I'm sure we've all heard this statement many times – "He completes me" or "I won't feel whole until I meet that special person." I used to be one of those women who believed I would not be a complete person without a husband or having a child. This idea came more from the media and the way they portrayed the role of women which was strange because it was not the role my parents had created.
You do everything together. You like the same movies, food, have the same sense of humor and many similar little quirks. A day doesn't go by where you haven't spoken to each other at least 3 to 4 times a day about absolutely nothing and they're usually the last person you talk to at night.
Whenever something amazing happens or you've had a piss-poor day, they're the first person you call. You can't wait to call them and complain about your current boyfriend or girlfriend because they don't understand you at all. Whom am I talking about? Your best friend!
Getting over someone after we dated for awhile used to be such an ordeal for me. I'd stay hold up in my small studio apartment playing these sad ass love songs, listening to their voice on my answering machine over and over, then either looking at a picture or some cheap trinket that they brought me. I was pathetic. Thank goodness I moved on from that.
The word unconditional is defined as; not conditional or limited, absolute, unqualified and unconditional surrender and I believe when we're falling in love we are doing so; absolutely, unqualified and definitely unconditionally – surrendering ourselves.
But is there a limit when it comes to unconditional love, and when we do add those limitations, can we really use the word unconditional?
I remember when I started telling a few of my friends that I had made a decision to be celibate until marriage. A few of them laughed and I don't mean a little chuckle. They hollered, even mocked and then looked at me as if I were crazy. One even told me that his wife had tried to use that while they were dating and he wasn't having it. I told him how very supportive and respectful he was of her decision. Hopefully he heard my sarcasm.
No two ways about it, we are led by our physical desires. Initially, we pick each other based on how physically attracted we are to each other and if we don’t step back and catch our breath, those emotions can often cloud our thinking and get in the way of us getting to know that person. All reasoning becomes obsolete as our physical emotions take over.
Not every great relationship starts with a neighbor in the apartment next door. Sometimes they don't even have to live in the same city. Example: Say for instance you're on vacation in a tropical paradise. One evening while visiting the nightclubs, you meet someone. Immediately there is an attraction, but hours later as the sun rises, you realize that this person has a lot more going on than looks. They're smart, funny, successful and most of all single; basically the many assets you've been looking for in a mate.
How often do we discuss with our friends the type of person we’re looking for when it comes to being attracted to the opposite sex? Whether male or female, we quickly go through our mental check-list; their nationality, height, weight, type of career, bank account, physical attributes and what kind of car they drive--going on and on, blah, blah, blah.
