None of us like it when we're not listened to...in fact, it pisses us off. Even if what you're trying to say isn't of urgent importance (or any real importance at all), when somebody doesn't listen to you, they're telling you that they don't care about what you have to say. They're telling you, basically, that they don't respect you. And it probably makes you want to hit the non-listener over the head with a heavy skillet. Maybe one full of messy, half-scrambled eggs.
When you first start a relationship, you're infatuated...you're in the honeymoon stage. Both of you are on your best behavior, and don't let too much of the bad stuff hang out for the other to see. So it can be difficult at the beginning of a relationship to figure out if you're dating a...well...a loser.
Who would have thought that this would happen now, just as it did when you were an unruly teenager? It's frustrating, it's silly, and it makes you feel like you're a pimply 15-year-old again. Yep, your parents disapprove of who you're dating. And while, as your parents, their entitled to their opinions about the people in your life, you really wish they'd just try to be as happy for you as you are.
You've met somebody new, and this man or woman seems ideal in every way. They like the same movies you do, they look at the world the same way you do. You laugh together and have amazing conversations and your chemistry is out of this world. There's only one problem. You just found out that he or she has kids... and you don't.
When I'm talking about this subject, I always feel like I'm treading over dangerous ground. Because I'm a girl who does like nice guys...and I know that other women want men to treat them decently, too. But here's something else that I think is true for most women: while we say that we want a nice guy to treat us like a princess and buy us flowers and worship us...we're kind of, well...lying. And most of us don't even realize it.
Every time I hear this famous Harry Belafonte song, it makes me think about the importance of looks in romance:
"If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you!"
I always wondered if Belafonte was married, and if so, what his wife thought of that particular ditty! Because it seems like there’s nothing in the world worse than being considered unattractive by the opposite sex. But is that actually true? Are looks really so important? Or does personality have a greater effect on attraction in the long run?
Most of the time, it’s pretty clear when you’re being asked out for a date. The guy or girl in question is pink-cheeked and nervous, and the situation makes it clear that this is about romance...not finding a new buddy who likes Star Wars as much as you do. But occasionally you can go out with somebody who either hasn’t made it clear whether or not this is a date...or, even worse, doesn’t seem to realize that you asked him or her out on a date instead of just a friendly outing.
Ever been in a relationship where, even though the physical side of things was great (hey, even mind-blowing), you just didn’t click with your partner on a non-physical level? Of course you have – we all have (haven’t we?). This is the kind of relationship that results from letting a physical attraction take its course...and ignoring the fact that there’s no real connection. And, hey, it’s a lot of fun. Even if it’s temporary.
Ah, sex for the first time with a new partner. Isn’t it wonderful? Unfortunately, it’s not always. No matter how attracted you are to somebody, sometimes things just don’t click in the bedroom. You lie there, vaguely disappointed...and then you hear it. “Wow, that was incredible. Was it good for you?” And your heart plummets. What the heck do you say?
Lots of people use star signs as a guide for relationships and dating. And a lot of other people think that it's, well…a little crazy. But who’s right?
