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Category: Dating Advice

Blind Dates

by Sheilah Brooks

Is there anyone out there who has never been on a blind date before? Better yet, is there anyone out there who has been on a successful blind date? I’ve been on about 4 or 5 blind dates and none of them really turned out to be anything special. One was a movie date. The guy had seen the movie before and chose to narrate each and every scene for me. He was special…not.

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How to Say No…and Mean It

by Denise Shively

A few years ago, I went on a date with a man that I knew I didn't have anything in common with. He took me to a nice restaurant, and then we went for a walk along the beach. Even though I knew I wasn't attracted to him, I couldn't say no when he'd asked me out. Why? I didn't know it then, but my habit of being unable to say no would dictate future relationships, to the point where I would end up hurt, miserable and ultimately alone.

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Double Standards

by Sheilah Brooks

My ex-fiance had a penchant for looking at other women when we were together and no matter how many times I would tell him it bothered me, he would continue. My thought process was that if he continued, then I would just join in the fun and do my own looking. When I shared with him my idea on joining his little hobby, he told me in strong terms that if I even turned my head to look at other men; he would cause me bodily harm. Moving on…

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Dating Your Equal

by Sheilah Brooks

My aunt used to love giving my cousins and me dating tips. One of her favorite suggestions was for us to go down to the Bowery in New York City, find a guy, and clean him up. Her rationale was… you never know. Some of those guys could be just down on their luck and once you clean them up, you might end up with a winner. Well… I didn't follow my aunt's advice. There just seemed to be too many other options for a girl back then. Today, I'm not so sure and once in awhile I consider her advice, but that's not the point of this article.

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Complete Yourself!

by Sheilah Brooks

I'm sure we've all heard this statement many times – "He completes me" or "I won't feel whole until I meet that special person." I used to be one of those women who believed I would not be a complete person without a husband or having a child. This idea came more from the media and the way they portrayed the role of women which was strange because it was not the role my parents had created.

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