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Is It Doomed? How to spot the signs early on

by Ron Zvagelsky

Doomed RelationshipSo I meet this girl in my Calculus class during my sophomore year in college. You see, I was really good at Math (with numbers in General)…it was a little scary actually. In fact, I don’t think there was a single person in the entire class who liked me since I would always annihilate the grading curve. I would even catch the Asian girls giving me dirty looks when the professor announced that I received the highest grade. But that’s a whole different story. Around finals week, this girl from class approaches me and asks me for help on the final exam. I’m a nice guy so I give her my phone number and tell her to call me later on in the evening after I finished with work at 8pm.

The Phone Call

I get a call from her at around 11pm (even though I told her 8pm) and she began talking. She talked, and she talked, and when she was done talking…she started over again. It was about half past midnight and she had yet to ask me a single question about myself. At the same time, I already knew her favorite food, her Father’s occupation, her dog’s nickname, and what color Burberry belt she was going to buy on the weekend. We spoke for about 5 hours (mainly she spoke) and we only discussed Math for about 30 minutes. We hung up the phone at around 4am that evening and went to sleep.

Asking Her Out

I told my friend Mike that I spoke to this girl over the phone for 5 hours and he convinced me that there was something more to her. I found out later on that he only wanted me to call her so that we could all go out as a group (she would bring along a girlfriend). After the final exam, I waked her over to her car and ended up asking her out on a date for the upcoming weekend. Fortunately for Mike, he would not be a part of this date.

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Romantic Gifts For Him

by Ron Zvagelsky

Women are always looking for the best romantic gift to give to her man. Men deserve romance as well, and ensuring that your gift expresses your heartfelt love and admiration will make your gift even more special. These gifts are perfect for birthdays, holidays, anniversaries, or any time you just want to let him know that you love him.

Here are some great ideas for romantic gifts for him:

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Romantic Gifts For Her

by Ron Zvagelsky

Whether for birthdays, Valentine’s Day, or anniversaries women love receiving romantic gifts. Unfortunately, many men often struggle with purchasing romantic gifts and may find that they would like a little help when it comes to choosing the best gift for the woman he loves.

A great way to find creative ideas for romantic gifts is to base the present on something special that you and your partner share. For instance, think back to how you first met, where you went on your first date, where you shared your first kiss, etc. If you saw a movie together, or spent your first date at the zoo, then bring these themes into your gift and your will have created a unique and romantic gift. Here are some other ideas for romantic gifts that all women love and enjoy:

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When Paying For Your Date Turns Ugly

by Ron Zvagelsky

I have always been one of those guys who pays for everything…it makes me happy when I can take a girl out and show her a good time. Over the years, the majority of girls that I have dated appreciated everything I did, while a few couldn’t care less. It has never really been about the money though, I really do have a lot to offer in a relationship and I never wanted to be remembered for only taking a girl out and spending money on her. Nevertheless, it’s still nice when someone appreciates the things you do and shows it once in a while.

For instance, I never let my girlfriend pay unless she really insists on it. And when I say insist, I mean she literally jumps in front of me at the register and shoves her credit card at the cashier. You know, I really admire her for doing that. She knows that money is a little tight these days and she genuinely wants to help out. At the same time, I can’t help but remember another girl that I dated while I was in College.

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Date Movie: "Back To The Future"

by Ron Zvagelsky

Back to the FutureBack to the Future (COMEDY - 1985 - Michael J. Fox): Marty McFly (Fox), a quintessential teenager of the Eighties, accidentally travels back in time to the 1950’s in a plutonium-powered DeLorean conceived by Dr Emmet Brown, the eccentric town scientist played by Christopher Lloyd. But things are never that simple.

When Marty inadvertently interferes with events that could erase his existence (think Mom and Pop), it’s up to him to set things straight and get back to the future.

Although people can have varying tastes when it comes to the movies they enjoy, this one really is for everyone. In fact, I don’t think I have ever met a person in my life that did not enjoy “Back to the Future” after watching it. Did you notice how I said “after watching it”?

It’s actually a really funny story. I once dated a girl (she’ll remain nameless) who refused to watch any movies that were made before the year 2000. I came over her house one evening with the film and tried to convince her to give it shot. Do you remember those crazy people (sorry for the non-PC term) that mom always told you to stay away from...? Well this was one of them. She took the entire “Back to the Future” Trilogy (unfortunately for me, I brought the entire box set) and in a crazy rage, threw it at my head. Needless to say, I went home after that with a bump on my forehead. I would have thrown it back at her head but I didn’t want to damage the set. I don’t really remember the point I was trying to make, it just seemed like an interesting story to share.

Enjoy the movie and let me know what you think.

Great Romantic Text Messages

by Ron Zvagelsky

In today’s world, people have the luxury of using the advancements of technology to further their dating and relationship needs. Whether it is meeting someone through an online dating website, or communicating via email, the Internet and other forms of technology enable people to correspond in a number of different ways. One of the newest and simplest forms of modern communication is text messaging. For those who may be unfamiliar with text messaging, let me define the process so that you will have a clear understanding exactly what text messaging is and how it works.

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Creative Ways to Say, "I’m Sorry"

by Ron Zvagelsky

Every relationship will have its ups and downs, its good times as well as bad times. Learning how to say I’m sorry can ensure that your relationship makes it through the tough and difficult times. Learning how to say, "I’m sorry" is a skill that surprisingly not everyone has learned. The failure to learn how to recognize when you are at fault in a relationship and refusing to accept your mistakes may mean the end of your partnership. Though it may be hard for some to say they are sorry, learning how to own up to their mistakes and taking responsibility for their share of arguments is crucial if you want to remain in your relationship and grow as a couple.

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The Art of Kissing

by Ron Zvagelsky

Kissing is one of the most important aspects of love making, and is often the first act that is practiced and developed. Yet, have you ever stopped to think about what constitutes the art of kissing? There are a number of different styles of kissing, ranging from the formal greeting, the family peck on the cheek, and the intimately passionate French Kiss. Though the other forms don’t require any practice or special attention, if you want to be a good lover, you will need to develop your own style for kissing.

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Speed Dating

by Ron Zvagelsky

Founded by a Jewish Rabbi, Yaacov Deyo of Aish Ha Torah, Speed Dating has become an increasingly popular way to meet new singles. The concept was founded by Rabbi Deyo to help Jewish singles meet other singles of like faith in response to too many Jewish singles marrying outside of their faith. The intention was that the couples would meet each other and make an instant connection that would ultimately lead to marriage. The plan worked and Speed Dating was born. In fact, it was so successful that SpeedDating is a registered trademark associated with Aish Ha Torah. However, Speed Dating was not to stay only within Jewish circles. Once word of this fabulous dating encounter spread, Speed Dating events began appearing across the globe.

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How To Write The Perfect Love Letter

by Ron Zvagelsky

Writing the perfect love letter is a great way to add romance to any relationship. However, if you don’t trust your writing skills or find that every time you set down with ink and paper you are at a loss for words, that doesn’t mean you can’t write a beautiful and eloquent love letter. Help is just a moment away and with a few steps you can create beautiful love letters that will truly express your heartfelt emotions.

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