokes - even though they're terribly unfunny.
  10. He makes eye contact. He maintains eye contact when he talks to you.

3 Responses to “Ten Almost Surefire Signs He Likes You”

  1. if you are mutual friends with a guy you like's close guy friend and the friend teases you about liking the guy what does that mean?

  2. the guy i like knows i like him but im not sure he likes me back. he brought it up before but never gave me a straight answer. how do i know he likes me i think he does but im still not sure??

  3. OMG!!! There is this guy i sorta like and he always brags about himself. He said his dad lets him have whatever he wants even a girlfriend (P. S. we r in fifth grade)! Then he said he had a cheerleader girlfriend. And when i talk to him, or nag about the five bucks he owes me, he usuallly always looks me in the eye directly without looking away. He always tries to be funny and always comes to me and nobody else for money even though i dont have any. If i cry, he would make a big deal out of it. Help???

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